What Age Did Your Parents Become GPs?

[Lilpastry]

I ask because my parents are 55 and 65 and DHs are both 58. We aren't planning kids for about 3 years or so (been together 8, but only married 1).

Anyway, we get lots of frustrated chat (particularly from DHs parents), about time passing and them being too old to be first time grandparents and what are we waiting for etc.

However, neither of us are even 30 yet! DH will be 32 and I'll be 30 when we start trying. All going to plan, my parents will be around 58 and 68 and his will be 61. I don't see the rush, and would say these are normal ages for GPs?

Both sets of grandparents are in their late 40s and very early 50s. DP and I are 27.

My parents became GPS at 49 & 50. I was 32 when we had kids but they had me when they were 17 & 18. I’m 49 now and can’t imagine being a GP.

But, she had my sister young and my sister had her kids young.

She became a Nan to mine at 56

Should add in 41 and the idea of being a Grandmother feels ridiculous at my age. I know that's biased by eldest being 8 lol but still.

Never, and there won't be any grandchildren. Frankly, one of the worst things a parent can say to their adult child is something making a fuss about becoming a grandparent - it's not their decision as to when, or even if, a grandchild might arrive. They need to butt out.

51 and 47

I would say 55 is fairly young but 65 is fairly old!

48 & 51 mine, 44&48 his. Downside is they worked throughout their childhood. My dd is currently tapping my mother up for childcare, not pregnant yet but sounding her out, she'll be mid 70's

That's crazy to me

My nan was 38 when I was born. My mum was a nan at 47.

53 and 55, they’re 58 and 60 now and still the only grandparents in their group of friends

Mum 54, dad 61

My mum had me (her oldest) at 36, so was never going to be a "young grandparent." In the end she was 68 and dad was 64. First grandchild for my in laws too, FiL was 72 and MiL 66.

She wouldn't have dared hint at having grandkids earlier - I was a junior doctor and DH had been seriously ill, so we had enough on our plates!

Anyway, we get lots of frustrated chat (particularly from DHs parents), about time passing and them being too old to be first time grandparents and what are we waiting for etc.

So your dad was an older dad and your mum and in laws were nearly 30 when you and DH were born? If they wanted to be younger grandparents then they should've had their children in their early 20s.

69 and 74

Think you’re really lucky if they are only in their 50s or early 60s! My parents were already knackered bu 70s.

49 & 51

I’m 52 and DH is 58. We’re going to be grandparents for the first time in January and we’re absolutely over the moon about it.

56, 46 and 50.
We were mid 20's when we had our first dc though, which probably nowadays is quite early, it's completely normal to start a family later on 30+. My sister and her partner are the same ages as you and yours and children aren't on their radar at all yet.

Tell them your waiting for their retirement for the free childcare 🤣

My sibling and bil both had their kids very young so both sets of parents became gp in their 40s.

We've just had ds which is our first child and my parents are now 62 and 70 and dh are both 60. They're still very involved with him and dote on him.

I think it's incredibly unfair for them to put you under pressure like that. It's your choice when you have children, noone else's. We weren't sure if we'd be able to have children and bil consistently kept score jokingly with dh as in 2 nil then 3 nil and when dh told him we were having difficulties he was mortified. People just don't think.

Early 70s. My mum had me in her mid 30s, and I had mine in my mid/late 30s. Very normal around here, some of my friends' dads are over 80 (we're early 40s).

Becoming a grandparent in your 40s sounds completely insane to me, all my friends have young children and babies!

I should have added that they are very healthy and active. The only thing that stops them having more involvement with their GC is the fact that they love to travel and spend half the year abroad.

My mam and dad were 54 and 59 when first gc came along (my niece).

My MIL had just turned 39 when our first was born last year (she had dh at 16).

DM became a grandparent to DD when she had just turned 43

@MyInduction I said this to DH, but he reminded me they fell pregnant with him within a year of meeting, got married whilst MIL was pregnant, so although they had him in their early 30s, they definitely didn't hang around! Selfishly, we are still in the enjoying holidays/our jobs/our new home phase 😳

69/70 Never occurred to me to have a child younger to please them or so they’d have more time although I only had one set of grandparents growing up and one had dementia and one was just odd so I never had a bond so I’d nothing to regret my child missing out on. Also my mum would say, apropos of absolutely nothing „don’t be having a baby and thinking I will want to look after it“.

58 - which seems very young now that DH is 60 and I’m 54, neither of us are ready to become GP! We have 2 DC in their 20s and a teenager, and with several years of work left we want some time to ourselves once we retire before we embrace being grandparents. None of our friends at similar ages are GPs.