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Did you meet your DH/DP the old fashioned way. You know, in person?

181 replies

MrsMoastyToasty · 25/08/2023 13:04

I met my DH when we were introduced by my friend and her DP. It was my birthday and we'd planned a group night out in town with others and they had asked if they could include him . I said ok and that was that. The rest is history.

We went on to be bridesmaid and best man at each others weddings and godparents to each others children. In fact our marriage has outlasted theirs.

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StinkerTroll · 28/08/2023 09:49

He was my Knight in a slightly scruffy and speed limited go kart! We met whist working on a summer camp in America, turns out he only lived an hour away from my home in real life. I was about to move away tho to do a PGCE at the other end of the country so told him it wouldn't last and to just enjoy it while we could, that was 24 years, 2 children and several cats ago 🤣

DonnaHadDee · 28/08/2023 09:57

Yes. At a church/charity event.

UndercoverCop · 28/08/2023 10:03

I met DH on the school bus, so a very long time ago.
More recent couples I know, met at work about 2.5 years ago getting married this year, met in the pub about 6 years ago getting married in January. Met at the school gates dropping dc off (both single parents not an affair!) . However I think this is skewed by my age and that of my friends. I'm late thirties most of my friends are 35-50 so I think more inclined to meet people in real life.
I went to a friend's wedding recently they met online, they went to the same uni at the same time and studied the same subject and love in the same smallish city, but never crossed paths!

Ndhdiwntbsivnwg · 28/08/2023 11:19

Oh yeah. Pissed in a uni pub. How we even made it this far (15 years) I don’t even know. Beer and vodka was probably involved…
Very ild fashioned 😂

Mamma2017 · 28/08/2023 14:38

This has to be a wind up pist. Mo one can really be that smug & arrogant?

Stockingsandstays · 28/08/2023 14:52

Yup! We both have a weird hobby in common and met at an event associated with it. The first time, I looked over and thought "that's going to cause me some stress!" but we didn't talk. The next time we saw each other, we met properly and I knew that she was the only person I would consider having a relationships with.
6 months of taking online before the next in person event. We've been together ever since. Married for nearly a year and going through ivf to add to our family.

I had done 13 years of Internet dating, then met my one in a mud field, covered in blood !

cherryassam · 28/08/2023 14:54

My DH lived with one of my friends from my course in a house share whilst we were at university. 11 years later and still incredibly happy.

Natsku · 28/08/2023 14:58

Yup. I first met his friend (they were in a band together) at a poker game, became friends and I started spending weekends hanging out with him and his friends and going to the band's gigs and ended up getting together with the double bass player.

Hbh17 · 28/08/2023 15:04

Yes, at university. But that was long before the internet was invented, to be fair 😂

DinosApple · 28/08/2023 15:14

Yes, 18 years ago, married 15.

Met doing a hobby the year before.
Then met again the following year at the same hobby, totally fell for him. Broke off an engagement and got together with now DH.

Internet dating was in its early days, but a friend met her husband online earlier that same year, so about 2005.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 28/08/2023 15:17

Yes, at work (teachers) 23 years ago.

WhisperingHi · 28/08/2023 15:22

We met in person at a nightclub in 2007. I'm so grateful that I've not had to internet date is it sounds brutal and I haven't got very high esteem and would be pretty hurt to be ghosted etc.

For me, attractiveness is so much more than looks and you can't get that online.

If I were to become single now, I'd definitely be hoping to meet someone face to face, although in reality the odds of that would be very slim given I have children and my lifestyle.

I miss the old days!

Wemetatascoutcamp · 28/08/2023 15:22

Think my user name says it all 😂😂although to be fair it was more in a scout hall- I was helping with one group of kids and he was helping with the group that came in after. Apparently he dropped plenty hints he was interested (they were so subtle I wasn’t 100% sure if he was interested or just being friendly) but I ended up asking him out and we’ve never really been apart.

IFeelSoSoSad · 28/08/2023 15:30

It was the beginning of the 90s, and we met at work. We were really nervous and made a pig’s ear of it to begin with, trying to impress each other but not succeeding. After a month we stopped pissing about, relaxed, and are so grateful that we worked through the weird beginning. We have been together ever since (over 30 years).

momtoboys · 28/08/2023 15:32

Met in a pub. Got engaged 10 weeks after our first date. Married 9 months after that. 5 sons and married 26 years this year.

thaegumathteth · 28/08/2023 15:33

Yes in the dodgiest club known to man 😂. Engaged after 8 months and still together now 23 years later.

Titsywoo · 28/08/2023 15:48

I met my DH when I was 16 as he was friends with my next door neighbour. I couldn't stand him - thought he was massively annoying😄

We got together at 23 after being close friends for 4 years (he got less annoying with age!). Been together 22 years now.

CrawlingFromShitshowToAfterglow · 28/08/2023 16:24

Met my DH on a work course around 15 years ago when OLD was just taking off. I'd actually reluctantly arranged a date with someone through one of the now defunct OLD websites, but cancelled after meeting my husband to be!

My best friend met hers in a sleazy club when a group of us went on a girls' holiday to Ibiza in the late 1990s while on summer holidays from uni. They've been together since and married for 23 years.

The best one is my cousin's story, though. Her mum (my aunt) used to have a cleaning lady who used to clean for them regularly. I remember going to stay with them when I was younger in school holidays. My cousin and I would sit while the cleaning lady ironed and told us fascinating stories of her life growing up in India.

She was widowed at a young age and her brother had arranged for her to come to the UK with her young son. She used to talk so proudly about her son, who was our age and how she wanted to do all she could to help him make something of himself. We never met him, but she used tell us about how well he was doing at school, how he'd got into grammar school etc.

Anyway, the years passed. Cleaning lady stopped working for my aunt, but they stayed in touch as friends. My cousin moved away for uni, but came home in the holidays. One day, my cousin's uni holiday leave coincided with the cleaning lady visiting my aunt for a tea and chat.

The cleaning lady's son had arranged to collect her from aunt's house (the son she used to mention to us). He rang the doorbell, my cousin answered the door and (they both still maintain), it was love at first sight. They both also had lots in common, with both studying medicine at uni in neighboring cities! They've now been happily married for 25 years. The cleaning lady still tells those stories of her life in India to her teenage grandkids!

BigFatLiar · 28/08/2023 16:33

He was/is a friend if my brothers. Mum got fed up of me sitting in the house reading and got my brother to take me out to a steam engine show wuth his friends. Most of them were a lot older so DH walked with me and tried to see that I wasn't too bored (actually quite enjoyed it). It took some time before we 'dated', went on a couple of days out together just as friends and someone asked about our 'date', it hadn't quite occurred to us we'd drifted into dating. Married 35 years so far, still enjoy the odd traction engine show.

Hopingforno2in2023 · 28/08/2023 16:47

We had the same summer job between uni terms. Will have been married 10 years this December.

TheDogsMother · 28/08/2023 16:48

Yes he was part of our wider social set at the local pub. Me and exH split but now DH wasn't aware of this until about six months after it happened. As soon as he knew he was straight there asking me on a date. The rest is history 🥰

JamieFrasersfurrysporran · 28/08/2023 16:57

He was my next door neighbour since we were 10

TheAloe · 28/08/2023 17:00

Been with my husband since 2005 and we originally “met” on faceparty.com 🤣 so I don’t think this threads for me.

Bumped into him in a club and I was like hey it’s faceparty boy and the rest is history. So kind of met online, kind of didn’t.

TickyTacky · 28/08/2023 20:32

Yes, but at secondary school so circumstances put us together. I did go & seek him out while he was on prefect duty though, I think we managed to talk about the weather. It's been 18 years since then, but our young romance only lasted a few months. After that we became friends then got back together for good at 19.

Dingdong90 · 29/08/2023 11:11

Yep, Christmas day 2008 my cousin called me and said her and her dp were having a party and I should go as one of his single mates was there and he was really nice ....almost 15 years later,2 kids, a dog a cat and a house, we literally haven't spent more than a day apart since that night ❤️

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