Can't cope with next door neighbour

[blueeyes92]

Hello,

I don't know what to do or who to turn to. My next door neighbour is unbearably loud and annoying. We share a garden with her (no boundaries) and we also share a walkway between both of our houses which goes to our front door and her front door. Our living room window also opens onto the walkway we share.

We also share a garden with her and she has positioned her table and chairs very close to our kitchen window. She does not work and is in the garden all day long. She is constantly going in and out of her house and into the garden. She will go into her house but then will come back out into the garden after a few minutes in her house. She is in and out constantly.

My boyfriend works from home for 5 days week, but his office window is overlooking the garden (where she sits). She sits out in the garden and is very very noisy. She is constantly talking, shouting, screaming, laughing, making funny noises, you name it. She shouts across the garden to anybody that walks into the garden or that is sitting there and I mean delivery people, postmen, workmen etc. She will shout things at everybody and try to carry on a conversation with them for as long as she can. Also, she will sit on her phone and videochat with the phone on speaker for an hour or two every morning. Every morning when I come down into the kitchen, the first thing I will hear is her on her speakerphone call. She talks very loudly all of the time.

I hear her first thing in the morning and last thing at night (either in our shared walkway or in the garden).

She has metal chairs placed in front of her front door and has to move them every-time she goes in or out of the door. You can hear the metal chairs screeching as they are dragged across the floor every-time she goes out or comes back. It is an unpleasant noise.

She also drops bags down from her first floor window, so you will hear thuds throughout the day. They are bags of rubbish, bags of clothes I believe.

I don't know what to do, my boyfriend is becoming increasingly frustrated and we are both at our witts end with her.

It feels like she is living inside the house with us. There is no sense of privacy, peace or calm at all. I'm starting to develop headaches from the constant noise and my boyfriend is completely desperate to move.

Right now, she's sitting in the garden and has been talking/shouting/screeching with another couple for the last two hours. There will be no sense of peace or quiet all night, as she will try to find somebody else to talk to/talk to herself/go on the phone when the other couple have left. I'm sitting at the furthest end of the house now from the garden and I can still hear her talking/shouting its like she is in the house with me.

I got so frustrated by her last night as she was talking/laughing outside our kitchen window for hours that I shouted "shuttup" through our kitchen window to her. I'm not proud of myself as I am mild-mannered and tolerant person. I had gotten a headache as she had been in the garden all day and making noise. She heard me and she shouted back to me "No you shuttup". I hadn't even said anything before that. After that, she didn't actually get any quieter or anything.

She doesn't go on holiday, doesn't work and is in the garden all day long. We can hear her from every window in the house.

Has your husband not thought of moving where he is working? Your probably best moving she's doing nothing wrong.

It sounds awful but really there is nothing you can do. You have a choice, stay and put up with it or find somewhere else to live. Those are your options.

Get out in the garden, headphones on and scroll the internet. But don’t let her dominate your space so much

Boyfriend*
Yes, my boyfriend is completely desperate to move. Everytime' she's having a prolonged loud episode in the garden he will come and say things to me like "I need to get out of her", or "I need to move".

Don't you wish you could blast an airhorn at her when she starts?
How about joining the loud conversation when she's near the window talking on the phone. It might annoy her enough to take it inside.
I would however start the plan to move and make sure the landlord knows exactly why.

I moved because of a noisy neighbour. Don't regret it.

I would move.

She sounds completely oblivious and selfish.

You don't need the perfect house, you just need somewhere you can live without risk of being arrested on suspicion of manslaughter whilst you look for somewhere you want to be long term.

She's in the garden with a big group right now. I don't know, it just feels intimidating and too much. I've walked out of the house a few times in a mood, huffing and puffing and I don't know if other neighbours have noticed. The same with my boyfriend. We are the only house that share a walkway with her house. Everybody else can be removed and take a step back from it. It just feels unfair.

There's 6 houses that all share the garden.

Not only can I hear her, but I can constantly see her from our kitchen, living room, bathroom, and office window. It just feels horrible.

Very self-absorbed.

Like learn to play the recorder or violin….

It doesn't sound like you are suited to living somewhere with a shared garden. You are not going to be able to control how and when people use it. So you need to move.

God @blueeyes92 this is making my teeth itch I cannot fucking stand selfish bastards like this. My neighbours over the road are SO LOUD from morning until night that now even them doing something innocent like sneezing makes me seethe with impotent rage.

I dont know a solution because I would go fully tonto and sling her fucking chair in the road.

Sorry, much as I agree with you OP I can't see that she's doing anything illegal. And your bf working from home is irrelevant. If he needs quiet then he needs noise cancelling headphones or go to the office.

Start up something very loud right next to the boundary. Like a lawn mower tipped to the side with the trigger taped down.

Walk away.

Turn it off only at night.

She'll soon give in.

For your boyfriend's work try looking into soundproofing his room. There are panels you can attach to the wall which aren't permanent. For the summer when he absolutely needs the window open perhaps he could change where he works in the house, set up in the furthest room for her just for a couple of months a year?

Have you tried playing white noise? There is an excellent one on YT, which is a thundering waterfall.
Not as annoying as music, but it blocks a lot of noise out.

You're bf needs to go to the office if he can't handle the noise. She sounds very annoying though. I would hate that. Though I'd also hate working from home because neighbours do make noise.

Try classical music. People who are noisy absolutely hate classical music for some reason. My mother used to use Mozart against noisy neighbours, and it worked every time.

Hahaha

Ah that put me in mind of a bit of ShittyFlute: e

OP, just play this and other ShittyFlute anthems through an outside speaker until she breaks 😂

Put a sprinkler near your kitchen window??

I know this probably isn't the answer you want but I really would consider moving. Are you tied into a lease? Home should be your refuge. We have lived next to really loud people (loud music ALL the time) and it got me down so much we nearly moved. Luckily for us they moved first and I went from hating my home to loving it.

The first thing I thought when I read your post is god how are you going to sell it with all that going on through viewings, but as someone else said, thank god you are renting and have the option to leave (depending on your lease).

This is what baby shark was created for and that duck at the lemonade stand. Get that on loud speaker at the window.