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That a bastard was planning to film during sex

62 replies

Emeraldekh · 15/10/2023 21:11

On a night out with friends, one mate met a male colleague and we got chatting. He is good looking, mid forties, definite spark between us and we arranged to meet up again. But, after me feeling great about the night, my friend overheard him telling the group of men he had arrived with discussing me and that he would set things up in his flat and film us having sex to wank over. I'm in shock and disgusted about that bullet I've just dodged. He didn't come across like that when we were chatting, cocky yes, but I feel so naive to think he was setting me up and I definitely was not up for going to his place. I'm newly divorced to not dated in years and this now has terrified me. It's fucking horrible.

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loseweightpleasegod · 15/10/2023 21:14

Is he in a professional job?

Lunabetty · 15/10/2023 21:24

Sickening

bombastix · 15/10/2023 21:28

That is vile. But take care in dating post divorce. There are quite a few men like this out there; jaded by porn and working out issues with women on their dates. Do not be in s hurry to have sex with them.

Summerscoming23 · 15/10/2023 21:30

What an absolute loser. Thankfully you dodged it. I hope he is never successful in doing this to anyone

MoulinPouge · 15/10/2023 21:32

I would report this to the police. They may well not do anything but a record could help a future victim to make a case.

hamstersarse · 15/10/2023 21:33

Yeah that’s grim

You dodged a bullet and now know to keep your wits about you as you go back into the dating world, there are some gross men out there…..but also some nice ones, you’ve just got to really tune up your twat radar

DoratheFlora · 15/10/2023 21:34

Awful but lucky that you dodged a bullet.

I would definitely take it very slowly and don't leave yourself in a position where you might be coaxed into bed. Best to be celibate for a while than end up with a creep like that.

pilates · 15/10/2023 21:37

Omg that is sickening and I bet he’s done it before

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Emeraldekh · 15/10/2023 21:42

loseweightpleasegod · 15/10/2023 21:14

Is he in a professional job?

He's in a skilled manual job. I think it'll take loads of dates with a man before Ill sleep with him. If ever after this.

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Userxyd · 15/10/2023 21:44

Eww. That is so scary. You're right to be cautious- even after dating for a while. I went to a dates for dinner which was delicious but I think he put rohypnol in my drink- woke up in his bed but thankfully still dressed. Left pretty sharpish - he was an NHS consultant and seemed really nice and a bit dull actually. You can never tell sadly.

saythatagaintome · 15/10/2023 21:47

I would confront him in front of others, and humiliate him so badly he’d piss himself on the spot. I’m serious 😠

JaneyGee · 15/10/2023 21:49

Isn’t that illegal? Surely it must be. Even for an 18-year-old that’s disgusting, but a full-grown man should know better.

Guavafish1 · 15/10/2023 21:50

I'd report it to the police. He probably got loads of recording of other innocent people.

bombastix · 15/10/2023 21:53

I think OP that this is grim. Very sorry for you.

But note that presumably the other men made no comment or agreed with this slime. You don't want any of them; and keep high standards. Probably many of them are married or have partners.

Lachimolala · 15/10/2023 21:58

I would report this to the police. Someone this blasé has done it before.

bonzaitree · 15/10/2023 22:04

Disgusted but not surprised. Nothing surprises me any more.

Dennis Reynolds anyone?

bonzaitree · 15/10/2023 22:04

JaneyGee · 15/10/2023 21:49

Isn’t that illegal? Surely it must be. Even for an 18-year-old that’s disgusting, but a full-grown man should know better.

Yes illegal in the UK.

ProudDada · 15/10/2023 22:18

You sure he actually said this and it wasn't your friend angry he took a liking to you?

PushingPeopleAway · 15/10/2023 22:24

Dada Are you seriously suggesting it’s more likely that her friend would lie than the bloke be a creep?
Believe me there are plenty out there!

something2say · 15/10/2023 22:27

Always looking to minimise and explain it away - and then guess what comes out later? "Surprise!!!"

jlpth · 15/10/2023 22:33

What a fucking creepy animal.

That said, I didn't know it was illegal to film yourself having sex in the UK with someone - presumably the illegal part is if the other person doesn't know about it.

bombastix · 15/10/2023 22:38

It is a criminal offence to film someone having sex without their consent and it is a serious crime. Men who do this are sex offenders and are dangerous.

2jacqi · 15/10/2023 22:38

that is disgraceful!! report it to police

qwerty123454 · 15/10/2023 22:43

ProudDada · 15/10/2023 22:18

You sure he actually said this and it wasn't your friend angry he took a liking to you?

This is what I was just thinking

bombastix · 15/10/2023 22:43

jlpth · 15/10/2023 22:33

What a fucking creepy animal.

That said, I didn't know it was illegal to film yourself having sex in the UK with someone - presumably the illegal part is if the other person doesn't know about it.

It is the case that a sexual partner has a reasonable expectation of privacy during sex. No one can assume that you will have consented by just being in a private place alone.