Has a man ever helped you when you were being harrassed/threatened/assaulted by another man?

[Echobelly]

I see a lot of stuff on social media, more usually from the US, about men talking about how they see themselves as 'protectors' of women (hmmmm 🙄) so it got me wondering how common it actually is for a guy to help when they see a woman being obviously harrassed, assaulted or threatened? And were they big macho types (usually the type who makes videos online about how they protect women) or just ordinary guys who helped by noticing?

I've never been in a position where I needed anyone to intervene fortunately... I have been with DH when he went over to a couple having a heated argument to check if the woman was OK (she claimed to be, although didn't look it., and they went off and we hoped at least the guy might lay off now someone had taken noticed) and I know my brother intervened, non physically, when he saw a woman being assaulted, so clearly it does happen. I suspect most of the time it is ordinary blokes just saying something rather than macho men rushing in with fists flying.

Nope. Had another woman step in and pretend she knew me to give me an out when some weirdo was pestering.

No. They just kept walking past. Women too though.

No but never had a woman step in either.

Yes, once in a kebab shop after the pubs closed and once in a nightclub.

I wouldn't say either were 'macho' types really.

No, but the men who assaulted , on all the occasions it happened calculated (correctly) that there was no one else around. Male or female.

Yes. On a train.

Yes. I was being hassled in a nightclub and a nice guy and his friends got me out of it and were genuinely kind and nice.

I was helped by a group of guys when a guy tried to steal my bag. A couple both came over when my brother as screaming in my face in a car park.

DH intervened when a couple were having an argument that got physical and the man had the woman up against the wall by the next. The guy let her go and the woman tried to hit DH with the bottle in her hand for being an “interfering cunt”.
He has said it wouldn’t put him off getting involved again.

I can think of one occasion where I was walking through a busy city centre with my ds's who would have been about 9 and 6 at that time and a bloke came out of a pub aggressively and sort-of squawked at us, frightening us all abs making my littlest cry. A bloke behind immediately stepped in and told the noisy man to bog off and made sure that we were all ok and made my son laugh. He basically managed to negate the first bloke with his actions.

Ordinary not particularly macho.

Yes, I've seen it happen on the tube several times.

Yep my late dad intervened when he saw a woman being physically threatened by a man. For his pains he got punched by the man and the woman sided with her abuser and shouted at my dad and they went off together. Dad said that was the last time he’d intervene in what he called ‘a domestic’.

Yes, one night a male friend of mine was off his face and became a little touchy feely with me (nothing actually inappropriate) and another man came over and pretended to know me to get me away and asked if I was OK.

I have quite a few male friends and in hindsight I placed far too much faith in them to look after me when we were out clubbing. They nearly always intervened if other men made me uncomfortable and made sure I got home OK.

Not an assault but my husband intervened in a gym when a man was being aggressive and verbally abusive to a woman there.

Yes, a group of men were hassling a young woman on a lateish tube so I pretended to know her and they turned on me. An older (60ish) gentleman pulled the emergency cord and they ran off. So grateful to him.

Yes on a few occasions I've had a man step in to help. Most of these have been because of other men who can't take "not interested" as an answer.

Unfortunately the one time where I was seriously physically assaulted by a stranger with very obvious MH issues, nobody intervened and this took place in broad daylight in a busy area. I suppose I can understand people not getting involved.

No, but a young woman did.

No kept walking past , it was a sexual assault by multiples .

My dad did more than once.

I did one time (female).
A group of men came and stood a way away watching, but didn't intervene. Twats. I was really scared

That's horrific @Guiltyfeethavegotnorhythm0

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Yes!
BIL has a knack for it. On two occasions, he’s stepped in and positioned himself between me and two different men who were intoxicated and looking for trouble. On the first occasion, his friend, who had only met me an hour before, stepped up on my other side so I was protected.

My father has stepped in for both myself and my sister, including ending up in a fight when my sister was assaulted.

As a teenager, two male friends of mine also stepped in when another male acquaintance was making inappropriate jokes. Those two friends also stepped in on behalf of another friend who was being stalked.

Yes. Me and my sister were being sexually harassed by a man on a train in Amsterdam who kept looking at us and making sexual gestures and licking his lips. My hairs stand on end when I think about him. A group of men on a stag do asked us to sit with them until we got safely off the train.

No. Never.
A female friend did save me once though.

My dad’s friend stepped in when he saw a road rage incident where a man was verbally and aggressively abusing another driver who was a lone female.
My dads mate and the other male driver got into a fight over it and the woman drove off ( don’t blame her as I’d have probably done the same in that situation tbh).

@GoldenOldies - glad you seem to have a few good men in your life!