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Did you meet your DH/DP the old fashioned way. You know, in person?

181 replies

MrsMoastyToasty · 25/08/2023 13:04

I met my DH when we were introduced by my friend and her DP. It was my birthday and we'd planned a group night out in town with others and they had asked if they could include him . I said ok and that was that. The rest is history.

We went on to be bridesmaid and best man at each others weddings and godparents to each others children. In fact our marriage has outlasted theirs.

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AnnieKayTee · 25/08/2023 13:33

Had been to school together but never spoke. Starting chatting in the pub, have a mutual circle of friends, been together 18 years now.

Birdkin · 25/08/2023 13:34

I met my partner speed dating 😅

MaxJLHardy · 25/08/2023 13:38

I gatecrashed an engagement party. Was supposed to be a plus one but friend bailed 30 minutes before so I went anyway. Met my wife 11 years ago married 9.

BiddyPop · 25/08/2023 13:40

Yes, through a mutual friend at a local nightclub when he was "home" for Christmas from overseas.

That was nearly 30 years ago though.

latedecember1963 · 25/08/2023 13:40

He was part of a group of friends of friends at 6th form and we had the odd conversation in passing.
We both went onto higher education but a long distance apart and he wasn't someone I intended to keep in touch with.
One of our mutual friends mentioned he was finding uni life quite lonely so I dropped him a friendly note. 1980s so long before texting, mobile phones etc.
The next weekend we were both going to be home we arranged to meet for a drink just to have a chat and the rest is history.
We celebrated our 35th wedding anniversary last weekend.

Bookist · 25/08/2023 13:42

Yes in a scruffy student nightclub when he asked me to dance. Even though he was gorgeous I said no because I was nursing a badly broken heart. But he hung around and managed to make me laugh. He's still gorgeous and still making me laugh 32 years later.

Milkand2sugarsplease · 25/08/2023 13:42

At 12/13 when his family moved to the area. My first crush.

botchartistsunited · 25/08/2023 13:47

Yes, we'd both signed up for a two week pot washing job with the army while they were on summer camp. Didn't really like the look of him, he came across as a bit of a poseur so I didn't really speak to him much. We're thrown onto a shift with him in second week and due to our lack of communication we both filled the industrial dishwasher with detergent without telling each other. Started it up and went off to deal with spuds...came back and the room was up to our knees in bubbles. Stressful but hilarious we were sweeping them out of the door and into the garden area.... looked like Christmas outside when the army folks came back and there was no way we could hide our botchery. Still together 34 years later and yes, we still find our own regular botch ups utterly hilarious. My initial poseur judgment couldn't have been further from reality.
If I had to do OLD now, I think I'd be lost, wouldn't have a clue as to what to write or what to specify my likes as, because you just never know.

FormerlyPathologicallyHappy · 25/08/2023 13:51

We met at dhs work. He didn’t like me and I was scared of him (very tall, very assertive, abrupt) but he helped me with something and we both felt we’d come home.

Engaged in under 6 months and had a very happy 17 years together.

usernother · 25/08/2023 13:56

Yes, we met in a pub. Eye contact across the room kind of thing. Then he walked over to talk to me.

FatLarrysBanned · 25/08/2023 14:02

Kind of. We initially swiped each other on Tinder but the conversation fizzled after a few days and we politely unmatched each other, no hard feelings.

He was a tradesman and he'd said if I wanted some working doing (which we'd chatted about) to give him a buzz "because you seem like a nice lady and I don't want you being ripped off by a cowboy builder" so I did a few months later.

He turned up, both fell in love at first sight and 3 years later were still together. Man of my dreams, love of my life. I thank my lucky stars every day for him (and my lovely smooth plastered walls... 😂)

TedLasto · 25/08/2023 14:03

Yes, at a friend of a friend's 30th birthday party. It was 16 years ago, the previous week I had been on my first ever (disastrous) internet date when it was in its early days.

The friend of a friend whose party it was is now married to DH's brother!

headcheffer · 25/08/2023 14:08

Yes in a pub on a Friday after work. I told my friend I thought I'd marry him and I did!!

Caledoniablue · 25/08/2023 14:09

Yes. Met him on a night out I was on with my best friend having sworn off men after a bad break up. She bumped into a guy she knew, and dh was with him.
Didn't like him at first, thought he was arrogant as hell but decided to take him up on the offer of dinner and cocktails as I had no plans.
Turns out the arrogance was actually that he was painfully shy and came across badly! He was so different from my usual type which has turned out to be mostly a good thing Grin a house, dog, and ds later we're still going strong!

Halo8 · 25/08/2023 14:09

Yes, in a sleazy nightclub in the 1980’s!

Purplecatshopaholic · 25/08/2023 14:09

Yes, we met in person through mutual friends. I had been single a couple of years after my divorce.

Chypre · 25/08/2023 14:11

Yes, at work.

ShadowPuppets · 25/08/2023 14:11

We met in 2012 in a bar in Central London - his friend knocked over my drink, he offered to get me a replacement, we started talking... That was 11 years, a marriage, three property purchases, two kids and two cats ago!

My friends joke that I'm the last woman on earth to have met someone not via an app (everyone who has settled down with someone since then met on Tinder/Bumble etc).

Farmageddon · 25/08/2023 14:12

I'd say this is far more common in couples who have been together many years.

I'd be more interested to know how many people have met their partner in the last 5 years outside of online dating. I think it's getting harder.

Wotrewelookinat · 25/08/2023 14:12

Yes we met in person, but this was 23 years ago! We had a mutual friend who introduced us.

Devilsmommy · 25/08/2023 14:15

Me and dh lived in the same area and just kept bumping into eachother (fate throwing us together maybe?) It kept happening and eventually he asked me out and we are now married with an 11mo 😊

Babdoc · 25/08/2023 14:15

Met DH my first night as a medical student. He was a second year science student, and was prowling the Students’ Union bar with his mates, looking for freshers!
We moved in together three days later (the accommodation office had messed up his offer and he was sleeping on a friend’s floor) - he was an illegal resident in my room in an all girls corridor for two years, before we rented a slum tenement flat for
£15 a month.
Not a typo, it really was that cheap. Mainly because it had no bathroom, one cold tap, dry rot, mice, and holes in the wall round the windows stuffed with rags to keep the snow out. Heating was a single paraffin stove. Happy days!

Heronatemygoldfish · 25/08/2023 14:16

Yes, classic friend of a friend scenario. Or in this case, her ex! Hated him on sight. Been together 25y now...

SkalengeckOrSiegbarste · 25/08/2023 14:22

On a night out with a friend, we ended up at her brother's housewarming party. Met a bloke that was funny and we spent the night talking. I thought he'd be a good mate. He then became FWB, until he wore me down. We are happily married with a brood of children! So glad I went to that party!

TrappedPotato · 25/08/2023 14:22

Yes - around 7 years ago and we met because we both play the same mobile-based game.

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