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Did you meet your DH/DP the old fashioned way. You know, in person?

181 replies

MrsMoastyToasty · 25/08/2023 13:04

I met my DH when we were introduced by my friend and her DP. It was my birthday and we'd planned a group night out in town with others and they had asked if they could include him . I said ok and that was that. The rest is history.

We went on to be bridesmaid and best man at each others weddings and godparents to each others children. In fact our marriage has outlasted theirs.

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Xiaoxiong · 25/08/2023 15:42

@Farmageddon @NancyJoan I agree, the young people I know now, if they haven't met their partner by the end of university or maybe a year or two after, it's on to online dating.

I met DH in person but that was in 2005 and we were doing the same extra curricular at university.

Wherethewildthymeblows · 25/08/2023 15:43

Yes, on holiday.

heartofglass23 · 25/08/2023 16:18

In a bar. His first words to me were a come on. Spent the night together and never split.

3arthmama · 25/08/2023 16:19

DH is my older brother's best friend, they met at university and husband used occasionally visit with my DB. We were best man and bridesmaid at my brother's wedding and spent most of the night dancing and chatting. I was hooked🥰

LubaLuca · 25/08/2023 16:22

Yes, in a nightclub. He'd moved to the city that day. I wrote my phone number (landline) up his arm in lipstick, he scribbled it onto one of his packing boxes when he got home and called me the next day.

RadishAndTwiglet · 25/08/2023 16:25

Yes because the internet didn't exist so OLD wasn't a thing. We met at work, which was easy. I met a few of my boyfriends through work. But actually I think the internet has revolutionised dating for the better. I know people complain about OLD being full of commitment-phobes who just want a shag, but they've always been around. It's so much more efficient than pre-internet dating, where so much was down to chance.

Standing around looking for a half decent bloke to chat to in nightclubs and bars, where it was dark so you could hardly see them and so noisy you could hardly hear them, then having to give them your phone number (back in the day when it was a landline with an answerphone) only to have to shake them off after one date and avoid picking up the phone for weeks until they got the message, was a thoroughly dispiriting and rather inefficient business.

Now you can take your time to suss someone out online first, before committing to meeting them. The swiping left/right business means you don't have to go through the humiliation of approaching someone who isn't remotely interested. You at least know there is some level of mutual initial attraction there. Plus you literally have the pick of thousands of men at any given time, over a wide area. When I was dating you were limited to whomever happened to be within a fifteen foot radius of you on that specific evening and if you missed the chance you'd never run into them again.

It's a wonder anyone ended up married that way, frankly.

Spidey66 · 25/08/2023 16:29

In the Medium Secure Unit of an old Victorian asylum.

Or in other words, at work. It was 1992, OLD was a long way off!

Spidey66 · 25/08/2023 16:30

LubaLuca · 25/08/2023 16:22

Yes, in a nightclub. He'd moved to the city that day. I wrote my phone number (landline) up his arm in lipstick, he scribbled it onto one of his packing boxes when he got home and called me the next day.

Love this!

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 25/08/2023 16:32

I met my DH at bridge club at university. I thought he would suit me very well because a previous boyfriend had wanted to marry me and be together forever and was clingy and hard to dump, whereas DH was a foreigner and would be moving back to his home country after university so wouldn't even need to be dumped at all. We have been married for 32 years now. Grin

WandaWomblesaurus · 25/08/2023 16:36

What a lovely thread.

mrsfeatherbottom · 25/08/2023 16:36

Yes. We met through mutual friends although they weren't trying to set us up. He was visiting my friend for the weekend and my friend, who lived across the road from me, invited me to dinner on the Saturday night because he felt sorry for me as I had no plans.

Sunnyweatherwoman · 25/08/2023 16:40

Yes, we had friends in common. Neither of us would have known what the others' feelings were until a friend couldn't keep the secret any more.

LBFseBrom · 25/08/2023 16:42

Yes, at work. There was no internet back then but the idea of a blind date with a stranger frightens me anyway. Having said that, as a young person I was often drawn towards the unknown and danger. Goodness me, I'm frightening myself just thinking about it.

Surely most single people still do meet, at parties, introduced by friends, at work, or whatever.

SistersNotCisters · 25/08/2023 16:43

My mum and her friend were trying to set me up with friends lodger. I was new to the area and friends lodger (who I had spoken to often so it wasn't a blind date) had been encouraged to ask if I wanted to go on a night on the town with a couple of his friends group.
Two decades later and I'm still happily married to the absolute stunner of a young man the lodger introduced me to first. And he's still breathtakingly gorgeous now in his 40's.

olderbutwiser · 25/08/2023 16:45

Even more old fashioned - we'd met socially, then he was deployed abroad. I wrote to him and we got to know each other by letter. I have a bundle of letters tied up with pink ribbon in my knicker drawer.

SeeTheWorldAnotherWay · 25/08/2023 16:45

Yup. Introduced by a mutual friend five years ago, and married this summer 🙂

Cowlover89 · 25/08/2023 16:48

Yes got invited to a party by one of my friends and met him there

JudyJulie · 25/08/2023 16:52

@olderbutwiser, that's lovely.

DH and I met in 2001 when we were both co-opted into a campaign to save historical buildings in our area. We met in March, got together in December and married three years later. How we didn't know each other before, we will never know as we had lived within 20 minutes walk of each other since the 80s and found that we knew a lot of people in common.

I had previously had relationships with men I met at uni, at work and in the shallow end of our local swimming pool (should have thrown that one back)

DD1 met her DH at work. DD2 was introduced to her DP by a mutual friend.

xogossipgirlxo · 25/08/2023 16:53

Yes, on holiday in 2009.

Phos · 25/08/2023 16:56

I met mine in person.

I had just moved into a houseshare in London as I had a new job there and didn't really want to live on my own. I was getting to know 2 of my 3 housemates when housemate no. 3 came sauntering in.

Instant connection. I knew. Before it happened, I'd have dismissed it as fanciful nonsense but it was almost the sensation of "oh its YOU!"

chunkychunks · 25/08/2023 16:56

Nope

The "new fashioned" way, on an app during lockdown.

We are married with a baby on the way

Tiny2018 · 25/08/2023 16:59

At my friend of ten years wedding. My friends son in law, who she had spoke about to me a few times with him being her now husbands son.

Both freshly out of teribble relationships, both decided to give up on finding a partner and both were meant to be at the wedding with our exes, both didn't really feel like going to the wedding due to still being upset about our breakups and having to go alone.

I was so drunk I hadn't taken in the fact that he was my friends son in law. When we get married, I'll be my friend of ten years daughter in law.

Topseyt123 · 25/08/2023 17:00

Yes. It was 1985 and we were both students. My friends and I were living in a shared house and had a spare room to let (or we would have to cover the rent ourselves). We advertised it on notice boards at uni.

Next day DH knocked on the door asking about the room. We've now been married for 30 years and have three grown up daughters.

Have to say though, we didn't like each other very much at first. We grew on each other as the first few weeks went on.

VeronicaSawyer89 · 25/08/2023 17:01

Ambi · 25/08/2023 13:12

Yes because it was 90s and OLD wasnt really a thing.

This.

evtheria · 25/08/2023 17:03

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 25/08/2023 16:32

I met my DH at bridge club at university. I thought he would suit me very well because a previous boyfriend had wanted to marry me and be together forever and was clingy and hard to dump, whereas DH was a foreigner and would be moving back to his home country after university so wouldn't even need to be dumped at all. We have been married for 32 years now. Grin

😄 Love this story.