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Famous (ish) person messaging me

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Cat2014 · 23/09/2023 23:48

I have been chatting to someone who is kind of famous not like seriously film actor famous but social influencer. For a worth while cause , loads of followers and been in the news a lot fairly recently etc.
They have added me to a personal chat and we have been messaging and I think getting closer. I however keep thinking is this actually them? Could it be a member of their ‘staff’ just messing about? How can I trust that their messages are real?

I really like this person and I’m worried in case I’m being duped or something. Has anyone got any advice?

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Jofromthebakery · 23/09/2023 23:50

Face time?

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Cat2014 · 23/09/2023 23:51

Don’t really want to suggest that as I don’t want them to see me!

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cruffinsmuffin · 23/09/2023 23:54

You really like them but don't want them to see you?

Is it a verified account? Like you said sometimes they have staff managing the accounts so it's not always definitely them unless you're on a voice / video call to verify.

00100001 · 23/09/2023 23:54

Why are they contacting you? Like what was their reason to initiate a conversation?

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Cat2014 · 23/09/2023 23:54

Not really as I am not confident in my looks and also I think it would be a bit weird for me to randomly suggest a face time. If they suggested it I’d do it

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pizzaHeart · 23/09/2023 23:54

Do you know anything about timetable of this person and check against the times of the messages?

Tenashelflife · 23/09/2023 23:55

But you need to bite the bullet and see their face otherwise you might just be taken for a ride.

WhateverMate · 23/09/2023 23:55

Cat2014 · 23/09/2023 23:51

Don’t really want to suggest that as I don’t want them to see me!

Why?

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Cat2014 · 23/09/2023 23:55

00100001 · 23/09/2023 23:54

Why are they contacting you? Like what was their reason to initiate a conversation?

I initiated it for help with something that they’re famous for helping with. They did help
then continued the conversation

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Cat2014 · 23/09/2023 23:56

pizzaHeart · 23/09/2023 23:54

Do you know anything about timetable of this person and check against the times of the messages?

Yes it checks out. But not specific enough to be sure

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Screamingabdabz · 23/09/2023 23:56

Is it Russel Brand? If so I wouldn’t be so keen op!

Fiddlerdragon · 23/09/2023 23:56

So where do you see this going then? If you say you’re getting close to them then surely you’re expecting some sort of friendship, if not relationship. You can’t hide from them forever. Going by what you’ve said I doubt it’s the actual celebrity. I think it’s unlikely they’d connect with some random on the internet when they don’t even know what they look like

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Cat2014 · 23/09/2023 23:57

Embarrassed! Too soon? Not confident in my looks? All of it really

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Cat2014 · 23/09/2023 23:57

Ha definitely not

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Yellowcakestand · 23/09/2023 23:57

Of course it's not weird suggesting a facetime, especially if you are messaging regularly. It could be anyone and that's the way to find out. You should do that before meeting anyone IRL really

WhateverMate · 23/09/2023 23:58

What do you mean by 'getting closer'? Are you flirting with one another?

How many messages have gone back and forth that aren't about the actual thing you wanted help with?

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Cat2014 · 23/09/2023 23:59

Fiddlerdragon · 23/09/2023 23:56

So where do you see this going then? If you say you’re getting close to them then surely you’re expecting some sort of friendship, if not relationship. You can’t hide from them forever. Going by what you’ve said I doubt it’s the actual celebrity. I think it’s unlikely they’d connect with some random on the internet when they don’t even know what they look like

They have seen my photo but it’s a good photo! I’m uglier in real life!
friendship definitely but I don’t want to trust too quickly
I guess I just can’t believe it’s the actual person
i wouldn’t go as far as celebrity. More influencer that has had a fair bit of publicity lately

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AnSionnachGlic · 23/09/2023 23:59

Surely if you are not willing to show your face to them / facetime.....the connection can't progress?? You will have to face them face to face at some stage?

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Cat2014 · 24/09/2023 00:01

WhateverMate · 23/09/2023 23:58

What do you mean by 'getting closer'? Are you flirting with one another?

How many messages have gone back and forth that aren't about the actual thing you wanted help with?

Started about the thing; that was resolved
then the person contacted me separately a bit later asking about something connected with the thing

conversation developed from there not flirting exactly just chat but meaningful chat. They ask questions about my life and seem interested in the answers

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Cat2014 · 24/09/2023 00:01

AnSionnachGlic · 23/09/2023 23:59

Surely if you are not willing to show your face to them / facetime.....the connection can't progress?? You will have to face them face to face at some stage?

Yes thats true i just don’t want to initiate that certainly not yet

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Cat2014 · 24/09/2023 00:02

Yellowcakestand · 23/09/2023 23:57

Of course it's not weird suggesting a facetime, especially if you are messaging regularly. It could be anyone and that's the way to find out. You should do that before meeting anyone IRL really

I can’t meet irl anyway at the moment as they live in another country. At the moment it is just chat but when we haven’t chatted for a bit they always initiate

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TaigaSno · 24/09/2023 00:24

Could it be that they are just continuing to support you? Like for example if they are a life coach and you contacted them about that and now they are just continuing to follow up with you?
If you are in another country, and you don't see a real-life relationship forming, then I don't see any issue with continuing a digital conversation. It could just be friendly chat that they maintain with lots of people. Just beware of being asked for money etc, because then you know they are not genuine.

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Cat2014 · 24/09/2023 00:29

TaigaSno · 24/09/2023 00:24

Could it be that they are just continuing to support you? Like for example if they are a life coach and you contacted them about that and now they are just continuing to follow up with you?
If you are in another country, and you don't see a real-life relationship forming, then I don't see any issue with continuing a digital conversation. It could just be friendly chat that they maintain with lots of people. Just beware of being asked for money etc, because then you know they are not genuine.

Yes this could be it. I’ve had a message tonight that makes me think is it actually them and they genuinely want to continue digital communication but that’s it. It’s possible they do this with lots of people. Makes sense.
the person is amazing - i can’t believe it’s actually them but I think it possibly is.

the issue I needed help with has been resolved but there are other factors and it may just be this. I will continue chatting but not take it too seriously and Will be careful with personal details
thanks

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Puppyseahorse · 24/09/2023 00:30

How about a voice note? Would you recognise their voice?

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Cat2014 · 24/09/2023 00:33

Yes a voice note is a good idea. Thanks. Yes I would be able to tell

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