Do you do stuff to deliberately annoy others?

[EveSix]

Just read a comment on a different thread where a poster stated that as they realised other posters found a particular action irritating (something quite inconsequential, but annoying to some), said poster said they felt inclined to do this thing more frequently. A subsequent poster immediately agreed.

It doesn't really matter what it was (but for full disclosure, it was about MN quoting etiquette) as this thread isn't about that, but more generally: do you find that you purposely do things because you know it annoys or irritates others? If so, what is it about for you?

I'm not talking about things which are necessary for you to do but which may disturb someone else for instance -like get up for a wee in the night-, but things which are of no consequence to you, but which you might go out of your way to do because you know a specific person will notice it and feel aggrieved.

DP couldn't give two hoots which way the looroll goes on, but because he knows I like it a certain way, he puts fresh rolls on the opposite way. Just because.

In my workplace, one cleaner knows the caretaker does a particular task in a certain order, and deliberately does a seemingly insignificant thing which means that, once a week, the caretaker's routine is disrupted. Just because.

I can't wrap my head around it and am really curious as to what the motivation is?

That's the one. 😁

They probably cringed more when the man seated next to me announced he was a convicted sex offender (yes, really)

I feel sorry for the other guests between the pair of you.

The only thing I do is drive slower on windy roads when someone is crawling up my backside in a flash car.

That's actually not recommended by the highway code. It's dangerous to drive slower to piss some one off.

But you just came across as a complete idiot. Why would you behave like that?

Why do you take along a dessert and drink that you like? She doesn't have the chance of behaving that way then.

Because you know my sister? She'd still single me out for not eating her home made Christmas cake.

She's a former anorexic and still has disordered eating patterns. She does love to comment in what people eat and she's a feeder.

She'd be incensed that I brought another dessert rather than eat her stupid home made cake. She was hardly Mary Berry.

For my own entertainment because I found it funny. To poke fun at silly uptight dinner etiquette. So largely for my own benefit, I don’t really care what anyone else thought. If someone else instead of me had been acting the clown I’d probably have thought they seemed a great laugh and moved to sit next to them rather than miserably working my way through a baffling array of cutlery in silence.

Sitting next to a sex offender isn’t cringe, that would be more upsetting, disturbing, dismaying,.

annoying someone at a meal is talking over them, interrupting them, drinking their drinks, asking for their food, that sort of thing annoys people.

mixing your own drinks together, saying you think it would make a great spoons, or that you wanted to get pissed, wouldn’t annoy most folks, they’d just think you were out of your depth and didn’t know how to behave in different social setttings.

and that’s ok if that’s the case, you don’t need to try to pass it off as something else due to residual embarrassment.

For your own safety I really wouldn't do this.

I’m not embarrassed though? I don’t think I’ve ever felt embarrassed in my life tbh, it just doesn’t seem to be something that happens to me. No, I don’t know the ins and outs of black tie dinner etiquette but nor do I care or want to learn. Yes, I do know that mixing up my wines and declaring a baroque style dining room would make a cracking spoons could be seen by some as uncouth and inappropriate and that’s exactly why I did it. Because I thought it was funny. As for the sex offender yes I wasn’t best pleased to be sat next to him! He had a bespoke gold strap on his Apple Watch so I asked him whether that was a special electronic tag they made for posh nonces. Again, had to entertain myself somehow.

And that's why you behave so badly. You're utterly shameless and blind to your own behaviour. Fuck the comfort of others as ling as you get your point across and force everyone to hear your point of view.

If anyone got as angry as you seem to be over a Wetherspoons joke and mixing up wines I think that says more about them than it does me. If adhering to social convention brings you this close to bursting a blood vessel I think I’ll continue not to.

It's not adhering to social conventions that's makes me angry. I'm not even angry I'm cringing for you.

You behave like shit and don't care. You're just a nasty person and no one thought you were funny.

But you think you are so keep your way I'm done.

Cringe away my friend. You’re right, I don’t care and I do think it’s funny. I think you need to lighten up if someone messing about at a dinner gets to you this much.

You're just bad mannered and we're dragged up with none.

Bloody hell. Where did all the grown ups go to?

Ted is just enjoying winding you all up even more now 😂

Counterpoint: I have a sense of humour and you don’t

Had a narcissist partner for years and that's one of their many tactics so not really.
The only ones are things like if someone is trying to "jolly me along" at a checkout and I'm giving the person in front of me space to pack and pay I'll stand there longer without moving forward. You can't do anything before your shopping gets there twats.

Hmm, is it a sense of humour if only you are laughing though 🤔

I worked with someone who would work out what your weak points were and use them as a stick to beat you with and got others to join in too .

But why would you do this? It's so petty.

I don't understand it either OP, I can't imagine being this petty and juvenile.

Is it sensible to presume what people, who you don't know & can't speak to, thought at an event you never attended?

Everything you're saying about them, and their feelings, is made up in your mind 🤷‍♂️ You only have a 3rd party's assumption of the impact of their actions to go on. I can't even see them saying anyone actually express being annoying