Famous (ish) person messaging me

[Cat2014]

I have been chatting to someone who is kind of famous not like seriously film actor famous but social influencer. For a worth while cause , loads of followers and been in the news a lot fairly recently etc.
They have added me to a personal chat and we have been messaging and I think getting closer. I however keep thinking is this actually them? Could it be a member of their ‘staff’ just messing about? How can I trust that their messages are real?

I really like this person and I’m worried in case I’m being duped or something. Has anyone got any advice?

You sound very in thrall to celebrity. That's going to make you vulnerable whether they are the real person or not.

They are just normal people like you or I. No better, and in some cases far worse.

That's exactly what I thought...

Just don't send any money, whatever disaster befalls them!

Do not get emotionally invested. I would just bow out now. So many men online do this- it's an ego boost and if it hasn't developed already to the stage expect it to turn sexual soon. You'll be one of many.

Are their initials NS?

Don't "trust your gut"! Your gut is telling you that this charming dynamic person who you admire is picking you out from the crowd. Trust your brain-which is telling that while this is possible, it's also statistically unlikely. Proceed with extreme caution!

Meaningful chat about your life? This could be a scam, harvesting personal data.

Makes sense.

Oh what a shame. I would still do the voice note thing.

How can it be a scam when they actually helped you? Was it help in a way that any old person could have done?

Thinking about who has been in the news lately oth r than RB and the only thing I can think of is that DanTDM was on the news giving an interview this week! If he helped you with something Minecraft related it could be real!

Op. you probably aren't the only one "influencers" tend to have a bit of an ego and need it stroked you approached them about something and they have more than likely caught on that you are a fan. Try and not be whisked up in something that dozens of others think the same.

Oops!

@Cat2014 Don't "trust your gut"! Your gut is telling you that this charming dynamic person who you admire is picking you out from the crowd. Trust your brain-which is telling that while this is possible, it's also statistically unlikely. Proceed with extreme caution!

Exactly what I thought as soon as I read it.

I would just presume you’re having meaningful, helpful conversations with a random on the internet, and leave it at that. I agree that not giving any personal details is very sensible. If you do a FaceTime that’s different, but I definitely wouldn’t be sure I was taking to the actual celebrity until that happens, so I wouldn’t expect any kind of friendship. I think they’re probably just a helpful person by nature, and spend a lot of time trying to help people they meet on the internet.

Scam or not, I'd dial the amount of communication right down. Ask yourself, what's the point here, if you do not want him to see you then is a text only conversation worth this amount of doubt?

Hmmmm, I would just proceed with caution. Don't give too much away. Definitely don't send money! I would actually contact them in a different way. Through their social media account or something and say WhatsApp isn't working or some kind of excuse. See what happens?

The only way to be truly sure is to bite the bullet and FaceTime. If the alternative is to stop it altogether because you think it’s a scam, then surely FaceTime is the better option even if it possibly then leads to things ending? One definitely ends thing, one possibly ends thing,

Insist on a facetime chat you are emotionally involved, and the person knows that. How do you know he is not sat with his girl getting a huge ego boost from this chat? Don't get carried away chatting. Actions are what counts NOT words.

You need to see the person you are chatting with, that its not a neighbour or scammer who needs money to come visit etc.

Are you a teenager?

I think it’s highly unlikely this is the celeb/influencer. If they’re at all famous, they’ll have vast numbers of fans - and they pick you out? I’m sure you’re lovely but, seriously, what are the odds of that?

Celebs don’t engage with the normal people - for their own protection (scared of secrets being shared, scared of the paparazzi, etc, etc). Even if it is the actual person, their interest is highly likely to be professional only - ie boosting their brand.

I just listened to an entire podcast about people being duped for years, some swindled out of 100s of 1000s of pounds. The emotional toil was awful and even once they were exposed found it very hard to believe it wasn't real. Don't trust it at all.

Even if it isn’t a scam, it sounds like it is the persons “celebrity” status that has you invested. Ask yourself if you’d be feeling the same way if it was Fred from down the road. That might help you step away.

And I don’t mean that in a derogatory way. We’ve all had celebrity crushes!

Same happened to me.. loads of followers .. charity etc etc . l asked for Face time.. he wouldn't turned out was a psychopath. So l read Carolyn Woods book.

There was a woman on TV recently who thought she and George Ezra were communicating. She felt is was absolutely real. She had originally left a post on his fan page. It was a scammer.

Have they asked for money? Then it’s a scam. If they don’t ask for anything other than how you are etc I don’t see how it could be a scam.