MIL said I need to take better care of my husband

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I thought we could play a fun guessing game of why my MIL, without a shred of sarcasm, told me I need to take better care of my (42 year old) husband.

Winner can keep her!

Why should we ‘be kind’ to people who are twats to us? 😳 we don’t have to be kind to arse holes because one day our own children will have partners. What sort of logic is that?

Come OP what was your reply?!

Honestly this thread is very funny but I do find it very sad too. I am in my 50's and it's clear that some of the comments are coming from people my age - are women still like this with their sons? It's really pathetic.

You didn’t let him rest in bed all day when he was perfectly well, but you his wife were very poorly?! 🫣

This happened with my MIL ^ I was really I’ll and told me to get on with it and let him rest as he is ‘poorly’ - but he wasn’t 🫣😂

Oh also, you forgot to get his siblings, her other grown up children a birthday card for her son to write and send, as he never remembers himself but you were terribly ill at the time with lots going on so tot ally forgot, but it’s all your fault even though her other kids have never even wished you a happy birthday? 😂

Oh this… absolutely this

He had to 'babysit' his own child?

Should I be controlling what he eats and feeding him "the correct foods"?

OP, I'd have told her it's perfectly acceptable these days and she's needs to get more up to date with the trends!

Having seen what she said you 'failed' on in relation to your husband, her son, I would be hard pressed not to follow up with "Now that you mention it MiL, I have been meaning to have a word with you about the things that your son clearly doesn't know how to do around the home and I really didn't know how to start that conversation with you, as his mother I mean." and then reel off a list of things that your DH doesn't know or doesn't do around the home that he really should.

Would she 'get' that you're pointing out how both her and your FiL haven't prepared their son for modern life?

He got a cold? Lost weight?

Mrs Hisname would be a step up with my late MIL. She referred to me as It, as in "Would It like a cup of tea?" Obviously she couldn't actually speak to me.

Tell her its for anti bullying week.

Hard stare optional.

She thinks you dress him!!!!

Kin hell! I graciously concede that you win. Handsomely.

On a less frivolous note, I'm sorry you had to put up with that. It's funny - but by the same token it isn't 💐

I'm about to become a MI twice over. There is no way on God's green earth that I would ever treat either of the individuals my soon to be wed DCs have chosen as their life partners the way my exMIL treated me. After that, what they think about menisbup to them, but I'm not giving them any free ammunition.

Awesome thread.

Depressing this is so funny though

Also depressing that we have had a chance to change, over the years. My mother was incensed that my dad couldn’t look after himself when they got together, and made sure my db was perfectly capable and shared in duties, just like her girls. This was over 60 years ago; so it’s definitely not a generational thing! And @ghostestwiththemostest I was involved in a church (evangelical type) in the 80s, where they taught the women of the congregation that they should act like this towards their husbands! (I managed to get out, eventually).

I was sort of right (you didn't put his clothes out the night before) but I'm glad I didn't win the prize!

My late MIL told me I was to independent for my own good, I replied "Thanks for the compliment!"

My MiL once bought me a microwave for Christmas ' So I can warm his meal up when he comes in late!' There was a big presentation as if she had bought me a diamond ring! My face must have been a picture!

I chose to laugh as no point being upset with that sort of craziness. I was less amused when we announced we were having a baby and she screamed and ran into the kitchen where she started smashing dishes. That was a real low.

She told my husband I was having an affair, in front of me. Her evidence was I referred to my boss by his first name and surname, so something like Franklin Smith. My husband couldn't stop laughing as he knew my boss and it was a double barreled name and his first name was something quite different. He never told her what the joke was. To be clear I don't think using your bosses first name proves you are having an affair but I wasn't even doing that.

Telling my husband, again in front of me, that he should have married my sister not me. That did make me laugh, they'd have killed each other as personality clash doesn't even begin to do them justice.

The most embarrassing moment was launching into a speech about why she had my husband circumcised as a baby and asking if it had affected our sex life. This is bad, the fact it was in front of our teenage children made it so much worse.

Crazy doesn't begin to cover it really.

Please please put us out of our misery. What did you do/not do??

Clearly always the wife’s fault! 😂 If she took better of his needs and appreciated him… he wouldn’t have to look elsewhere.

(I can literally see my mother saying this about my brother if he ever cheated on his wife and kids)

Did he have to find the remote to switch the channel because you were too busy to pass it to him?

I love this reply so much

Socks! 😂 I’d have told her he is free to return to her house if she is that concerned!