Ds' College Graduation is tomorrow.
He has Autism & needed a significant amount of support to pass his course.
I provided it: exH left the family home 2 years ago (we are divorcing now). I drove him in every day, listened to him at midnight, liased with staff for extra support, went in for meetings, did his student loan, DSA, equipment, the lot)
I did that as he is my son & I love him & he deserves it. His Father did nothing.
ExH knows that Ds has a Graduation. I have told him. He's obviously forgotten.
He has just returned from a trip away & messaged to say he 'has a stinking cold but might see kids over weekend'. I've spent the last week sorting Ds University arrangments which have been convoluted & stressful (last min change of plans)
I bought tickets enough for exH to attend as I think Ds would like this but I'm feeling weary at the thought of arranging it all for him too, as well as getting myself, Ds with ASD & his little sister with ASD to the venue tomorrow, suited & booted, arranging the pics & to go somewhere nice for coffee & cake after.
ExH will want a lift (doesnt drive any more & no real public transport), he will budge in front of me to take pics & generally 'take over'. But, now I've opened the stupid text (I thought it would be to check arrangements for tomorrow) I feel mean. Do I ask Ds what HE would like or just let exH & him sort it if they want?