What’s the best advice you’ve ever been given?

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I thought I had read this thread before but can’t seem to find it, so I’ll ask again. What’s the best advice that you’ve ever received? I’m in need of some inspiration. My two are:
Don’t take criticism from someone who you wouldn’t take advice from; and
Don’t let perfect be the enemy of good

My mum was always v good at budgeting but never shared her methods as my family are very private about money. My father was always terrible with money. I was curious, even as i child 3i understood how fundamental it is to get it right. So in that context, I heard "live within your means" and never buy something I don't have the money for - basically never have a credit card. Throughout my adult life the only break to this rule I've made is to have 0%interest cards for special/ specific purchases, never for just daily use. I've also never used those shops (are they around anymore?) Where you buy a discounted item but on a payment plan that means you end up paying more. I also pay very safe. I don't invest in stocks and shares, preferring instead a safe if boring interest rate and guaranteed outcome. Basically I take no risks financially. This has served me very well.

Not advice, but this is a quote I always come back to -

“I've had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.”

― Mark Twain

I am a shocking worrier and remembering this reminds me why it really is a foolish habit.

Lefty loosey, righty tightly.

*tighty

If it's worth doing, it's worth doing well

Imagine Pacman gobbling up all bad thoughts as soon as they enter your head. Amusing and very effective!

If the grass is greener on the other side, pay more attention to your own side and give it water, fertiliser and TLC!!

After a high there will be a low and after a low there will be a high.

Don't meet trouble half way. It's easier to stay out than to get out.

Judge the intention not the action.

Would probably calm down quite a few MIL threads on here 😆

Don't ever feel guilty for doing what's best for you.

To fully empty your bladder - lean forward when you think you're done. Also blow air through lips pursed as if you're going to whistle, or tickle the very base of your spine near the bum!

Advice from continence nurses - it works and also can help if you're a bit prone to bladder infections.

‘If you feel like everyone hates you have a nap and if you feel like you hate everyone have a snack’ it’s very very true.

Also from my lovely Grandad ‘Don’t fret it’ll be reet pet’. He was right you know. In the end it’ll all be reet.

Yes people judge. But momentarily. Fleetingly. In a detached way. They do it as a spectacle or a distraction. No one really bothers about other people in the same way they obsess about every iota of their own lives.

You’ve only got to see how everyone curates these fake disingenuous narratives on social media. The confident poses and carefully arranged vistas are in direct correlation to how fragile and fractious people’s egos are.

If you put your wants above someone else’s needs, that’s selfish. If you put your needs above someone else’s wants, that’s self care.

I'm glad you explained the second one, I was wondering who "he" was and why he'll keep going! (Hell)

This too shall pass. It may pass like a kidney stone, but it will pass.

Love many, trust few, and always paddle your own canoe.

Also, never lend more than you can afford to lose.

“Remember, it’s not a credit card, it’s a debt card.”

Oops - I have been contributing to an ancient thread! 😂

That’s really good advice.

Set your bar very very high with men. They will all try to come in under it, so if you set it low to start with, you'll be accepting a whole heap of trouble.

Said to me by a very nice man. Single because he knew he would be a terrible partner. Apologised for putting the responsibility on women, again, but said in his opinion, it was the only way for women to protect themselves.

So no mortgage then?

Only a fool breaks the two second rule.