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Did you find out the sex of your child(ren)?

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Backtogetheragain · 18/10/2023 14:42

just interested!

I found out with DS but when I was having my second baby I wanted a girl so I didn’t find out in case I felt a bit disappointed if she was a boy … as it turned out she was a girl.

If I had a third which I won’t I would find out!

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Terfosaurus · 18/10/2023 14:43

Not until they were born no.

Terrifyingface · 18/10/2023 14:46

Didn't find out with DC1 (girl) - we had agreed in advance we wouldn't but then my 20 week scan turned out to be in the first month of the pandemic, DH couldn't come in and I wasn't going to find out without him there. So that settled it. Everyone told me I was having a boy so when DH said 'it's a girl!' my response was 'are you sure?' there had been a lot of drugs

DC2 was a 'surprise' baby (we'd tried for nearly a year before any success with DD) so we decided to find out as we figured we'd had enough surprises from that particular baby! Turned out to be a DS, which also helped because we could prepare my (then) just turned 1yo DD with boy baby dolls and talking about brothers etc.

Blippard · 18/10/2023 14:47

Yes, I did for my first (and only for now). Just because I could I suppose. It didn't bother me either way, especially as he's my first! I don't think it makes a difference whether you find out during pregnancy or at the birth.. it's still an exciting surprise!

DeathRattleDazzle · 18/10/2023 14:49

No - had a surprise with all 3. It was an amazing moment when they were born. I was tempted during each pregnancy but was really pleased to have waited.

PerspiringElizabeth · 18/10/2023 14:49

First - didn’t intend to but sonographer let slip

second and third, yes, and c sections so I knew when they were coming too! First birth was so mental that had I found out what sex he was at that point, it would have been irrelevant/anti-climax.

It’s a surprise whenever you find out….. also it’s never a massive surprise as there’s only 2 options.

anon2022anon · 18/10/2023 14:50

First one yes, second one no. There's a big age gap, and with the youngest I was more aware of not wanting to play into typical gender roles, and I figured I'd be a lot more likely to do so if I had 4 months of thinking about my little girl or boy, rather than the baby being a person when they came out. And I knew that if I found out and it was a boy, there was no chance my partner would be able to resist football kits for the rest of the pregnancy.

I very much enjoyed dressing my little girl in an absolute rainbow of colours when she was born (although it's stupidly hard to find non pink or blue baby stuff that's not white, beige or grey), and we still do now- it's absolutely fab that because we've done that, my family don't automatically buy a princess dress for Christmas for example, just because she's a girl, because she's just as happy with a red firefighter costume.

SoupDragon · 18/10/2023 14:51

DS1 - no
DS2 - by accident at a late growth scan
DD - yes.

Their arrivals were all amazing, it made no difference whether I knew the sex already or not. How could it not be? I was meeting my baby for the first time!

ButterflyBitch · 18/10/2023 14:51

Yeh I’m far too impatient so I wanted to know.

whiteroseredrose · 18/10/2023 14:54

Yes to both. DH kept coming up with such damned fool names that I only wanted to fight one battle!

Riverlee · 18/10/2023 14:54

Twenty years ago, they didn’t routinely tell you the sex of the child in my local hospital.

However, had an amniocentesis for first pregnancy and found out. Second child, didn’t find out (also boy).

Apossum · 18/10/2023 14:56

No, I just didn’t really see the need, and liked the idea of a lovely ‘it’s a boy/girl’ moment. As it was, he made it rather obvious during the scan 😂 but despite both me and DH seeing, neither of us mentioned it in case the other hadn’t seen! We tried for so so long, we’d got no preference either way at all and were just absolutely thrilled to have a lovely baby on the way!

StampOnTheGround · 18/10/2023 14:57

Only have one DC at the moment, but we found out at a private 16 week scan that he was a little boy.

DH cannot stand surprises and wouldn't have wanted to wait, I could have waited and had a surprise but was easily swayed.

I would like a surprise with a potential second, but DH is so against it we probably won't haha. I did feel it was nice that I knew during my first pregnancy, as I felt I had already bonded with the him rather than not knowing anything about him.

spiderlight · 18/10/2023 14:59

I did. I wanted to know anyway, but the first image on the screen at my 20-week scan left us in no doubt whatsoever (and had the sonographer in absolute fits). At the end of the scan, she said 'Well, normally we have to say that sex predictions are never 100% certain, but....' 😆

Crispautumn · 18/10/2023 15:00

Yes I did, I wanted a girl both times (cared less the first time to be honest, and I had such a strong boy feeling anyway!) and I think I’d have been disappointed had I found out DS2 was a DS at birth rather than the scan, with all the hormones and things that go with birth. I found out early at 16 weeks, had time to be a bit disappointed, and then by the time the 20 week scan came round and the sonographer confirmed he was healthy, I was much happier then.

Mumofoneandone · 18/10/2023 15:00

Didn't find out with either DD or DS - midwife loved to being able to tell us!

GigiAnnna · 18/10/2023 15:02

Yes with all 4, I'm impatient and had to know. With my last 2 I couldn't wait and had private scans at 16 weeks to tell me. I don't think it would have affected the bonding process with my babies but it certainly helped me to feel prepared.

EfficientlyDecluttering · 18/10/2023 15:02

No, we wanted to wait and find out when they were born.

mindutopia · 18/10/2023 15:03

We didn't find out with our first, but we did with our second. It was nice to have the surprise, but with one child already, I felt like life would be a lot easier if we knew what we were having - we could decide on a name, we could talk to dd about her brother or sister, we could sort any clothes, etc.

I was happy with those choices each time. We aren't having any more, but if I was, I'd like to know. I'm just not the sort of person really who likes surprises and I like the idea of getting my head around things.

Echobelly · 18/10/2023 15:04

Nope, wanted to be surprised and to not form too many ideas about them before I met them!

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Backtogetheragain · 18/10/2023 15:11

SoupDragon · 18/10/2023 14:51

DS1 - no
DS2 - by accident at a late growth scan
DD - yes.

Their arrivals were all amazing, it made no difference whether I knew the sex already or not. How could it not be? I was meeting my baby for the first time!

No one’s suggested it wouldn’t have been amazing?

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SpaceJamtart · 18/10/2023 15:11

Yes, 1st pregnancy mainly because I was having twins and did not want to have to think up 4 names.
I had all girls, and the second pregnancy I found out again because I had quite liked knowing the first time it was fun and also people had bought baby girl stuff for my first two and I wanted to know if I could reuse it all.

BerriesNutsConkers · 18/10/2023 15:13

No.
When I had dc1 the woman in the next bed had been told she was having boy / boy twins. She already had one boy but didn't mind. She delivered boy / girl twins.....she was shocked but happy

lalaloopyhead · 18/10/2023 15:14

Dd1 no, Dd2 at a late scan (wasn't going to find out but couldn't resist) Dd3 yes at 20w scan - didn't tell anyone though.

readingmakesmehappy · 18/10/2023 15:16

Didn't find out with first as wanted it to be a surprise. Did find out with second so we could prepare DS for the arrival of brother/sister and so he wouldn't be too disappointed if the wrong one appeared.

CorylusAgain · 18/10/2023 15:17

I did.
I wanted to know everything about my baby.

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