What’s the best advice you’ve ever been given?

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I thought I had read this thread before but can’t seem to find it, so I’ll ask again. What’s the best advice that you’ve ever received? I’m in need of some inspiration. My two are:
Don’t take criticism from someone who you wouldn’t take advice from; and
Don’t let perfect be the enemy of good

Don't go food shopping when hungry

Never trust anything you hear and only trust half of what you see

Blue and green should never be seen.

Never trust a man who wears brown shoes with a dark suit.

I've said this one before but it's still my favourite:

Don't wrestle with pigs. You'll both get dirty and the pig likes it.

Sound advice which I have followed for decades 😊

Worrying about something constantly will never change the end result.

Not my circus not my monkeys

I really needed ro read this today thanks 😊

You don't have to live the same life as everyone else!

You can do whatever you like in life but you have to put up with the consequences.

Start paying into a pension early.

Advice given to me by a work colleague when I was in my late teens/early 20s. For some reason I took that advice and I'm now looking at retiring at 60, with an ok income.

I was going to say this. I've just recently made a new friend, and it's basically their mantra. They're always so chilled, and I'm almost certain that's why.

Unfortunately, Mumsnet among other forums has taught me that as much as we'd like that to be true, many, many people ARE not just thinking about themselves but making numerous judgments about others too.

As we see on MN every single day.

For me I think the best/widest applicable is the concept of the middle way, which comes from Buddhist and Hindu teachings, I think?

The basic premise is that in life there will be various things that seem like polarised issues with lots of what feels like conflicting advice which seems to directly contradict each other.

The key is to notice that with this conflicting advice, it's really about where you are starting. If you're walking along a path and you're veering off to the left, then the ideal advice for you would be "go right!! You're too far left! Danger! Right is the right path!" but if you're veering off to the right then the ideal advice would be "Go left! Danger! You're too far right!"

In daily life what actually happens is that we encounter both. So we might be veering to the right and if we encounter the "Go right" advice and follow it, then we will REALLY go too far to the right and veer off course. And then we might think well, that was awful, why would anyone tell people to go right?? That must be wrong.

The middle way is about learning to see both sides as balance and to try and stay in the middle and recognise when we're following advice which is helpful vs advice which is pushing us off course. And recognise that there is wisdom in both the "go left" and "go right" advice when it's given in the right context.

My grandad-always wear belt and braces
Cos if one let's you down,the other will keep your trousers up

My dad-always start on the good booze first
As once your sloshed,the bad stuff won't taste so crap

Dp-if someone starts bad mouthing you,just remember they are only words-they mean nothing

God knows why I can only think of men's advice-my mother is a useless narc who's never given good advice in her life

1)You dont need marriage to prove commitment dont become someone's property for the sake of the word husband and a piece of paper.

2)Make it on your own then you owe no one nothing.

Gotta disagree with 1), at least if you want proper financial protection.

I like marriage anyway. Feels so much more than ‘partners’.

Does it need saying?
Does it need saying by me?
Does it need saying now?
I saw this in a documentary about our late Queen recently and wish seen it years ago.

those who shout loudest won’t make themself heard over those who speak nicely and treat both sides with respect ( just remembered this from a lovely relative)

Never burn your bridges

Everything will be okay in the end, and if it's not okay, it's not the end.

This was originally said by John Lennon, but much quoted by my work CEO during the pandemic. He was an amazing leader. He retired about 6 or 7 months ago, and I have this quote typed and framed on my desk. It's got me through some very hard times this year.

Also bras

You can change any situation by changing your attitude towards it. It can be difficult to do but it does work.

'Don't look for trouble before trouble looks for you.'

I used to worry a lot about things - now I realise that is a stress. 70% of things I worry about don't happen. I plan well to avoid problems - but don't worry until trouble actually happens. And then I find I will manage it . Worrying about things endlessly is very draining.

Never drink alone