None of the Friends Co stars have posted anything on Instagram about Matthew Perry's death

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Maybe they have posted elsewhere, just find it strange that none of them appear to have acknowledged it on Instagram, especially as they all seem to be pretty active on there.

I'm assuming their pr reps are working together to coordinate a statement. Either a joint one or that all their individual statements are within the same theme. Those statements will be compared and posted everywhere so they need to be careful with their own image.

I had the same initial thought that you did as they’re celebrities - totally human thought and in my view a legitimate musing to wonder about it. People here are so quick to judge.

But you don't give celebrities the grace of being human and you're very quick to judge them. There's a heavy irony in your post!

That might go some way to explaining why you posted this, OP. People react to grief in many different ways but mostly it just sideswipes you. The last thing you want to do is think 'oh, I must prepare a post for SM'. This will be compounded for the remaining five friends, given how widely read this will be. So they will have to deal with their grief, whilst liaising with their publicists and each other to get the statement exactly right. It must be hellish for them right now.

I’m always surprised by those who live their life so wedded to social media. The thought thry hadn’t posted wouldn’t even occur to me, and if it did, I’d assume it was due to respect for the family and grief and not attention seeking in the immediate aftermath. And I say that as someone who uses insta.

i can’t imagine what it must be like to live your life so engrossed in social media you’d judge someone for not immediately posting when they have lost someone close.

I read her Instagram post and she is absolutely right. It is far easier for random celebs and strangers to attention seeking and publicly make someone's death about them and how sad they are than it is for someone to come to terms with losing a close friend.

No, there's no need at all, OP. You've fallen foul of an unpleasant MN pile on.

It's become the norm for some celebs to share deeply personal news on Instagram and on Twitter. Quite often they use it, as John Travolta did, to announce the death of a loved one.

Honestly some if you should be ashamed of yourselves for being so self righteous and mean spirited.

i can’t imagine what it must be like to live your life so engrossed in social media...

Ironic that you're posting this on an online chat forum aka social media.

It will be the last thing on your mind

Read the title of the thread your commenting on

I do apologise.

Anyway, I am surprised they haven't released a statement as is common in such sad circumstances with celebs.

They will they just need time to make it perfect for him

They will be desperate to get their statement/statements just right. As once it's out, it's forever.

Any further programmes, reunions, interviews... anything at all as a six, ever, is completely off the table.

This is probably the first major thing they have done as a five. How cruel that it is this, and not by choice. No MP input for the worst possible reason, not his choice. That in itself probably has their heads spinning.

Nope. Sorry

Nope

There friend has just died.

why would posting on Instagram be the first thing they did ?

When my best friend died the last thing in the world I thought about was social media.

Who cares about what is posted or not posted. It does not indicate how loved a person is.

I really hope their response sets a new standard - I find it tasteless in the extreme when someone posts immediately about a death. When my mother died a cousin of mine, who is an attention seeker in the extreme posted and was reveling in it all. It was so upsetting. Each to their own, I guess, but for me, using SM that way is just horrible.

I actually agree with this and think the pages of pile on has been quite unwarranted.

I would truly rather boil myself in oil than post a personal statement on Instagram about the death of a loved one, but I’m not famous, famous people live in the public eye, and famous people DO post about things like this. Or at least the PR teams do on their behalf. I don’t think the cast are unreasonable NOT posting a statement (because if they are as close as they have claimed for the last twenty years then they must be heartbroken) but I also don’t think you’re unreasonable for finding it unusual that they haven’t. Because it IS slightly unusual.

Just because someone is famous doesn't mean they don't feel just as deeply as non-famous people. Not only are these five celebrities dealing with the grief and shock and who knows what kind of complicated emotions, but they are also seeing the stark reality of what it will look like when they die. Drones flying overhead to get a photo of the death scene, the body bag, snaps of grieving family. Relentless attention, speculation, gossip and judgement. I can't believe (except I can) that anyone begrudges them a few days privacy before they share their personal sorrow with the world. Of course they're going to comment, it's hardly a great mystery why it's taking a bit of time - not for anyone with a shred of empathy anyway.

I actually respect their silence more than fake sentiment.

That was a whole load of words to basically not address my comment, wasn’t it? Nowhere did I say they didn’t feel as deeply as non-famous people. All I said was that it was unusual. And I stand by that, it IS unusual. I didn’t even say it was a bad thing that they are taking their time releasing a statement. I actually think it’s a good thing. We just live in a world where these sort of things are almost instant, and the OP was commenting on it.

A shame some of that empathy wasn’t extended to the OP. Perhaps you aren’t as empathetic as you think you are!

It was your statement that you personally would hate to make this kind of post 'but they're famous' that made it sound as though therefore their feelings don't count or aren't so significant.

I also disagree with you completely as I don't think it's unusual at all that they've been silent. It would be unusual if they were posting normal happy things with no acknowledgement of his death, but the fact that they are posting nothing at all makes it very clear that they are taking time to manage this privately first. I don't really understand how anyone could look at their silent social media and conclude anything different or be confused enough by it to post as the OP did.

I guess in this situation my empathy is with the people being criticised for grieving privately and not with the person criticising, honestly.

Christ. It took me over six months to tell people about a colleague/friend dying. It can quite traumatic when it’s so unexpected. Give them a break. They owe nobody anything at all! They are probably grieving!

I mean, I could repeat my assertion that I didn’t say they didn’t feel as deeply as non-famous people. But really, that’s a nonsense thing to read into what I actually said.

i will say this: I am surprised at the number of arseholes MP’s death has brought out on mumsnet tbh. There have been a number of deeply unpleasant comments from the hard of thinking, and I’m not sure why they’re all falling over themselves to be cunts. I value my time, so I’ll probably leave it here, but OP, I don’t think you were being that unreasonable!