What Age Did Your Parents Become GPs?

[Lilpastry]

I ask because my parents are 55 and 65 and DHs are both 58. We aren't planning kids for about 3 years or so (been together 8, but only married 1).

Anyway, we get lots of frustrated chat (particularly from DHs parents), about time passing and them being too old to be first time grandparents and what are we waiting for etc.

However, neither of us are even 30 yet! DH will be 32 and I'll be 30 when we start trying. All going to plan, my parents will be around 58 and 68 and his will be 61. I don't see the rush, and would say these are normal ages for GPs?

This! I’m surprised by the ages on here - my friends and I are in our fifties and didn’t have our children till much later. They’re in no rush to settle down and have children, and we’re all still very active in the workplace and doing our own thing - we don’t see ourselves as being old enough to be grandparents.

My parents are 40s. My DH parents are 70s. I’m glad my parents are ‘young’ it makes a big difference when it comes to our son.

The shock and outrage at the young parents/grandparents is nothing short of boring.

I for one am glad that I come from a family of young parents. If DM and DF hadn’t have had DSis when they were young, and she didn’t have DN when she was young, DF would have never met his first two grandchildren, since he died in his mid-40s.

Likewise, if I hadn’t have had my first when I was also young, DM wouldn’t have been as mobile and enjoy the time with my children like she has been able to.

That isn’t to say having children/grandchildren older is a bad thing. My own GPs were older when they had DM and in their mid-60s when I was born, and I loved having a stereotypically old granny to give me hugs and boiled sweets.

Different strokes for different folks. No need for the judgement.

When I got pregnant my Dad was 71 and Mum 68, DH mum 63 and DH Dad 65 I was 31, DH 34.
My Dad passed away when I was 21 weeks pregnant. He told me whilst he was in hospital (short sharp decline) when I said I wish I'd given him grandchildren sooner that I was an idiot for saying it, as me and DH have to live our lives for us, not some old fart😅 he was right though!

I find it more gross people think they have any right to your uterus tbh!

My parents are 51 and 57,partner’s parents are 52 and 54, this is there first grandchild.

I was 41 when my first grandaugher was born, my mum so her great grandmother was 62. I had my first at 20 , my mum was 42 and my grandmother was 64 and my daughter even has a great great grandmother when she was born but i dont know how old she was

My parents were 69 and 71. I don't think becoming grandparents in their forties would have pleased them.

But tell them all to butt out of your sex life and family planning life. So inappropriate.

My parents were 56 and 57 when they first became grandparents. DH’s parents were a good 10 years older - not very mobile or very hands on but they already got grown up GC from DH’s older siblings. My parents were very hands on with my 2 boys and they are still very active and well in their 70’s. FIL passed away a few years ago and MIL is now in a care home.

I was 30 when I had my DS1 and 33 when I had DS2 but were 46 (me) and 52 (DH) when we became Grandparents (step sons first child)

This ^^

DF was 63 DM was 55 , DB not me, if they'd waited for me they would've been 67 and 59.
Surely a lot of this friends on how young they were when they had you, DM was young, 22 when she had me so even though I was 34 before having DS she was still a relatively young grandmother. If she'd been in her thirties when she had me, she would've been close to seventy. I don't anticipate being a grandmother in my fifties because I'm nearly 40 now and have a 4 year old! If I'd had a child in my early twenties I might be expecting one sooner

Both 52. I’m 49 and have a 20 and 15 year old. 20 year old no sign of a partner so no idea if/ when I’ll be a grandparent .

I was 33 and DP was 36. My parents were 63 and 68 and DP's parents were 62 and 63. First grandchild on both sides.

DP's parents had been banging on about not being grandparents as they were youngish parents and they felt he was old.

My parents had never mentioned it and I was the same age as them when they became parents so I guess they felt it was normal to be a bit older.

My nana was 36 when I was born! 😱😱

My parents were 48 and 50. My fiancé’s were 55 and 63.

I can’t imagine anyone being so selfish that they’re trying to force you into having children for their benefit.

You can't really plan these things as well as you think you can, you might start trying at 30 and it take years to fall pregnant but you have to do it when you're ready and not for anyone else. I was 25 with my first and my midwife thought I was quite late! I can see their point, I don't remember much of my childhood with my grandparents (I'm the youngest and my mom was third child ) so they were already a good age when I was born, I'm quite jealous of my older sisters relationship with them because they were in much better health for her, I never even got to meet my other grandad as he had already passed before I was born. My mom was 50 with my first child but 37 with her first grandchild! She is now 71 and incredibly involved with 2 great granddaughters, she loves that she is around for them. Ultimately it has to be your decision.

Very true, my mkm was 16 when she had my sister and 37 when my sister had her first, now my mom is 71 and still active to enjoy 2 great granddaughters which she says is the best thing about having her children young :)

44&48

Good for them. Hopefully they're just living their best life and enjoying their freedom without being bogged down by a partner so young.

One already gone, one 81!

My parents became GPs to my children at 47 & 48 (I was a teen)
They were 68 & 69 when they became GPs to my older sisters child (sister in her early 40s)
They aren’t able to be as physically active with my sisters child as they were with mine & my mum has commented that it’s a shame they won’t be around for as long to see them grow up 🫣 but it’s just a different situation. They’re fit & well (late 70s) and still able to grandparent. Just not in such an energetic way. I feel fortunate that my children experienced them as fairly young GPs, but I wouldn’t recommend being a teenage parent so as to achieve that!
My oldest is now late 20s and I’m in no rush for them to be a parent until they are ready (and that might be never - which is also entirely fine & entirely their choice)

my mum was 61 and my stepdad was 65.
my in-laws were 55ish I think?

my mum used to complain that she was the last of her siblings to become a grandparent, but she was also the last of her siblings to have kids so I never understood her logic

Mine were 58 and 59

They would have been younger however we needed to go through IVF which put us back 3 years.
Sadly my mum passed away at 61 so she only spent 3 years with my eldest and 4 months with my youngest. Just some things to consider as often things do not go how we plan them!

My parents were 53 when I started my family but 68 when my brother had his. There is no denying that they had much more energy when mine were born but they were also still working full time!

At the end of the day, nobody has the right to dictate when you have kids and you do what’s right for you.

My mum was 48 my Dad 53

Oh dear. This has nothing to do with them it is your business and no one elses. They are out of order. Their age is irrelevant. A grand parent speaking here.