Well. Here we are.

[Fordian]

Right now, after 19 years, I'm bowing out of MN.

I've dipped in and out, many names, banned once for suggesting kids with severe educational problems won't make great health care professionals; iCod etc etc.

But. Seriously. It's now like Twitter with vibes.

I wish you well. And am sorry you didn't get to experience MN at its best 10-15 years ago.

Ive been here 15 years. It has changed in many ways, the biggest one which I absolutely hate is on most threads some people can’t even be bothered to read the OPs posts, even on a really serious subject matter, before making a post. I find that so rude.

You can still get really brilliant advice here and support, just have to ignore the twats who can’t be arsed to read anything other than the first Opening post.

Trying to understand what 'im ma gunna' brings to the party when it's harder to write than 'I'm going to'

Every day there are people on here desperate because babies won't feed/sleep, partner run off or found cheating, woman in abusive relationship wakes up to it and needs advice on how to get out etc.

Maybe you don't want or need it any more, so what? You've outgrown the school

I think I've been here circa 10 years.

It's definitely changed in that there's a lot more hostility than there used to be. A lot more unnecessary pile ons. It probably is fuelled somewhat by the insta/tiktok/twitter mentality of just chucking in a quick one line quip, rather than replying thoughtfully. The sodding Daily Mail skimming for stories also exposes the site to a wider audience, often with an agenda.

I'm not sure why people recommend Reddit instead. I mean I like Reddit, but in my experience it's just as aggressive and hostile as it can be here.

It definitely was cliquey on here when I first joined though. Many usernames had been the same for a long, long time and posters would hang off the words of certain long time members and wouldnt dare disagree with them, for fear of a scathing retort. I'm glad to see less of that weird "fanclub" dynamic.

I've been here over 16 years. I was better in some ways (loads more swearing, much less Tory bots, less trying to say the meanest thing in the first post) and worse (cliquey, very middle class, and more disabilist)

Well yes, that's one of the big differences. I do, very frequently, whereas in the early days I kept the same name for years (with seasonal variations, not so many do so now either). I think there is a far greater awareness of online privacy now which leads us to NC more, I do miss the days of chatty threads being full of familiar names and them feeling like people you know even if you didn't engage directly with them very often. But it did lead to cliqueyness and accusations of MN Royalty.

Been here since 2002. I think I remember the ‘kids with severe SEN won’t be healthcare professionals’ row. Maybe. There was a lot of unnecessary SN baiting - hence the request for a separate SN board.

It is different now. Much more anonymous - I like that now - and change my name every 5 minutes to maintain that anonymity. There are far more of us posting in our 50s than there were in the early 2000s as well.

If you don’t like it anymore, leave. I you still get something from it, stay. Easy!

Yes. Bye!

I’ve been here a long time. I still enjoy it although my interests have changed. But I agree entirely that it’s a different place. It’s not as funny or supportive.

Someone writes sad or interesting OP
First reply: That never happened
Second reply: Calm down dear.

Or someone makes a mild comment about the sky being blue and is picked apart for it.

I have been here since the GF debacle and well before the Moldies. There were cliques and head girls and the "in crowd" along with lots of humour, sadness and great advice.
The site has grown and changed. There is still something for everyone. Society has changed. I read the bits I want and avoid the bits I dislike.
The bit of MN I stay for are the feminist boards.

Op do you really let mumsnet affect your life this much 😂

Definitely for the best you leaving, maybe get a hobby

Ive been here 13 years too. (Well 13 years and 10 months- to be exact.... I remember exactly when and why i joined!)

I flounced once 2 years ago and deregged.

Managed about 3 days.

I've not been here quite that long but to me it seems the proportion of inane, clueless, reactionary posts or posts with nothing to say (particularly when they've not read the OP or OP's posts) has grown, vs the incisive, cutting, well-informed, articulate, wry or just actually funny posts.

Lots more crap to wade through to get to the good bits, but the good bits are still there.

🤣🤣🤣🤣

And fwiw I'm not n and have never been on Twitter,

Ds is 29 so been here for the required time.

I found it like being a classmate surrounded by prefects all those many years ago. The same posters holding court and no one could question them.

I like it now but agree it's different.

19 3 times I changed it from 29 and it still insisted on posting that 🤦‍♀️

I agree that people aren’t getting the best of Mumsnet these days. When my children were small (15 years ago), you’re right, members held each other up more than pulling them down.

I stay for those that stay to be helpful and offer support. There are lots of them here, but they can on occasion be drowned out by the rude and spiteful which is a shame.

Mumsnet is down but it’s not out.

There is certainly less information and fewer informed people on here. There’s rather more trolls and many more paid to be on here as social media managers or even political influences. Quite a few more men too. There doesn’t seem to be the support or the moderation, and the focus on parenting issues and concerns (which included the futures of our children) has slipped.
Meh. It’s probably good that I spend a lot less time here.

I joined about seven years ago, and there were regular mentions of queen bee posters as MN royalty.

It was wildly off-putting and unsupportive to newbies. So you can't pretend that the vibe you enjoyed 10-15 years ago was available to posters who've joined more recently. If you weren't MN royalty, or sticking your nose up their backsides, you were nothing.

There won't be one single person posts from 15-20 years ago.

What's this supposed to mean?

I've never understood why people post farewell flounces. If you don't give a shit any more, just stop posting 🤷🏻‍♀️

Depends where you're looking.

I don't think it's that much different (have been here in various guises for around 18 years). The political/global landscape has changed so much in that time it's unsurprising the site has changed along with it.

feminism/terfs have maybe got a bit more rabid but there still plenty of support around.

I think it's designed to get all the old posters out of the woodwork, so they can come along and agree with the OP.

Like when someone posts a pic of a puppy on Facebook and it says, "I bet this post won't get a single like".

I've just looked at a new thread by a poster who is feeling really crap physically and looking for help, 6 replies so far, all really helpful and supportive. I think you see what you look for sometimes.

Ha, well it failed! 19 years on here and I disagree . Wonder if they'll come back
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You beat me to it. 😂