Did you find out the sex of your child(ren)?

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just interested!

I found out with DS but when I was having my second baby I wanted a girl so I didn’t find out in case I felt a bit disappointed if she was a boy … as it turned out she was a girl.

If I had a third which I won’t I would find out!

We did. I was having a pretty awful pregnancy and it helped me bond with the baby, which in turn helped me deal with the pain etc. that I was putting myself through to have her.

When I had DS knowing the sex wasn't offered by the hospital.

By the time I had DD the policy had changed but me and dh decided that we didn't want to know.

We’ll also be finding out with DC3 because we’ll need to get our heads around it if it’s a boy. Not because we’d be in any way disappointed but we have two DD’s, I’m one of two girls and nearly all female cousins and family friends’ children. DDs only have female cousins too apart from 1. Lots of XX in our families.

My parents joke that they only know how to parent/grandparent little red-headed girls. My DSis, both of my DDs and I have very distinctive red hair and all look quite similar as babies and young children. Photos would be interchangeable if not for how old and haggard my parents or DH and I look. 😂

DC1 - no
DC2 - yes
DC3 - yes

Would definitely advise people to keep it a surprise (if asked for an opinion) but no regrets about finding out with second and third babies.

Yes for both DS1 and DS2. I'm just too nosy. My best friend didn't find out for her two, she and her DH were very pro surprises. Her DH had two boys from a previous relationship. My friend's first pregnancy was a boy and she was convinced her second pregnancy was going to be a girl. It was another boy and she cried for days after the birth... too many boys in her life. Full on gender disappointment. She wishes she'd found out earlier on, but she is very happy with her two boys now though.

Yes for both!

The surprise at birth wouldn't have been enjoyable with DS because of how traumatic it was anyway!

Yes, with both. I just got the surprise a few months early so was able to plan better with the nursery and clothes etc.

Yes. Although I would have found out anyway because at one of the growth scans the first shot was clearly her vulva. Sonographer turned it away really quickly and then asked if I knew what I was having. I told her I knew and otherwise I would have seen it now. So "not finding out" doesn't have to mean that you don't find out.

Anyway, I wanted to know and I didn't want to discuss more names than necessary. DH and I have a very differing taste in names... my daughter has an okay compromise name. Not an "I love it!" Name.

No. Surprise

Yes I'm far too impatient!

Although wish i hadn't with this (last pregnancy).

Ive got 2 lovely DDs, always wanted a little boy. I've had really bad sickness, terrible skin all the signs of a girl.

Am in fact having a boy! It would of been an amazing surprise but my impatience won 🤣

We didn't officially but then I saw a willy on the screen - DP was distracted and didn't spot it. Then I had an emergency CS and the bloody doctor said "let's get this chap out then" - again DP somehow didn't hear!! So he was the only one to get a surprise. He was convinced we were having a girl so he was extra surprised!

I think I'd like a surprise with the next one.

I had NIPTs with mine so I found out by 12 weeks. More accurate than a scan and quicker. Lots of practical reasons to know, including moving to the catchment of a top girls' comp and sending dc1 to a single sex primary. Fairly normal around here for parents to find out.

Yes. Why wouldn’t you? It’s just another available piece of information you can get from scans, and frankly the roughly 50/50 ‘boy or girl’ isn’t at all ‘surprising’, whether you find out in utero or at birth.

Mine were born 1985 and 1993 so we weren't ever told the sex.
I suppose it just never bothered us and bought neutral colour clothes etc until they were born .( Two daughters in my case) .

First two, no.
Last one, yes.

I wanted to know, but 35+ years ago they were not allowed to tell us. But the nurse doing my ultrasound may have dropped a hint 😁

No. Had the option to but decided not to.

Why wouldn’t you? It’s just another available piece of information you can get from scans, and frankly the roughly 50/50 ‘boy or girl’ isn’t at all ‘surprising’, whether you find out in utero or at birth

Not knowing until birth made it more special for me.

It's not a piece of medical information, it's not necessary to know, so why would I find out? It in no way affected me bonding, or 'knowing' my babies, or being 'prepared'. I didn't care if it was a boy or a girl, I wanted to meet them as a fully formed little person once they arrived.

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We have 4 and never found out with any of them. It was the right decision for us and we've never wished we knew before birth

Yes, in both cases they were very obviously boys even to the untrained eye at the 20 week scan. Lying flat on the backs with their legs wide apart…

Yes

Yes. Disappointed both times. But got over it in time for the birth. I feel no guilt, I knew how I'd feel.
It connected me more to baby actually knowing their sex. Even tho it's all in my head

No.

No and I wouldn’t if I had any more. Just never felt the need to know.