Matthew Perry has died

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I'm absolutely devasted if this is true

So why comment then ?

What I just don't get is this mass outpouring of grief for someone people never even knew .

The Diana stuff was just so unreal you couldn't make it up .

What I just don’t get is why you’re still on this thread. Relentlessly refreshing and posting on a thread on MN about Matthew Perry.

You’re just as obsessed as the next person. More so.

I do not drink, do drugs, smoke or take any prescription meds. But I am reading his book, and it's really moving. That essential human feeling of loneliness that we all feel no matter what, the need for parental approval, the hunger for fame, that desperate desire to be seen....it's all there, and very well written, though there are times he is tone-deaf and sometimes grandiose.

I identify with quite a lot of it though I am quite boring and staid: have been married for 25++ years to the same man, grew up in a stable family... It's a very relatable book. Even if you are not an addict.

Should have known my comment would have been deleted…wasn’t wrong though

God I hated the book! I didn't find it very honest, or very interesting.

It showed him up as being very self-serving, narcissistic. His moving accounts of illness and addiction I imagine after years and years of therapy and AA are well rehearsed, and already spoken to hundreds (thousands?) of people.

It felt like someone who had rehearsed how to take accountability, I didn't feel him walk it very much.

He was definitely narcissistic. I imagine most addicts are? It also badly needed editing. Nevertheless, it spoke to me. If anything, it was too honest.

Maybe three cranberries cuz he had three injections that day?

Maybe 3 cranberries refers to the 3 injections that day?

It almost seems like he got rid of/alienated all the good people in his life, and replaced them with drug dealers who would never say “no” to money. It seems deliberate, like he knew he was going down and did not want to be stopped.
He really set himself up by publishing that book with so little sobriety under his belt. I wonder if any advisors told him that.

My impression is that in the last 2-3 years of his life, he had changed into a completely different person. I remember interviews with him when he was young, and he seemed humble and charming. By the end, he was without his famous wit (although still really intelligent), and seemed like a caricature of a boozy, aging ex-star, with girlfriends who looked more like daughters.
Chandler/young MP seemed to have more integrity and self-awareness. What became of his personality? When did he become so uncool?

When people finally achieve sobriety after years of struggle, they are universally grateful and joyful. He sounds angry and resentful. He never grew much during his years in therapy.

That he was anywhere near water when he was injected is worrisome. Both his location near the water, and how regularly he asked to be injected seems deliberately reckless. And he knew so much about drugs, he must have known the ketamine/suboxone combo would inhibit his respiration.

Either he had really given up, or he was delusional. He reminded me of the Nicolas Cage character in Leaving Las Vegas. He did not want to be stopped anymore.