What Age Did Your Parents Become GPs?

[Lilpastry]

I ask because my parents are 55 and 65 and DHs are both 58. We aren't planning kids for about 3 years or so (been together 8, but only married 1).

Anyway, we get lots of frustrated chat (particularly from DHs parents), about time passing and them being too old to be first time grandparents and what are we waiting for etc.

However, neither of us are even 30 yet! DH will be 32 and I'll be 30 when we start trying. All going to plan, my parents will be around 58 and 68 and his will be 61. I don't see the rush, and would say these are normal ages for GPs?

56 and 54 when DB had a child, I am 65 and very unlikely to have grandchildren, DS is gay and not really interested in children, I can't say that not having grandchildren has been detrimental to my life though, it isn't something you should expect.

They were 60.

The only person who should have a say is the one with the womb.

56 and 58 .

My grandmother was 69 when my DS was born and he's now 17 and they are very close, I'm grateful they got to have that time. Dsis has a baby and there is a chance the baby won't even remember my grandmother. I never knew one grandfather and I was young when I lost the other, I wish I had had more time.

63 and my dad would have been 66

I was 56 husband 63

Both my parents were 49, I was 29 when I became a Mum, I really appreciated my Mum being fit and healthy and able to help me with child care, couldn't have done it without her. But as others have said it is a personal thing as to when you decide to have children. One of my cousins was a 13 yr old dad and became a grandad at 33 !

38 and 40.

Mid 50s. Obviously have children to suit yourself, not your PIL, but what are you waiting for? Life is short.

My mum was 45

@AvengedQuince, meeting great-grandparents is unusual in my family and friendship circle. I didn’t meet mine and nor did my H meet his. My children met one great-grandma but only just!

It's nice to know they will be enthusiastic.

My parents were .... 47 & 45. xH's were .... 57 & 53.
My grandparents became grandparents at ages ... 46, 52, 45, 48.

My friend's mom became a G-gran at 61.

I always joke that I'll be lucky to live long enough to even meet my D-GCs.

My parents were 55 and 58. DH’s parents were 70.

My mother was 50. She complained she was too young, but my brother was 25 when his eldest was born.. the same age as my mother was when he was born!
My in laws were 47 and 56.

With my child, they were 57, 57 and 66.

FIL is now 68 and was charging around soft play with my boy a couple of weeks ago… he’s got more energy than me 😂

I had four alive when I was born, one lived until I was 19 as I was a first child of a first child of a second child. Others were much older due to birth order. DS has two alive. Meeting them is not unusual in my circle.

55 and 56.

They are 69 and 70 now and definitely couldn't cope with the baby/toddler years now!

Mine were 54 and 56. My father died when he was 59 so didn't live to meet his other 5 grandchildren.

I think it’s awful and selfish they’re making these comments. Apparently FiL was badgering my DH about grandkids for years too. I had no idea - DH only told me after I fell pregnant which was wise, I would’ve been so cross! Anyway, my DM was 74 when we had our first (she had me late, then I was 35 when I had first child). In-laws were mid-late 60s. FWIW I honestly can’t imagine putting any pressure on my own children to hurry up and have kids just for my benefit!

60 and 63. In our friendship groups we were about middle of the pack. Now we’re 65 and 68, most of our friends are grandparents

Most of our friends went to university and started a family early 30s. Most of children did the same.

Ultimately it happens when it happens. Nothing to do with them. And we are retired so have time and energy to help. In my 50s I was working full time in a demanding job so would not have been able or willing to help out.
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Mid 40s for both of my parents
Mid 50s for the kids other set of grandparents

My mum will be 67, DPs parents 67 & 72.
DP and I are 38 & 41.

And I have never met anyone or even head of a grandparent in their 40’s

Absolutely love the idea that you can be too old to be a grandparent. What are they going to do, refuse the title if you have kids after they turn 60?

My parents were 61 and 63 when my son (their first grandchild) was born.

66 and 67 for my DPs
66 and 62 for my ils
60 and 62 for us

My grandma was 41
My mum was 50
I was 63

The age gap between the generations is ever increasing as the age of becoming a mother gets later. In 1986, at 30 I was the oldest in my ante natal group of 12 mums to be. Just a generation later and 30 is considered young.