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Can't cope with next door neighbour

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blueeyes92 · 05/09/2023 17:33

Hello,

I don't know what to do or who to turn to. My next door neighbour is unbearably loud and annoying. We share a garden with her (no boundaries) and we also share a walkway between both of our houses which goes to our front door and her front door. Our living room window also opens onto the walkway we share.

We also share a garden with her and she has positioned her table and chairs very close to our kitchen window. She does not work and is in the garden all day long. She is constantly going in and out of her house and into the garden. She will go into her house but then will come back out into the garden after a few minutes in her house. She is in and out constantly.

My boyfriend works from home for 5 days week, but his office window is overlooking the garden (where she sits). She sits out in the garden and is very very noisy. She is constantly talking, shouting, screaming, laughing, making funny noises, you name it. She shouts across the garden to anybody that walks into the garden or that is sitting there and I mean delivery people, postmen, workmen etc. She will shout things at everybody and try to carry on a conversation with them for as long as she can. Also, she will sit on her phone and videochat with the phone on speaker for an hour or two every morning. Every morning when I come down into the kitchen, the first thing I will hear is her on her speakerphone call. She talks very loudly all of the time.

I hear her first thing in the morning and last thing at night (either in our shared walkway or in the garden).

She has metal chairs placed in front of her front door and has to move them every-time she goes in or out of the door. You can hear the metal chairs screeching as they are dragged across the floor every-time she goes out or comes back. It is an unpleasant noise.

She also drops bags down from her first floor window, so you will hear thuds throughout the day. They are bags of rubbish, bags of clothes I believe.

I don't know what to do, my boyfriend is becoming increasingly frustrated and we are both at our witts end with her.

It feels like she is living inside the house with us. There is no sense of privacy, peace or calm at all. I'm starting to develop headaches from the constant noise and my boyfriend is completely desperate to move.

Right now, she's sitting in the garden and has been talking/shouting/screeching with another couple for the last two hours. There will be no sense of peace or quiet all night, as she will try to find somebody else to talk to/talk to herself/go on the phone when the other couple have left. I'm sitting at the furthest end of the house now from the garden and I can still hear her talking/shouting its like she is in the house with me.

I got so frustrated by her last night as she was talking/laughing outside our kitchen window for hours that I shouted "shuttup" through our kitchen window to her. I'm not proud of myself as I am mild-mannered and tolerant person. I had gotten a headache as she had been in the garden all day and making noise. She heard me and she shouted back to me "No you shuttup". I hadn't even said anything before that. After that, she didn't actually get any quieter or anything.

She doesn't go on holiday, doesn't work and is in the garden all day long. We can hear her from every window in the house.

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FloweryName · 06/09/2023 19:18

Its always shortlived though, she never goes on holiday, goes away anywhere so we never get a proper break from her noise and disturbance.

Tbf, it sounds like you and your boyfriend spend a lot of time at home too.

RoJosMum · 06/09/2023 19:23

Presumably because this is shared space it cannot be argued that she is using your “section”. Even if you asked her to move her furniture further away from the property, there would be little difference in noise and disturbance. The space between the two houses probably echoes and exaggerates what you can hear.
Does she rent or own?

blueeyes92 · 06/09/2023 19:44

Own I think. She's been here for 20+ years and doesn't work. The husband? doesn't actually live in the house anymore.

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Thegoodbadandugly · 06/09/2023 21:03

Why were those black table and chairs right over the right hand side yesterday though?

RoJosMum · 06/09/2023 21:13

blueeyes92 · 06/09/2023 19:44

Own I think. She's been here for 20+ years and doesn't work. The husband? doesn't actually live in the house anymore.

Moving is your only option, OP.

blueeyes92 · 06/09/2023 22:21

Those black table and chairs were not hers, they belong to another couple who live in a different house.
That photo was taken last winter..

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