Famous (ish) person messaging me

[Cat2014]

I have been chatting to someone who is kind of famous not like seriously film actor famous but social influencer. For a worth while cause , loads of followers and been in the news a lot fairly recently etc.
They have added me to a personal chat and we have been messaging and I think getting closer. I however keep thinking is this actually them? Could it be a member of their ‘staff’ just messing about? How can I trust that their messages are real?

I really like this person and I’m worried in case I’m being duped or something. Has anyone got any advice?

Also remember that famous people are just people! If you engaged with them in a professional capacity then they are doing a job/service and following up on it. Don't let the fact that they are famous sway your opinion of them.

If you don't want them to see you, nothing will come of the relationship anyway, so does it matter if theyre real or not

You lije the person you're messaging. The picture you sent is a little misleading.

If thw per you're messaging has misled you about their name, is it any different?

You can now put voices notes together digitally so not sure I'd trust that.

Why not say your concerns. They can take a photo holding date or something.

This can be a common scam. No face to face, all messages. Then one day they have some legal issues and ask your if you can loan them money to tide them over. Be very careful. These scammers put months of effort into reeling people in. Not saying that what's happening here, but be aware just in case.

Are they a lot older than you?

Even if it is the person themselves, it doesn't mean they are 100% trustworthy. They might be very generous in some respects, but people have a light and dark side. So continue to proceed with caution.

Check it’s a verified account ie on insta with the blue dot etc, the reason I say this is I’ve twice had people engage with me who I realised were fakes. It’s creepy as fuck. They set up a whole profile. The first one, I found the verified account and asked if it was them on a private message, he responded and said no , the second I just knew.

You sound quite vulnerable so I would proceed with caution.

Someone from the royal family?

My first thought was that it could be a scam. Sorry. Someone has somehow got hold of your details and are impersonating them. Or as you say, it’s one of their staff.

Can you send person a gift - maybe a distinctive scarf, card, book etc and see if she thanks you for ut.

If they’re asking personal stuff about you, please be careful.

I would not allow it to develop romantically - as you've not met in real life. That includes request for intimate photos or chat. Also never give money under any circumstances.

This can't develop truly unless you meet irl.

Just tell them you're worried about this and get them to take a photo holding up today's paper or a piece of paper with your name written on it or something.

Shouldn't be a big deal if they're genuine and if they're semi-famous they'll understand your concerns.

@Cat2014
Through watching catfish, can you put there mobile number in to search bars on face book and Google and that to see what it brings up.

With AI technology its actually now possible to scam/deceive on a videocall. It sounds impossible but I watched an episode on 60mins austrailia recently on YouTube about a woman who did a videocall with the supposed person and the scammer used some technology to make it appear they were the purported person. Its nuts.

It does sound like a scam. They are not even in your country.... Sorry.

When I messaged a probably only famous to those who listen to Radio 4 person, the person who responded was very upfront about the fact they weren't him and were a member of his management team. Still very pleasant though and resolved what I wanted to talk about.

In your case @Cat2014 I'd maybe ask something like "how do you find the time to keep responding to people like this, you must be so busy" sort of thing.

You want very honest advice?

Stop being so overinvested
Stop imagining a romantic future with some who... lives in a different country and you don't know /have never met.

This won't end well and you'll get very hurt if you don't manage your expectations

I would double check the account that's it's their genuine account.

You say they raise awareness for a charity and that you contacted them regarding a specific health issue presumably related to what they do. So yes its totally plausible they would reply and support and continue to stay in touch. It may be them answering every time or it could be a member of their team.

I would read this as they are a nice person and want to support you due to your health issue. I'd be careful not to read more into this it's not really a friendship. It's more like professional support. If you like it and it helps that's great.

This could easily be a scam but to me it could also be you’re easily impressed by someone who is a normal person who has gathered some followers and had a bit of publicity recently. Is it their official account and not one with a similar name (often with a miss spelling?). I doubt they have an assistant who can be bothered to fake being them for a bit of conversation. Influencers are just people making money via social media and aren’t anything special. I don’t mean the person can’t be special as people can be nice people but follow count doesn’t make them more special than others. Keep chatting to them if you enjoy the convo but worth keeping in mind. Don’t worry about how you look, as I say they are normal too and you probably only see highly filtered and staged images of them. They will also have friends and family who look in all sorts of ways.

That's what I thought about as soon as I read it

What was the help they gave you?