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Hugh Jackman and wife splitting...

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Oopsididitagaintomorrow · 15/09/2023 18:38

Just been announced in Daily Mail - shocked me to be honest. Always thought they were solid and made to last!

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Covetthee · 16/09/2023 08:57

they are saying lockdown and the latest strikes caused it. So as soon as they had to actually spend time together as husband and wife, they decided its not working?

anyways im sure he will be stepping out with a 20/30 year old in a few months

Zenana · 16/09/2023 09:00

Dustyblue · 16/09/2023 05:44

Wait what- Prince Edward is gay?

He's bi isn't he?

mydogisthebest · 16/09/2023 15:46

Covetthee · 16/09/2023 08:57

they are saying lockdown and the latest strikes caused it. So as soon as they had to actually spend time together as husband and wife, they decided its not working?

anyways im sure he will be stepping out with a 20/30 year old in a few months

That's exactly what me and DH said to each other. So all the time he was away filming they were happily married but once they actually spent some time together they weren't!

Pretty sad really

AcrossthePond55 · 16/09/2023 16:55

mydogisthebest · 16/09/2023 15:46

That's exactly what me and DH said to each other. So all the time he was away filming they were happily married but once they actually spent some time together they weren't!

Pretty sad really

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It is sad. But certainly not unprecedented.

But I know a (now divorced) couple where the wife skedaddled as soon as he announced his retirement date. And no one blamed her one bit. He wasn't violent or abusive per se. Just a motor mouthed know it all whose main topic of conversation was himself and his various 'accomplishments' for which he expected much praise and 'astonishment'. We loved her, and tolerated him for her sake.

He had a job that kept him away from home overnight frequently or he'd be up and gone before she woke and home long after she was abed so they only really saw each other weekends or odd days. When she realized that they'd be together 24/7/365 she realized she would lose her sanity.

Not saying either Hugh or Deborra-Lee are like that, but there was obviously something about one that rubbed the other the wrong way.

If as a result either of them 'finds true love again' that's lovely. But if Hugh starts taking up with 20-something 'starlets' I'll have to admit I'll be disappointed.

mydogisthebest · 16/09/2023 17:26

AcrossthePond55 · 16/09/2023 16:55

It is sad. But certainly not unprecedented.

But I know a (now divorced) couple where the wife skedaddled as soon as he announced his retirement date. And no one blamed her one bit. He wasn't violent or abusive per se. Just a motor mouthed know it all whose main topic of conversation was himself and his various 'accomplishments' for which he expected much praise and 'astonishment'. We loved her, and tolerated him for her sake.

He had a job that kept him away from home overnight frequently or he'd be up and gone before she woke and home long after she was abed so they only really saw each other weekends or odd days. When she realized that they'd be together 24/7/365 she realized she would lose her sanity.

Not saying either Hugh or Deborra-Lee are like that, but there was obviously something about one that rubbed the other the wrong way.

If as a result either of them 'finds true love again' that's lovely. But if Hugh starts taking up with 20-something 'starlets' I'll have to admit I'll be disappointed.

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No, it they may not be the first couple to split because they suddenly had to spend more time together but you can hardly say you have a happy marriage if you are unable to spend significant amounts of time together.

They won't be the only couple to find during the lockdowns that they weren't actually that happy but plenty of couples were happy to have all that enforced time together

AcrossthePond55 · 16/09/2023 17:46

mydogisthebest · 16/09/2023 17:26

No, it they may not be the first couple to split because they suddenly had to spend more time together but you can hardly say you have a happy marriage if you are unable to spend significant amounts of time together.

They won't be the only couple to find during the lockdowns that they weren't actually that happy but plenty of couples were happy to have all that enforced time together

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Not what you and I might consider a 'happy marriage', but I suppose if each of you is 'individually happy enough' then I can see why someone might consider it 'happy' as in 'no strife or disappointment'. To each his/her own I guess. Not gonna judge anyone else's definition of 'happy'.

My friend considered hers a 'happy marriage' up until the point she realized it was only 'happy' because she never saw him. He still considers that they were 'happily married' and is still completely baffled and puts it down to 'she must have been cheating'. She wasn't.

DH and I were long retired by the time lockdown hit so it didn't make any difference to us. We were pretty much together all the time anyway.

LunaNorth · 16/09/2023 17:52

Justleaveitblankthen · 16/09/2023 05:55

Ooh! This has made my weekend! 🤭

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Yeah, DH told me about that years ago. He was seeing a West End singer in the 90s (not famous) and PS and JD were caught in a compromising position backstage.

Bugbabe1970 · 16/09/2023 19:54

Not supposed at all….he’s gay isn’t he?

grayhairdontcare · 16/09/2023 19:54

Having read the article in The Times.
I would definitely say the Brand is in serious trouble and so are those organisations who allowed it to continue

Meowandthen · 16/09/2023 20:04

HoliHormonalTigerLillyTheSecond · 15/09/2023 22:45

How does being "a known swordsman" mean you're not gay??! 😂😂😂

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Bless you for not understanding what that means.

Bugbabe1970 · 16/09/2023 20:06

🤣🤣

hazandduck · 16/09/2023 20:18

DH and I saw this news and have agreed if either of us get a chance with Hugh, we both have permission to go for it, for the sake of our kids, who are utterly obsessed with The Greatest Showman and one of his lesser known roles, Flushed Away. It would make their lives to have him as their stepdad 😆

Mochudubh · 16/09/2023 20:23

Bit of a tangent but I have a friend who's a massive Manly Barrowload fan (RIP Sir Tel). She was absolutely DEVASTATED, no exaggeration, when he married his manager (male). I still don't get it, even if he was heterosexual, he was hardly going to rock up at her door to say "Morag. Where have you been all my life, come away with me".

I mean. if you fancy someone famous, it's highly unlikely you'll get together (apart from a few instances eg Gary Newman married a fan). So does it really matter whether they're gay or not?

If it worked for HJ and his wife and there was no deceit it's not necessarily "sad".

EconomyClassRockstar · 16/09/2023 23:59

hazandduck · 16/09/2023 20:18

DH and I saw this news and have agreed if either of us get a chance with Hugh, we both have permission to go for it, for the sake of our kids, who are utterly obsessed with The Greatest Showman and one of his lesser known roles, Flushed Away. It would make their lives to have him as their stepdad 😆

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I literally laughed out loud at that! 😂

mydogisthebest · 17/09/2023 07:44

If the marriage was supposedly fake to cover the fact that he is gay why would they split?

Also doesn't really make sense that they say being together during covid made them realise they were not happy as, again, if it were a fake marriage they would never have been "happy" really. Plus pretty sure they had a big enough house that they could did not have to be together much. Not like they were living in a tiny high rise flat

Sugarcoatt · 17/09/2023 07:48

Maybe they decided to stay together until their youngest was 18, which happened recently. At the time they got married there was more of a need for mainstream actors to conceal their sexuality. Then they stuck with it for the sake of the kids. Now the kids have left home and they want to live their own lives.

Figgygal · 17/09/2023 07:58

It's sad (I know this) but I'm so sad by this
I saw his tour in 2019 and my biggest take away was how much he loved her.
I did think it odd he was still in the UK given he's just kicking his heels with the ongoing strikes but I guess that partly explains it

Just opens him up for me I guess 😍

glowfrog · 17/09/2023 08:04

I've often wondering whether the rumours about HJ being gay come down to the fact people can't accept he's married a woman 13 years older than him.

That said, to those who wonder why he's felt the need to hide his sexuality - it was the late 90s when he married her and his career started taking off - and honestly I think it's only in the last few years that it's truly become easier for actors to be out and have a successful career.

Sugarcoatt · 17/09/2023 08:10

I also think there’s still a lot of discrimination against male performers. If he tap dances and sings he must be gay right?

Weirdly this doesn’t seem to apply to younger males - for example Tom Holland, who sings and dances and has even danced in drag, yet everyone seems happy to accept he’s straight. Because if you’re younger you’re allowed to be more fluid with your gender expression.

3catsandcounting · 17/09/2023 12:38

Even in our enlightened times, many male actors would become less fit for the role of romantic leads, if they came out.

TheGhostofLoganRoy · 17/09/2023 13:59

I don't know Hugh Jackman or know anything about him personally, but I work in the entertainment industry and I think most people would be surprised by the reality of it. The entertainment industry is actually deeply conservative pretending and paying lip service to being woke, and almost all the people in positions of power are white, privately educated blokes who regard minorities as tokens at best. I think people imagine entertainment is really liberal and anything goes, and it's the opposite.

The entertainment industry is still very homophobic and there's still a lot of pressure to not be publicly out. I know a lot of people including famous people who are out within the industry and within their own social circle, but closeted in terms of their public persona. My closest friend is very famous and is bisexual and has had long term relationships with men and women, but does the "I never talk about my private life" thing in interviews (and actually I think most fans assume he's gay). I have another good friend who's becoming a pretty famous actor, he's gay and in a long term relationship with a man, and honestly isn't hiding at all, just not announcing anything. His Insta is full of photos of him clubbing wearing outrageous clothes, tons of photos of him with his boyfriend on holiday and stuff, and there's not a whisper online or any suspicion that he might be gay. A tabloid made up some insane lie that he was dating his female co-star and even now on fanforums everyone just takes for granted that he's straight and with this actress.

And this is actors in their 20s who are breaking through now, in 2023. Still having to hide (or at least not broadcast) their sexuality and heterosexuality still being seen as the default.

mydogisthebest · 17/09/2023 14:12

@TheGhostofLoganRoy

I can well believe that actors feel the need to hide the fact that they are gay but that's why I am surprised him and his wife are splitting up. If it really is a fake marriage why would they split after so long? Surely if there are already rumours that he is gay they will increase tenfold?

MattDamon · 17/09/2023 16:19

@TheGhostofLoganRoy Great post and completely agree.

I'm friends with an up and coming actress. She lives with her girlfriend and has lots of lesbian friends, she keeps her social media and professional bios free from any mention of her sexuality. I was surprised but I do understand why.

Watercoloursky · 13/11/2024 09:41

The news today suggests that their marriage ended because he had an affair with Sutton Foster, his (female) co-star in The Music Man.

Zonder · 13/11/2024 18:53

I really hope that's not true 🥹