You’re absolutely spot on. Just because he’s dead it shouldn’t stop us from saying what he was. I’ll start shall I ? To me, he was a funny, charming and likeable character from what I saw of him on various chat shows. And he was a talented actor and writer, well respected by his peers.
From reading his book, which was astonishingly honest, I gathered that he was given narcotics as a baby - basically to stop him crying, and that this was probably the precursor to his addiction problems. He had a troubled childhood and suffered from abandonment issues because his parents divorced and batted him backwards and forwards from Canada to the USA as part of shared custody. He found at an early age that alcohol was a huge comfort and inevitably that led to major substance abuse, which spiralled when he found fame and fortune.
l learned that throughout his life he alternated between making huge efforts to get clean, and succumbing to his addiction. He didn’t want to be an addict, took ownership of it and tried his best to kick it. He also tried to help others - he threw himself into the sponsorship program and at the time of his death he was in the process of setting up a foundation to help those with substance abuse problems. And he was adamant that it was this he wanted to be remembered for, rather than his role in friends.
And, l learned that he was a human being. A son, a brother, a friend. He had a family who loved him and who must be devastated now it’s become clear that the addiction he spent most of his life fighting was responsible for finally taking him from them. We’re all human, we’re all vulnerable in some way or other and given the right set of circumstances we could all be the addict, which, if the comments on this thread are anything to go by, we so clearly despise and fear.
RIP Matthew.