How would your spouse/partner react if...

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You accidentally reversed your car into a wall and caused some scratches to the bumper? Then went to some garages to price up quotes and get booked in. You will pay for repairs. For info, it's a fairly new and decent car.

He would roll his eyes, laugh and forever skit me for it. I know this because I scraped the side of my car when turning into our drive - a manoeuvre I had done hundreds of times before...and yet...!

I do, however, know someone whose other half would go mad. I would not be married to him.

As above, mine would roll his eyes but that would be it. We've both scraped the car occasionally over years, it's just one of those things that happens.

I literally did this not long ago a few weeks after buying our car. Dh said ‘oh it’s not as bad as I thought it would be, don’t worry I’ll pay for it’. I ended up going through the insurance though as it was pretty pricey. He hasn’t brought it up since as he knows how embarrassed/upset I was about it.

My (ex) husband would have berated me endlessly, told me off for trying to deal with it, and probably not spoken to me for weeks.

How did your partner react, OP? I'm guessing not well.

My husband would ask if I was okay, by the way.

Thanks for the replies. I'm on day 2 of total silent treatment after a humongous bollocking. Thing is, he has bumped and scraped his car in the past. This is my first time!

My OH has done similar twice, last time was when the car was about a week old, really couldn't care less about them, it's not like she went out on purpose to scratch the car.

In not sure he'd react at all. If anything it would be a well done/thank you for getting it sorted.

Also, sister in law crashed her car pulling out on someone and was telling us about it last week and he was nothing but sympathetic and all "these things happen"

Mime too.
Hence ex

Made sure I was OK, made sure I wasn't spending needlessly on the repair, made fun of me forever after.

Made sure I was OK, made sure I wasn't spending needlessly on the repair, made fun of me forever after.

It's your car though, and you're going to pay for it? Very childish of him.

I would get asked if I was ok first and foremost and then he would try and stop me from feeling bad about it.

My DH’s car is riddled with bumps and scrapes. Mine isn’t. If he damaged mine I’ll be honest and say I’d be pissed off with him for his carelessness, but fleetingly, especially if he was fixing it.

My DH would probably play it down as much as possible so that if I were feeling guilty he'd show me he didn't think it was a big deal.

Once he’d made sure I was okay and no one was hurt, he’d laugh at me probably. If I was upset by it, he’d not laugh of course, but he certainly wouldn’t be annoyed. He might, however, put the brakes (pun intended) on paying to have it fixed given he and my brother are pretty handy like that.
Your husband sounds like a really nasty prick. I’d be questioning whether I wanted to be with someone who scolded me like I was a child for a simple mistake and then ignored me for days on end.

Just seen your update. He gave you a bollocking? Like you're a child? I hope you told him to fuck right off and you're reevaluation your relationship..

Hasn't asked if I'm ok or offered to help me get it sorted in any way. Just told me id better get it sorted to the original standard. I made tea after I told him and he literally took it to the other end of the table to sit away from me....

Mine would give me a hug, ask me if I intended to do it as a rhetorical type of question and then when I agreed that it was an accident would say accidents happen, and that would be the end of it.

OP are you going to discuss his reaction with your DH?

Still slagged off 15 years later but he wasn’t mad. To be fair, I paid for more of the car than he did!!!

Do you live with this current boyfriend or are you married to him?

My husband would not give a toss if I damaged my own car but ask him for a lift somewhere and he would go berzerk.

I’ve done much worse, and as a sahm too, with no independent means to pay for it. He was mildly offended that I was nervous telling him, cheered me up, took my car off to the garage to get sorted and loaned me his car in the meantime.

Mine didn’t react as rudely or abusive my (giving someone the silent treatment is abusive) when I damaged his car.

behaving like that because you’ve scratched your car is utterly ridiculous.

It took me 2 days to even work up to telling him!! He is my husband. Technically we share cars as joint money and all but I drive this one day to day as he works far away so puts the miles on an older one. I'll pay for all repairs from my own money not joint.

He would be fuming that I'd been to a garage as he is a fantastic mechanic who will move heaven and earth to work on it until perfect or if he can't he will take it to a garage of his choice. If I booked car in, took it without his knowledge I'd be as well never picking it up! It would be tainted beyond repair.