Do you do stuff to deliberately annoy others?

[EveSix]

Just read a comment on a different thread where a poster stated that as they realised other posters found a particular action irritating (something quite inconsequential, but annoying to some), said poster said they felt inclined to do this thing more frequently. A subsequent poster immediately agreed.

It doesn't really matter what it was (but for full disclosure, it was about MN quoting etiquette) as this thread isn't about that, but more generally: do you find that you purposely do things because you know it annoys or irritates others? If so, what is it about for you?

I'm not talking about things which are necessary for you to do but which may disturb someone else for instance -like get up for a wee in the night-, but things which are of no consequence to you, but which you might go out of your way to do because you know a specific person will notice it and feel aggrieved.

DP couldn't give two hoots which way the looroll goes on, but because he knows I like it a certain way, he puts fresh rolls on the opposite way. Just because.

In my workplace, one cleaner knows the caretaker does a particular task in a certain order, and deliberately does a seemingly insignificant thing which means that, once a week, the caretaker's routine is disrupted. Just because.

I can't wrap my head around it and am really curious as to what the motivation is?

You're not following your own path though. Following your own path would have been doing French despite your mum telling you to.

If you habitually do the opposite of what other people tell you, you will be incredibly easy to manipulate.

I've quite genuinely seen this herding at work on social media. Anonymous internet sprites come on and act all irritating and authoritative ordering people to do X, or mocking people who do Y... and the "natural rebels" all trot off obediently to do the forbidden thing.

I'm naturally inclined to jib at certain brands of authority myself, so I understand the urge. But if you let it rule you, you let other people rule you. Which is probably not what you were after...

I sort of do this to fil. We have a pink cup, he will
Always reach past it to get a different coloured cup (in case someone thinks he's gay or a girl for using a pink cup). I make a point of making his tea/ coffee in it every single time.

Again why bother? He doesn't want a pink cup why don't you grow up and let a grown man choose what he wants his tea made in.

Deliberately doing things you know someone else doesn't like isn't noble it just makes you just as much of a prick.

"He doesn't want a pink cup why don't you grow up and let a grown man choose what he wants his tea made in."

Why doesn't he grow up and drink out of the pink cup. He really sounds like a two year old.

That isn't her choice to make it is his.

Honestly she and you have more of an issue than FiL. Deliberately making him have something he doesn't want because you think he should. How petty.

Why does it matter if he doesn't want a pink cup?

"Why does it matter if he doesn't want a pink cup?"

Sounds like it slightly inconveniences OP. Also, I presume the poster here is a woman and it's quite insulting to reject something because it's associated with women. I think it's a fair enough revenge from OP.

There just aren't enough hours in the day for that level of petty.

I think it's disturbing that so many adults exist that choose to battle over something so petty as a cup and see it as revenge.

Unless the OP has one cup it's no inconvenience to her. Pathetic.

I have a cup for every different beverage it drives my DH insane .

I find even when I am petty it doesn't make me feel better. I worked a job where the late shift workers were supposed to get things ready for the early staff. Soon I was the only person doing it so I stopped bothering, but I always felt weirdly guilty and irritated we couldn't just all help each other.

da iawn!!

No.

I have better things to do with my time!

That’s perfectly normal surely??

OP, there is only one thing that I do. There's a congested roundabout near me, at the exit of a dual carriageway. It is made significantly more congested because someone thought it would be a good idea to build a McDonalds Drive Thru next to it. The restaurant exit is straight onto the dual carriageway sliproad, just before it joins the roundabout. The burger-eaters are often backed up in the car park waiting to filter in to the queue of traffic on the road. In any non-fast-food situation I would let a car filter in front of me, but instead I think "their burger, their choice" and bunch up tight. 😁

Yeah I totally get your point - as a teenager it was more about being contrary than actually following my own path. I didn’t love French lessons but I think I recognised even at the time I was good at them and it was a useful skill, and in hindsight I definitely shouldn’t have been so obstinate about it and I should’ve taken the class. While I do still have the rebellious streak and knee-jerk F you type reactions I think I generally talk myself down as an adult and consider things sensibly. Most of the time it just leads me to question and evaluate everything, particularly social norms. I do have the silly moments though like the cardigan scenario I mentioned.

I don't see the point in doing something like this

My oh hates being tickled and sometimes I forget and go to tickle him. Like once every three years he gets so mad

Not for him and you don't know how many cups I have it's rediculous.

@Spermscarecrow 😂

I have no opinion on this, I just wanted to quote the OP, because I know I will annoy someone ;)

Are you talking about The Yorkshire Grey? Possibly the worst place to put a Drive Thru. 😂

I'm not! But it doesn't surprise me that my local example isn't the only "worst place to put a Drive Thru". 🙂

Yes, I don't see why I should creep through life trying hard not to upset other people. I also recognise that people "get upset" sometimes as a form of coercion and control, or have a sense of entitlement that is unreasonable or based on a different set of values. It's not always necessary to compromise, sometimes it is not even possible when I might consider it because other person(s) don't have good social skills

I think its only questionable behaviour when it is done entirely for the purpose of generating annoyance or upset, without any good cause/reason whatsoever. That is obviously subjective, so not everyone will agree on any specific example

I took the op to mean deliberately going out of your way to annoy and upset someone.

I know someone for example who gets annoyed at vegetarians and vegans. She deliberately does things like rubbing meat on their food to get 'revenge'.

She will also run someone ragged just for the satisfaction of seeing them get stressed or flustered. For example asking someone to fetch her something from the shop, then asking them to return it and they'll have no choice if they've paid on there card. All for the satisfaction of seeing them flap.

She'll deliberately outstay her welcome when visiting someone and ignore hints to go because she takes it as an insults that they want her to go.

These are real situations from someone I know.

I very seldom even think this sort of thing but why are you spending time with this person?!

@CeciledeVolangesdeNouveau it's a close relative and I've certainly learnt to be wary over the years.