I can see it from your side . I really do.
It's not directly affecting us, we don't have to see it, we maybe don't want to see it, so we say it was an accident.
This might help us women to learn why men react the way they do when confronted about sexism. They don't have to see it. It doesn't directly affect them. They brush it off.
I remember being in a group with mostly older men. Two of the men were extremely sexist, making sexual remarks and jokes. I complained about it to the group leader
A younger man in the group, who had actually been my good friend up until that point, totally dismissed what I had said.
We had been good friends before. We went for a coffee after I complained and he was so totally dismissive. I was shocked. He said he hadn't noticed, and he thought I had made a big deal of it by complaining. That I qas the one in the wrong. We fell out over it and I lost a friend.
Now I see, he didn't have to see it as it didn't directly affect him, he didn't want to see itz so he brushed it off.