MIL said I need to take better care of my husband

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I thought we could play a fun guessing game of why my MIL, without a shred of sarcasm, told me I need to take better care of my (42 year old) husband.

Winner can keep her!

'fact' from a survey of how many people exactly? lmao. I am Asian and I know plenty of families that aren't like that, some families that are.. just like anyone from any other ethnic background would say. Ask yourself are there any families from your background that are like that? I rest my case 😉

You won't get on top

It's more common in Asian families, it's no big deal!

Did you forget to iron his underpants`/

FIL: I can’t believe he (DH) has to make his own dinner when he’s been at work all day!

I’d been at work too. DH was making his own, quick dinner as he was off out for the evening. I was going to make mine and DCs dinner later.

FIL also used to tell me I should decorate the house myself as my DH already worked hard enough. Both of us worked and I was the only one who did housework, budget, childcare, everything else AND FIL wanted me to clean his house too (he was disabled). I said no to that as he had his own DD.

DH has since been kicked in to touch you’ll be glad to know. FIL eventually realised DH was a lazy arse!

You made fajitas

😅 I’m sure he’d have a matching pair of socks in his drawer! Silly woman, perhaps she could come around and dress him in the mornings. x

If it helps, I was told I needed to take better care of mine because he was wearing a t-shirt outside in the rain when she saw a photo of him at work... Because I obviously control what he's wearing when he's (sometimes up to 4-6) hours away from home, doing a physical job... 🙄

My guess is either you didn't open his packet of monster munch for him, or
You didn't put new batteries in the remote control & he missed the start of CBeebies

Or at least a second pair where one was red and one was blue . . . 😆

Oh come on. Give a bit of context. Very few people (MILs) walk into a room without making a major statement and without having some bee in their bonnet. And why is your husband not stepping in here? Your MIL should not be interfering in your marriage. And your DH should be standing up to her, not the mumsnet brigade.

What was your/his response????

Sounds like my mother in law had 3men in her house went to work but no help with cooking cleaning housework etc My husband when first married finished work earlier than me on a Friday and would sit in a chair waiting for me to get home .Done nothing in the flat never cleaned a bath made a bed (still bad at that chooses not to learn )In a way it was a good job his father died first because he wouldn’t do anything at home so no way would he have coped on his own and he was such a male chauvinist told me I went to work for pin money early in our marriage. I Earnt lots more than his son in charge at night of a midwifery unit (i was fuming )So no way would I have done anything for him

Her baby didn't get milk at milk time?

You didn't go running with him? And he's getting fatter? ( I got this one!)

This has to be the answer

you're 9 and half months pregnant and he had to look after the twin toddlers ON HIS OWN while you were having a C-section.

Tsk

....MIL is now buried underneath the patio.

I wear odd socks all the time. No one has ever suggested my husband needs to take better care of me!

My mum once asked me if when dh gets in from work if I takes the kids out of his way so he can relax after his hard day. I worked more hours than dh at the time!!

I just want to know what the OP’s reply to her MIL was 🤣

You remember to iron his clothes and make sure his evening meal was on time but you forgot to turn on the soft music for when he entered the house…

You don't greet him with a kiss when he comes through the door?

You don't greet him with a kiss when he comes through the door?

I do agree with some of this stuff- both people should greet each other kindly and warmly and act happy to see each other. Both people should make the home a place of peace and happiness.

I think that women who are like this to DiLs or even Dad's, are from the deeply resentful ' I suffered so you must suffer too' camp.

We have so much more control over our lives. I brought my son up 100% to be in a partnership with his DP. He could cook a roast dinner by aged 19.