Page 5 | Did you find out the sex of your child(ren)?

Backtogetheragain · 2023-10-18T13:42:33+00:00

just interested! I found out with DS but when I was having my second baby I wanted a girl so I didn’t find out in case I felt a bit disappointed if she was a boy … as it turned out she was a girl. If I had a third which I won’t I would find out!

Thelazygardener · 19/10/2023 09:14

We were on the fence about it but just so happened the exact spot the scanner was placed on my belly my DS made it glaringly obvious that he was a little boy!! The sonographer apologised as we hadn’t yet made our minds up to find out but it was no bother.
it did made organising a little easier but I’m not one for blue and pink anyway so even if he had been a girl it wouldn’t have mattered really.

SallyWD · 19/10/2023 09:17

Yes both times. I didn't have any preference but I was just so intrigued and had to know! I wanted to know whether I had a little boy or a little girl growing inside me. I have no regrets and if I got pregnant again I'd find out.

Abra1t · 19/10/2023 09:18

No. Both times, we wanted a surprise.

MrsSkylerWhite · 19/10/2023 09:18

First, no, second yes.

icebearforpresident · 19/10/2023 09:38

Didn’t find out with either of my kids and both times the midwife commented it was pretty unusual and were as excited as we were to find out. With my first the midwife told us it was a girl, with my second, also a girl, the baby was handed to me before we were told and I was so high on gas and air I had no idea what I was looking at and had to ask 😆

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 19/10/2023 12:27

DeathRattleDazzle · 18/10/2023 22:40

The "I want a surprise" argument always gets an eye roll from me.
You had a 38week long surprise... I had an 18 week long surprise
Whoop Dee doo for both of us...

It's really not the same thing in my view. It is finding out the sex, yes, but in totally different circumstances to each other. Each has their pros and cons but they're not the same experience in my opinion.

In all honesty I do a very tiny internal eye roll at the 'bonding' and 'getting organised' type reasons as I don't really understand that thinking, but each to their own.

To me, it doesn’t compute being in any way bothered what others are doing. Why is it some big mystery why some people might want to know in advance? Why is it some big mystery that others don’t? We found out/will be finding out because we want to know. People can eye roll away.

When people say they’re waiting in real life, I’m mildly disappointed because I’m nosy and want to know. That’s the extent of my feelings on the matter.

F1ymetothetoon · 19/10/2023 12:29

Yes but I was expecting twins so really wanted to know.

LanaL · 08/04/2024 07:37

Yes , I wanted to know - I’m far too impatient to wait! I also wanted to get everything prepared and I didn’t want neutral things - mainly for a girl as I wanted everything pink !

Rocknrollstar · 08/04/2024 08:35

Had my babies back in the day when you couldn’t find out the sex but when I was pregnant with no 2 DD only wanted a brother. We had a boy so it was ok but it would have been good to find out so that we could have tried to prepare her had I been having a girl.

BerriesNutsConkers · 08/04/2024 10:00

No, I waited until both of mine were born.

GameOfJones · 08/04/2024 11:17

No, DH and I both wanted to find out when they were born. I didn't think not wanting to find out the sex at a scan was that unusual until I started speaking to midwives at later appointments (and when I was in labour.) They all without fail said it was exciting as so few people don't find out.

I'm glad I waited as that moment of holding them to my chest then the midwife saying "do you want to look whether you've got a son or a daughter?" was magic.

ConfessionsOfAMumDramaQueen · 08/04/2024 12:54

Unfortunately some don't get that magic moment. My SIL didn't find out. She went to hospital with reduced movements, was in theatre within 20 minutes, baby out. She was alone and open on the table (unable to wait for partner to get there from work), asking what baby was, not realising they were actually desperately resuscitating said baby. Baby had to be whisked off, even transferred to another hospital without her seeing them. She finally got to meet her daughter 2 days later, thankfully now fine. I myself had to have an EMCS when baby got stuck. Knowing wouldn't have made it any less traumatic. By all means wait to find out, but you never know what will happen when it comes to delivery so don't pin all your hopes on this magic moment. Remember, giving birth is the most dangerous thing a woman has done since the dawn of time.

stargirl1701 · 08/04/2024 14:02

No, I didn't. One of life's true surprises. I also don't understand what difference it makes, tbh. Male or female DC are the same until puberty!

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 08/04/2024 18:05

ConfessionsOfAMumDramaQueen · 08/04/2024 12:54

Unfortunately some don't get that magic moment. My SIL didn't find out. She went to hospital with reduced movements, was in theatre within 20 minutes, baby out. She was alone and open on the table (unable to wait for partner to get there from work), asking what baby was, not realising they were actually desperately resuscitating said baby. Baby had to be whisked off, even transferred to another hospital without her seeing them. She finally got to meet her daughter 2 days later, thankfully now fine. I myself had to have an EMCS when baby got stuck. Knowing wouldn't have made it any less traumatic. By all means wait to find out, but you never know what will happen when it comes to delivery so don't pin all your hopes on this magic moment. Remember, giving birth is the most dangerous thing a woman has done since the dawn of time.

This. I posted on this thread when it started and I was pregnant with DS (didn’t know he was a DS). My labour with him very suddenly and very quickly ended with an EMCS under GA. I didn’t get to see him properly for quite some time as I was so out of it. Even my DH didn’t get to see him for an hour after his birth whilst they were ensuring he didn’t have brain damage.

The moment I got to hold him was the magical bit because we were both alive and healthy in spite of being the highest risk of EMCS.

KeepingItUnderTheRadar · 08/04/2024 18:09

Yes for all 3.

Personally I don't understand the whole huge build up of it being a 'surprise'...like that doesn't happen if you find out sooner.

We had two 'build ups'. The build up and excitement to 20 weeks and the 'surprise' of finding out the sex then. Then the build up and excitement from weeks 20-40.

The surprises and things to discover when baby is born are numerous anyway. Weight, length, who do they look like, dark hair or blond, etc etc.

greezelouise · 08/04/2024 18:18

I'm too old. Scans weren't invented when I calved down

Dewdilly · 08/04/2024 18:19

Yes.

menopausalmare · 08/04/2024 18:21

No, both times. Why spoil the surprise?
Ps, thanks for saying sex, not gender.

tinkerbellesslagoon · 08/04/2024 19:33

I didn’t for one of mine. The midwives really love it and seem have extra interest when you go in to give birth. They don’t see it very often so it’s quite special. I’d do it again if I had anymore!