What Age Did Your Parents Become GPs?

[Lilpastry]

I ask because my parents are 55 and 65 and DHs are both 58. We aren't planning kids for about 3 years or so (been together 8, but only married 1).

Anyway, we get lots of frustrated chat (particularly from DHs parents), about time passing and them being too old to be first time grandparents and what are we waiting for etc.

However, neither of us are even 30 yet! DH will be 32 and I'll be 30 when we start trying. All going to plan, my parents will be around 58 and 68 and his will be 61. I don't see the rush, and would say these are normal ages for GPs?

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My DM was 39, as was MIL and DSis. In the wider family there's 2 who were DGMs at 35 and 37.

Buty your parents and ILs had DC at a perfectly normal/average age and they're moaning at you for planning to do the same?

Of course, you should have DC when it's the right time for you not because the prospective GPs are getting impatient.

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but perhaps they should be concentrating on worrying about their own health so they’re in a better position when you do have children. Alternatively they could financially provide for you so you’re in a better position to have children. I suspect they won’t want to do either of those things though, so I wouldn’t worry what they think. Do what’s right for you.

My parents were in their early 70s when I had my first child, but first became grandparents in their late 50s because one of my siblings had a child at a young age.

I'm in my early 60s and my husband is in his early 70s. We are not grandparents yet and not likely to be for a good few years.

Not their call

They arent yet, but they will be 64 and 75 when my baby is born.
My dad wont be able to help out much, as his mobility wont allow him to, but it wouldnt have allowed him to even 10 years ago!
My mom is fine and absolutely looking forward to having a grandchild!

My moms best friends were first time grandmothers recently and are in their 70s

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Mine were 57 and 60, very typical ages to become GPs I think although they were some of the first of their friends. DH’s parents were slightly older, 64 and 69 - they’re still very active though.

My dad passed away before I had kids but my mum was 44 and my grandmother was 71 when my son was born. I’m 38 and would not be remotely ready to have grandchildren in 6 years (ds would only be 18). I think I’d like to be heading towards 60 really so I’m closer to retirement and able to help more.

My mother was 63 and my Dad 64. MIL was 66/67 sadly FIL had passed away by this point. All have been active grandparents. DD was first grandchild on both sides. Never had any pressure from either side for GC.

My parents where 43 and 47 when I made them gp's

I'll be 46 when ds and his gf have their first

Youngest mid-60s and oldest early 70s. You have to do what works for you both!

Mine were 56 and 59.In laws were 65 and 75

My mom was 37 and my dad 36, my sister had her baby at 18.

39 and 41. They are 61 and 63 now and have 10 grandchildren and 1 great grandchild.

First of all I think it's awful for anyone to put pressure on someone to have kids. You're purpose is not to produce grandchildren for them.

My parents have 4 kids, all in their 30s. They became grandparents at 65 and 63. They have never put pressure on any of us to have kids and they themselves didn't have kids until they were in their 30s. They are very active grandparents and look after them lots.

70 and 78, and on DH’a side 62 and 70. My parents had me late and I had DS at 34.
DH’s parents were pretty involved but at a geographical remove; mine were closer but not involved through a combination of being older and just not as active/ interested. So we did it almost ourselves, no childcare.

We can’t wait to be GPs but we have a long way to go yet.

Mine were 61, 65
DH's older - late 60's.

They shouldn't be pressuring you based on their ages, that's ridiculous. They should have had kids earlier if they wanted to be young grandparents!

Well they still enjoyed their freedom in their 20s and chose to settle down in their 30s. I think it's quite reckless to have a child with someone you barely know (a year isn't long enough) so I think you and your DH are going about this the right way! DP and I met in our very early 20s hence why I got pregnant at 26 and had a baby at just turned 27.

My parents and dh's parents were all early 50s.

Of our four parents the youngest was 58 and the oldest was 67. We had DD quite late (36) so I'm expecting we'll be well into our 60's before we're grandparents, although who knows!

76 and 74. wish they had been younger to have had more time, but they've been very involved still.

60 and 58

In laws were 57 and 55

60 and 74, only one GC, could not have been more doted upon.