What form has your midlife crisis taken?

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What odd decisions or big changes have you made?

I think I've had 2. At 40 I very nearly had an affair. I did the right thing and walked away eventually, but it brought about quite a lot of change in my life as I realised what actually made me tick, rather than what I'd always accepted/been told I wanted from life.

In my early 50s I've suddenly become adventurous and impulsive, in my clothes, my work, travel, doing loads of things I wouldn't have dreamt I was capable of.

Changing careers from law to health.
Buying a red mini countryman. Her name is Stella. I love her.

Stopped being a people pleaser, told a horrible negative person to fuck off, grew my hair long again, blew £2k of savings on a beautiful watch, had several hook ups with men 20 years younger than me and enjoyed the best sex of my life. A couple have gone on to become “very special friends”! Currently really loving mid life and no desire at all to remarry, however much my married friends try to persuade me otherwise. I think they might be jealous!

Lot of adventurous activities like wakeboarding, surfing, zip lining through jungle and adventurous travel. Seeing wildlife like brown bears, pademelon, possum, turtles, whales, dolphins, tree kangaroos, moose, puffins, wallabies, platypus, cassowary in the wild.

Packed in living in London and job and moved to thatched cottage in countryside. Stopped working and just renovated properties and SN child.

Got cancer which led after treatment to me doing lots of exercise mainly swimming and more travel incl Maldives and Mauritius.

Moved counties
Pierced my nipples and then my nose
Started retraining for a different career
Brought my horse

Lost 7 Stone and am now a size 10, am teaching myself to DJ, got loads of piercings and tattoos, bought my dream car and finally feel happy with how I look at 40!

Post COVID (39+) I started going to see all the emo bands I'd missed in my 20s, think My Chemical Romance, Fallout Boy, Green Day etc. Alone. Going in the throng of the mosh puts, getting covered in bruises and bashes. I loved it!

I also started taking random long weekends abroad, places I'd always wanted to see. Rome, Vienna, Copenhagen etc.

Both of these things were because I was single and concluded I'd never meet the one.

Then I met HIM, got pregnant and now I'm married with a child and own a house and curtailed my midlife crisis!!! 😝

give far less shits than before and sometimes I am not the bigger person

I am extremely happy! @OnlyTheBravest that really tickled me

I chopped all the dead wood from my life almost the second I turned 50. Negative, energy vampires and friends with their non stop dramas. Took up weight training and never felt better. Dh and I take more trips, a week abroad every few months and touring the UK in between. After lockdown hell, I never want to be boxed in, ever again.

I hope those who are struggling hang on in there. In my forties I battled with poorly treated auto immune disease and was on the brink of ending it. I cannot tell you how grateful I am that I am still here. Life has a habit of changing.

On the DP point, try the book "Too good to leave, too bad to stay".

Turned 50 this year with 2 DD's age 11 and 7. Less of a mid life crisis - more determined to know my value! I am focussing on a great diet and swimming 3 times a week every week, feeling great and taking charge in my career more than ever because of this. We are more powerful than we know.

Got rid of fake friends and this week im gunna get tested to see if im a tissue match to be a living donor to some random on facebook 🙈

@SkyFullofStars1975 @blacc if you are happy to would you share how you lost the weight? I know I need to do this but am struggling with the how.

For me I bought a house and moved out of London to the seaside, changed my career path to a less stressful but better paid job 🙃

I've got a shedload of ear piercings

Gave up toxic job and went self employed. No regrets. Zero.
Took a risk and bought dream house and ridiculous car. Will be in debt forever but I love every day of my life now. Life is for living and it might end tomorrow. At least I’m living a great life now.

Stopped dieting and embraced my natural shape
Grown my hair really long and stopped colouring it
Speak my mind, including paying compliments to people whenever they occur to me (as well as speak up about injustices)
Also my sex drive has vanished over the last year which has freed me up to do loads of things for myself instead of concerning myself with relationshit!

I don’t think I’ve had mine yet unless you count “never having kids” turning in to a baby at 41. Perhaps that’s mine 😂

I've been overweight all my adult life, I'm 57. 3 weeks ago I had weightloss surgery and it's changed my life, no longer need blood pressure or diebetes meds, I've lost 2 stones, and can feel the benefit of it already, plenty more too lose, but I feel so much more positive, and wish I'd done it sooner.

Changed career, got a degree, became much more adventurous re holidays/experiences/my appearance and stopped being a people pleaser. And can I just say I'm loving the mid-life positivity of this thread 🙂

Love this

Finally completing my degree and wholesale career change to follow
I wear clothes and shoes for comfort and not style
I have stopped people pleasing and trying too hard at everything
Stopped seeing my needs being met as ‘selfish’
Had counselling and felt heard
Learnt to love and respect my body
for the life it gives me and not how it looks.
Booked a trip to Africa this winter

I am nearing 50 and feel a bigger midlife shift is coming! This feels like the run up to the main event.

Never been a smoker but started vaping recently. Feels like the start of one

It does tickle me when piercings or tattoos are the go to at this point. Those of us with multiple of each spend our lives being judged and criticised daily. But past a certain point in life it's suddenly fair game and you wouldn’t expect to be judged by anyone. Dipping your toe into a world you've always been to reluctant to enter but happy to judge.
Enjoy your nose piercing or extra ear piercing and the teeny tiny tattoo you choose. Go ahead and feel like an untethered rebel.
Once you've had your crisis don’t you dare ever look down your nose at others with multiple tattoos and piercings again. You can only be a hypocrite up to a certain point.
Let's face it, you're not going to be "wild" because you got a piece of jewellery put in a place that's extremely common. Or because you get a small tattoo of something generic.

Wow wish I had always been as cool as you. Can but dream 😴

Every decade of my life up until now (l am 59) I have suffered some form of major loss in terms of divorce, bereavement, redundancy, serious illness. I didn't have a mid life crisis but I have now reached a stage where I can look back on the chapters of my life without wanting to set fire to them, which is a good place to be.
I am obviously passed middle age now and as I enter into my twilight years I am grateful to do so with the knowledge, fortitude, grace and acceptance of all that has gone before. I count my blessings every day and I will always be eternally grateful I never went down the piercings and tattoos route but to all who did I salute you!

@Flamingo68 It's alright love, have a nap. Dream big.