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sister furious at me and DD over DD's prank

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namechangedfri29 · 29/09/2023 14:50

I feel mortified and I don't know what to do or tell DSIS to try and make things better between us.

My DSIS' son is 18 years old and has recently started taking driving lessons. He's got a 10-year-old little sister.

My DD is also 18 years old and very close to DNephew.

My nephew has recently entered an online "raffle" type of competition in the hope of winning a car.

Now, here's the problem. My DD thought it would be funny to pull a prank on her cousin and offer her 10 year old cousin to join along.
From my understanding, they sent a text message from a what seems to be a fake number generated by an online app. The text message was sent to my nephew and congratulated him for winning the car and asked him to come get it from the raffle company's office as soon as possible.
It was only once they were about to go in the car that DD and my niece told them all about the joke.

My DSIS and BIL are now furious at their daughter, my daughter and myself.

OP posts:
frenchnoodle · 29/09/2023 21:40

Wouldyouguess · 29/09/2023 21:36

What I find really hilarious is that half the posters go, don't punish her, she after all she's an adult, and the other, oh she's just a kid. So which one is it?

At 18 that depends on where posters are located doesn't it. What a child is varies.

Not a hard concept to understand.

Wouldyouguess · 29/09/2023 21:48

frenchnoodle · 29/09/2023 21:40

At 18 that depends on where posters are located doesn't it. What a child is varies.

Not a hard concept to understand.

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I know, it seems the girl is an idiot child at 18 that is mentally 11 and could do with some consequences and parenting.

mummahbythesea · 29/09/2023 22:43

I’m clearly in the minority but your daughter has said sorry so now it’s time to move on.
She can’t go back and change what she did. She’s also only 18 and has learnt a valuable lesson.

Tell your sister to get over it. Your daughter can’t be punished forever.

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JST88 · 30/09/2023 01:40

It’s not great but ffs are we forgetting these are teenagers? Comments like, unforgivable!’ Are absolutely ludicrous and explains a lot about the thin skinned, pathetic, void of sense of humour generation coming up!

CakeInAJar · 30/09/2023 02:46

See I don’t find jokes like this funny at all. I’m like Ross from friends, I hate pranks and practical jokes.

For one simple reason: they’re designed for one purpose and and one purpose only, and that is to inflict maximum humiliation on a person.

givemeasunnyday · 30/09/2023 03:26

I agree that was a mean thing to do, but don't understand why your sister is angry with you. I hope you gave your DD a stern talking to.

TGGreen · 30/09/2023 09:02

I'd have seriously punished my DD for something so nasty. I'd also be pissed off as your sister if you didn't see the seriousness of what your DD did.

readbooksdrinktea · 30/09/2023 09:12

Your daughter was cruel doing that. How is that funny?

I'm with your sister here, especially if you haven't told your daughter how out of line it was.

RunAwayTurnAwayRunAwayTurnAway · 30/09/2023 09:36

Scary that this immature cruel DD and snowflakey DNephew are going to be on the road soon.

Neither comes out very competently.

Canisaysomething · 30/09/2023 09:37

Jokes made at other people’s expense are humiliating and not funny. Your DD has learnt their lesson by others getting cross. No other punishment needed. Let your sister calm down.

Jadeybabez · 30/09/2023 09:45

I think it was a harmless prank. If it was out of the ordinary I'd say it was mean but they prank eachother, your dd just thought it would be funny.... and she's right 🤷 sis and dn are blowing it out of proportion. It's not like they're poor and can't afford a car (then it would be evil and not funny at all). They'll get over it eventually.

saffy2 · 30/09/2023 09:52

I also would be furious. This is really cruel of your daughter. I would be reading her the riot act, that’s really horrible behaviour and it’s not funny.

Flatandhappy · 30/09/2023 10:09

Wow, what a horrible thing to do. I would find it hard to get my mind past “what a little bitch” so I can kind of understand why she would be pissed off with someone who has raised the kind of girl who thinks is this is funny.

katenutzs · 30/09/2023 10:36

Bloody hell, that's so cruel. I would be so mad too at your D & DN and if you half hearted responded then you too

TheWomanTheyCallJayne · 30/09/2023 11:10

I would be interested to know what some of the other pranks have been. My betting is it’s not much worse than some of them and it’s all down to how the person reacted. In this case because his mother was involved it’s escalated into seeming worse than it was is compared to the others.
I think the parents should stay out of it and let the two of them decide what happens after her apology.

Some people on here are very harsh and come across worse than she does. She’s not a bitch. She made a mistake and took it a bit too far. An error of judgement which is something many many teens that age make. It’ll be a lesson for
both of them and hopefully help them both in their future lives with understandings of decision making and consequences. I would be thankful it was this and not something else.

mintbiscuit · 30/09/2023 11:17

TheWomanTheyCallJayne · 30/09/2023 11:10

I would be interested to know what some of the other pranks have been. My betting is it’s not much worse than some of them and it’s all down to how the person reacted. In this case because his mother was involved it’s escalated into seeming worse than it was is compared to the others.
I think the parents should stay out of it and let the two of them decide what happens after her apology.

Some people on here are very harsh and come across worse than she does. She’s not a bitch. She made a mistake and took it a bit too far. An error of judgement which is something many many teens that age make. It’ll be a lesson for
both of them and hopefully help them both in their future lives with understandings of decision making and consequences. I would be thankful it was this and not something else.

Totally agree with the point about the level of the other pranks.

I don’t think it is that bad tbh. My money on your DSis feeling embarrassed she fell for it too.

Tomselleckhaskindeyes · 30/09/2023 11:21

My husband entered a competition on the radio and you needed to answer the phone at a certain time. My son was with him and decided to ring him with a withheld number. I’ve got to say my husband took it well and they both laughed. When you prank you have to think about the target, if it is cruel and how long you keep the prank going.

Not all pranks are cruel but you need to think them through.

Florenceatemycake · 30/09/2023 11:39

Obviously this wasn't a well thought through prank but people saying it's hateful and unforgiveable need to get some perspective.

Your daughter needs to find a way to show she's sincerely sorry and it will all blow over.

People do stupid things when they're young. Reading the responses on this thread you'd think no one had ever made a mistake.

cutegorilla · 30/09/2023 12:00

moofolk · 29/09/2023 15:22

Wow some of these replies!

Your daughter played a tactless and unkind 'joke' on her cousin who, by the sounds of it, often plays 'jokes' on her.

Yes, it was too far. Yes, it's understandable he's angry but it's not the worst thing one eighteen year old has done to another eighteen year old. Some posters on here need to get a grip.

The parents should butt out, and the kids will probably find this hilarious once the dust settles (which may be some time).

(I'd be absolutely livid if someone did this to me. I don't think it's an ok thing to do but to anyone who says it is uncomfortable needs to get some perspective).

Totally agree. I hate pranks and banter but these two have a history of pranks so it's not like it's completely unexpected. I'm really surprised he didn't suspect something when he got a random text about it too. I wouldn't have been going to collect a car without checking it out properly first.

Yes, it was unkind but let's keep it in perspective. He thought for a short while he had won something he hadn't. It's not nice to be dissappointed like that but he hasn't lost anything. Ive heard of far worse "pranks". She doesn't owe him anything other than an apology and that has already been given.

Hopefully, both teens will have learnt a lesson about pranks and will grow up a bit and rebuild their friendship. That won't happen if the people around them keep blowing it out of all proportion though.

SemperIdem · 30/09/2023 13:33

Flatandhappy · 30/09/2023 10:09

Wow, what a horrible thing to do. I would find it hard to get my mind past “what a little bitch” so I can kind of understand why she would be pissed off with someone who has raised the kind of girl who thinks is this is funny.

Please, please get a grip.

Theydontknowthatweknowthattheyknow · 30/09/2023 13:36

Do the people calling for this girl's blood realise that this prank almost certainly didn't come from a place of malice or harm. Siblings/cousins have done far worse to each other. If both parties don't have the resilience to just get a grip, agree that it was a bit thoughtless and move on then they're never going to survive in the big bad world where there's plenty of people willing to do them actual harm

JudgeRudy · 30/09/2023 14:50

SammyScrounge · 29/09/2023 14:56

Unforgiveable.

I think that's a bit strong....with a heart felt apology and a change of attitude I think most people could get passed this.

JudgeRudy · 30/09/2023 14:58

The cousins are both 18, so adults....just. They have a history of pranking but this one went too far. They both know this. They've both been hurt.
Your daughter has apologised to her cousin but also to her aunt and her younger cousin. Your sister should be using this as a learning experience for her children and hopefully the younger child won't grow up to be a 'prankster'.
I think your sister is over re-acting being mad at you. Maybe next time she brings it up ask her what she actually wants from you or your son. Other than a time machine I think everything that can reasonably be done has been done.

DonaNobisPacem · 30/09/2023 15:12

Reading the OP I thought what a horrible “prank” it was and how I’d be cross too. However now I’ve read all the mad over-reactions on the thread I’m Team DD all the way 😭 Some people really need a sense of perspective.

HelenTherese2 · 30/09/2023 16:55

Kids have always played horrible pranks on each other. It’s what toughens kids up and stops them being soft.

Pretty well conceived and planned in my opinion.

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