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Famous (ish) person messaging me

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Cat2014 · 23/09/2023 23:48

I have been chatting to someone who is kind of famous not like seriously film actor famous but social influencer. For a worth while cause , loads of followers and been in the news a lot fairly recently etc.
They have added me to a personal chat and we have been messaging and I think getting closer. I however keep thinking is this actually them? Could it be a member of their ‘staff’ just messing about? How can I trust that their messages are real?

I really like this person and I’m worried in case I’m being duped or something. Has anyone got any advice?

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horseyhorsey17 · 26/09/2023 09:29

PyongyangKipperbang · 25/09/2023 22:53

Someone I know is in this right now. He will not listen to reason. Has lost his wife and family, his friends are all trying to help him see sense but he has had some sort of breakdown we think.

In his case it is Selena Gomez and he has sent ££££.....we all know how hard up she must be..... Lots of daft things like she was due in the UK to see him (to stay in his mums back bedroom since his wife kicked him out) but couldnt because "She had to work". She is a massive star, not me getting called in for a last minute shift to cover sickness at the Co-op, but he wont have it! Oh and when Taylor Swift started sending him nudes (got his number from Selena) he told her back off and have respect for his relationship with Selena.

But this isnt on TV. Its happening right now. Its absolutely tragic and when he finally gets dumped by "Selena" because he has run out of money, he is going to crash hard. Personally I think that he does suspect but needs the fantasy for some reason and also is desperately hanging on to the vain hope that it might be true as he will feel like ten types of twat admitting he has been taken. Its like watching a slow motion car crash that you are powerless to stop.

Wow! How old is your friend? Is he super-hot or is he just an average dad who thinks he's in a relationship with Selena Gomez and SHE needs money from HIM. I mean - he can't really think that can he?

I was catfished at the weekend - not by anyone famous, just a guy on a dating site, he turned up and it was a completely different person from the profile - and it's quite a weird thing. It's put me off bothering with online dating again, you can't trust anyone in those shark pools.

VickyBlue · 26/09/2023 09:36

Videocall. Come on try to work this stuff out for yourself.

SirQuintusAureliusMaximus · 26/09/2023 09:51

Videocall. Come on try to work this stuff out for yourself.

You should probably take a dose of your own medicine.

It's well known that these days video calls can be faked and separately there is type of extortion scam related to video calls where the person performs sex acts/strips and records your reaction.

As I keep saying, everyone who is a bit naive or doesn't have time or inclination to find out about scams should watch a few episodes of Love or Money and you'll see how frequent and easily this stuff happens.

Deep fakes of an apparently live image of a famous person or more likely a very good looking non-famous model/army chief/rugby player is now achievable. There are a number of these on that BBC programme where the scammed victim is all "but I SPOKE TO HIM" and has an explanation but is still " i love him. i spoke to him'

https://metro.co.uk/2022/06/15/dont-be-fooled-by-fake-video-calls-how-to-spot-facetime-trickery-16819197/

https://tech.hindustantimes.com/tech/news/scam-alert-do-not-take-video-calls-from-contacts-you-just-met-on-dating-apps-serious-trouble-ahead-71666871800967.html

https://socialcatfish.com/scamfish/fake-video-chat-how-to-tell-if-your-video-call-is-real/

https://www.thetechedvocate.org/how-are-fake-live-video-calls-made-heres-how-to-spot-them/

Scam ALERT: Do NOT take video calls from contacts you just met on dating apps, Serious trouble ahead

https://tech.hindustantimes.com/tech/news/scam-alert-do-not-take-video-calls-from-contacts-you-just-met-on-dating-apps-serious-trouble-ahead-71666871800967.html

Thelnebriati · 26/09/2023 10:07

Videocall. Come on try to work this stuff out for yourself.
There's nothing to work out. The Famous Person has asked for money. Thats the point you realise its grift and end the 'relationship'.

Jack80 · 26/09/2023 10:09

I would ask about them see if you can verify it. Don’t tell them too much about yourself.

LuluLouise · 26/09/2023 10:34

I agree, a Zoom/Google Meet call to discuss the project you're working on would be best, keep it all light and work related and it should be fine. You can then ponder the situation afterwards.

Underthebridgeinaforeignland · 26/09/2023 11:04

Even if it really is them, remember they’re a social influencer and it’s their job to build relationships with their followers. It’s nothing personal. Probably having the same chat with hundreds of other people too.

CoughingMajoress · 26/09/2023 11:50

To people that find it hilarious that someone might believe a 'celebrity' might private message, they get bored and have huge egos too, Greg Wallace met his wife on SM and for Jason Mansford and several other serial cheats it's their well documented MO.

Yeah, I don't know why people are pooh poohing the idea that famous or vaguely famous-ish people ever use social media.

One of my close friends has slept with a boy bander and a soap star who both Dmd her on Insta. A friend of a friend who lives in Atlanta slept with a very famous American rapper who DMd her. If you're young and hot (or just young and show skin), this happens all the time.

I follow a lot of writers (novelists and screenwriters) and they nearly all maintain their own social media feeds and engage with fans personally. One of my best friends is a multi-award winning screenwriter and showrunner and he follows and DMs anyone who asks for advice or pays a compliment.

(But obviously he doesn't ever ask anyone for money!)

WotsitsMadeIn1927 · 26/09/2023 13:29

Cat2014 · 23/09/2023 23:48

I have been chatting to someone who is kind of famous not like seriously film actor famous but social influencer. For a worth while cause , loads of followers and been in the news a lot fairly recently etc.
They have added me to a personal chat and we have been messaging and I think getting closer. I however keep thinking is this actually them? Could it be a member of their ‘staff’ just messing about? How can I trust that their messages are real?

I really like this person and I’m worried in case I’m being duped or something. Has anyone got any advice?

I’d be very careful. I’ve had numerous profiles messaging me on both Instagram and Tik tok claiming to be a famous person. So has my sister. It’s actually an ongoing in joke that we call ‘a legit profile’ so we will message each other and say ‘omg!! A legit Brad Pitt has messaged me!’.

Id say keep your guard up and unless you see this person via video call to confirm, please be careful and do not hand over any money what so ever.

Sorry for the downer OP 💐

Flyhigher · 26/09/2023 20:48

Jason Mansford. Nooo. What? Is he a cheat? Nooo.

PyongyangKipperbang · 27/09/2023 01:23

Flyhigher · 26/09/2023 20:48

Jason Mansford. Nooo. What? Is he a cheat? Nooo.

I know nothing about any celebs and even I knew about that one!

KitBumbleB · 27/09/2023 17:36

Absolutely gutted about the amount of people "Elon Musk" has messaged, he promised I was the only one!

YerArseInParsley · 29/09/2023 07:39

Jason Manford is a cheat? I haven't heard this one.

lilkitten · 29/09/2023 11:38

CoughingMajoress · 26/09/2023 11:50

To people that find it hilarious that someone might believe a 'celebrity' might private message, they get bored and have huge egos too, Greg Wallace met his wife on SM and for Jason Mansford and several other serial cheats it's their well documented MO.

Yeah, I don't know why people are pooh poohing the idea that famous or vaguely famous-ish people ever use social media.

One of my close friends has slept with a boy bander and a soap star who both Dmd her on Insta. A friend of a friend who lives in Atlanta slept with a very famous American rapper who DMd her. If you're young and hot (or just young and show skin), this happens all the time.

I follow a lot of writers (novelists and screenwriters) and they nearly all maintain their own social media feeds and engage with fans personally. One of my best friends is a multi-award winning screenwriter and showrunner and he follows and DMs anyone who asks for advice or pays a compliment.

(But obviously he doesn't ever ask anyone for money!)

I'm talking to a couple of well-known pro sports players, who I met through a kink app. There's a lot of people who keep their private life discreet, one guy dates women in public where he can have a macho image, but he sought me out to be more submissive.

GrannyHelen1 · 29/09/2023 13:54

Have you ever watched a programme called Catfish? Or an oline production called Social Catfishing? I strongly recommend watching them, and also that you maintain a very high level of suspicion and cynicism aboiut your online interactions. There is a chance that this is a genuine contact, but tbh the chances are very low.

Gmary20 · 29/09/2023 19:09

I heard he's been in an accident abroad and needs you to send £5000 as he doesn't have access to his bank accounts!!

SirQuintusAureliusMaximus · 29/09/2023 22:49

To people that find it hilarious that someone might believe a 'celebrity' might private message, they get bored and have huge egos too, Greg Wallace met his wife on SM and for Jason Mansford and several other serial cheats it's their well documented MO.

Yeah, I don't know why people are pooh poohing the idea that famous or vaguely famous-ish people ever use social media.

You both might want to watch He's Just Not That Into You which has a nice exposition of why the exception is not the rule. To which I'd add Greg Wallace??? GREG WALLACE?? I think he met two wives on Twitter. but GREG WALLACE????Grotesque doesn't begin... you aren't selling this to us.

Or as doctors have it, if you hear the sound of hooves, it's horses not zebras.

Wise up. Wise up.

CoughingMajoress · 30/09/2023 04:28

SirQuintusAureliusMaximus · 29/09/2023 22:49

To people that find it hilarious that someone might believe a 'celebrity' might private message, they get bored and have huge egos too, Greg Wallace met his wife on SM and for Jason Mansford and several other serial cheats it's their well documented MO.

Yeah, I don't know why people are pooh poohing the idea that famous or vaguely famous-ish people ever use social media.

You both might want to watch He's Just Not That Into You which has a nice exposition of why the exception is not the rule. To which I'd add Greg Wallace??? GREG WALLACE?? I think he met two wives on Twitter. but GREG WALLACE????Grotesque doesn't begin... you aren't selling this to us.

Or as doctors have it, if you hear the sound of hooves, it's horses not zebras.

Wise up. Wise up.

Nah, most famous people who aren't Hollywood A list use social media. Quite a few celebs use social media under fake accounts so they can spy on what's being said about them without ever posting. And minor celebs in particular, especially if they're young and new to fame, get a bit carried away engaging with their online fandoms. People drawn to aggressively pursue celebrity tend to have a very specific personality type, which is ego-driven and loves attention. My best friend has worked with more or less every famous actor in the UK, so I'm around celebs a lot, and a ton of them have Finstas or are obsessed with social media.

It's not the exception to the rule at all, it's the context of the person receiving it. Obviously requests for money always mean scam. If you're middle aged, you aren't going to get hookup DMs. But if you tweet or DM your favourite novelist, or a B-list British TV actor, then it's not especially unusual to get a nice reply back saying thanks for watching or answering a fan question. I've DM chatted with quite a few fairly well-known writers and actors (who I've later spoken to in person and they referenced our DM chats, so it was definitely the real person).

Trust me, if you were a 22yr old with an Insta account full of pouting selfies, you'd be getting DM slides or Raya requests from celebs every other day.

If you were involved in a fandom, that would change things too, depending on what fandom.

Influencers (which is what OP's "celeb" is) are a totally different kettle of fish since social media is their whole career and fame, and they have to actively engage with comments and DMs to build and keep their following. A lot of influencers are scam artists but not catfish, they use their real identities to scam fans into sending money.

There's a pretty massive difference between getting a DM out of the blue from TomCruise99 (with 0 followers) and tweeting, say, Caitlin Moran or Richard Herring and getting a nice DM back.

SirQuintusAureliusMaximus · 03/10/2023 21:02

It's not the exception to the rule at all,

Of course it is. Greg Wallace. FFS. The odd celebrity may marry people or have relationships with people they meet on social media but it is exceptional.

The odds are very strongly that it's a scam or at the absolute best (assuming its the real person which itself is doubtful) a quick disposable fuck. The OP was all 'we are getting closer'.

We aren't talking about getting a nice reply from a celeb we are talking about potential relationship territory.

The fact it can happen doesn't change the odds and you are wrong to be encouraging someone vulnerable to think otherwise. Or indeed others who may happen upon this thread.

YerArseInParsley · 04/10/2023 04:47

I got this from Lewis Capaldi last night. Fb got to him before I could read his declaration of love.

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