How would your spouse/partner react if...

[Dinodrivingacar]

You accidentally reversed your car into a wall and caused some scratches to the bumper? Then went to some garages to price up quotes and get booked in. You will pay for repairs. For info, it's a fairly new and decent car.

Depends which car it was. If it was our family car then he'd just call me a blind cow, take it into work and fix it (he owns a garage).

If it was one of his collectibles then he would probably go upstairs and cry silently, come downstairs, call me a blind cow, then take it into work and fix it.

DH once reversed my newly purchased car into a garage wall. He was so embarassed and apologetic, but I fell about laughing when he told me.

OP, I'm sorry your DP is being such a dick.

Silent treatment is abusive. No, it's not being given a black eye, but it is still abusive.

I'm not saying being upset and quiet is abusive. But deliberate silent treatment is.

I scrapped the whole side of a hire car once on holiday.
It was bad !
Dh hugged me and told me it was fine and only a car .He sorted it all out when we returned it and just kept telling me not to worry.
I'm so sorry Op that you're being treated this way- it's not normal in a loving relationship and feels abusive .

I'd have been scared to tell my ex. Current partner would roll eyes, huff and sort it out.

My OH once reversed into the garage with the door open - the car door!!

He never commented on anything I did after that as he knew I would be tempted to remind him of this!

I think your OH is being completely ridiculous. I would be mad as hell about his response.

That's really not normal.

Mine wouldn’t say anything much. It would be no big deal. Shit happens.

I wrote off our family car by driving into a bus. DH gave me a hug and called the insurance.
He reversed my car into a wall and split the bumper. I hugged him, checked the damage and called my friend to get it replaced - he paid.

Silent treatment isn't good op.

We have both had minor blips in our cars and both gently take the Micky out of the other.

If it was my car he'd tut and laugh and rip me for it forever (jokingly). If it was his car he'd freak out a little because its his baby but not aggressive, just mortified, and he'd be fine with me paying for the repair.

I hadn’t long passed my test and hit the car off a trolley park are at our local retail park. I phoned dh in tears and his first concern was for me and not the car” it’s just a lump of metal” was his reply when I asked if he was angry.

My dad used to react like that and it’s abusive. Dh owns a bodyshop and the worst reaction he has ever made over a scratched, dented or written off car is a sigh, whether it’s me, one of the kids or himself that have done the damage or however much it’s going to cost him to put right.

I reversed into one of those stupid bloody pillars in a multi-storey when first born was just a few months old and colicky. I was completely exhausted. Like that can’t think straight kind of exhaustion.

My husband checked that baby and I were okay, bought me some flowers and sent me to bed. He sorted the car. Yours is an arse, OP. He needs to be careful that you don’t have another accident when he’s standing nearby…

Mine wouldn't mind, he's really chilled about things like this

You are in an abusive relationship OP. Silent treatment is abuse!
So sorry.

He’d be seriously impressed I had already arranged to get it sorted! Likewise for the other way round.

Mine is the all-time world champion of unfortunate automotive events so he’s got no room to huff or blame, but my dad was a big mad tyrant and while I can say he’d have certainly went off his head at my mum even he wouldn’t have kept it going for two days. That’s disproportionate and disrespectful; it’s a fucking car! Who does he love more, you or or the car. I hope you can be reassured, there’s no justification, it’s his choice to over-react and it’s not healthy.

Mine three
hence ex.

He would roll his eyes and that would be it.

All money is joint and he earns more so there's no "I'd be paying for it", we both would.

BTW, if he's reacted any differently to this, I'd be questioning the sort of man you're with.

I properly smashed my car up and wrote it off about 2 weeks after passing my test, heavily pregnant with dc3.
He had bought me the car for Christmas to get me driving.
I called him and cried down the phone at him, he came to me and made sure I was
okay and then dealt with everything.
I have, in the last 12 years, scratched his car once. He wasn’t cross or angry, yes he was a bit unimpressed but I didn’t worry about calling him and telling him. It was an accident but my god even the smallest of scrapes
and dents can cost hundreds/thousands to fix so all these partners who are just laughing about it is quite alien to me. I don’t find it funny, It’s annoying and expensive
to fix and it’s often a result of carelessness.
We look after our cars and don’t want to be driving about in it all bashed, dented and scratched up, maybe we are fussy.
It’s absolutely not a reason to blank you for 2
days, That’s cuntish behaviour.

A car that you pay all repairs on?
Whilst he's silent tell him to fuck off, see if he replies.
Moving away at the table, nasty cunt.

My DH would probably think that these things happen and not be bothered. I managed to reverse our car into a concrete post despite having reversing sensors (was flustered taking DS to hospital) and having told him, life just went on as normal. Certainly no silent treatment.

They would tease me for a bit then offer to share the cost.

@Dinodrivingacar my best friends bloke would react like yours- I’ve told her 1000 she should leave him.