Most petty reason you have de-friended someone !

[ZolaBudd]

Met an old mate yesterday and we were talking about the power of badly behaved kids to ruin “mum” type friendships. Luckily both long past that now.

She said she and her h had been binned by some mates because her H and the other bloke really drunk once , and they think they’d never been forgiven

might be the truth they’ll never know 😂

I moved a two hour journey away back to my home town, and she never spoke to me again. It was like I didn't exist.

I unfriended a woman who reprimanded me for nor responding to her WhatsApp message quicker. It hadn't even been 5 hours, the whole storm occurred between 9 to 5 during a busy work day. I thought to myself, I'm not 11, I have a job to do!
Also a single parent to two children, and yet, in trouble for not responding to an adult within the hour.

@ToughFuss I love a happy drunk!
Time and a place obviously but it wasn't a job interview, alcohol was served!

I've a few friends who have to be in the one up position. It's hard to know what to do. It seems you can never be equal because what was a temporary rough patch for you was what they permanently require in a relationship dynamic. I left an abusive man 15 years ago and my parents neglected me emotionally, im really not the same person I was, so I have several old friendships where the dynamic just doesn't work anymore because I want a dynamic of " im ok -you're OK" and that doesn't work for them, they want "im one up - you're one down".
They don't see it.

Because I looked it up because of the toe curling pretentiousness of it and found that it is commonly used by Australians (so quite normal and natural for them to use it).

Vale, that is, re my comment just below (annoying that the Mumsnet quote function only quotes the last comment).

It's not pretentious in Oz. It's fairly common parlance.

Byt that said we do use terms that are out of use in the UK and considered quite archaic.

I cannot think of any others off the top of my head right now, but DH often comments that my language is sometimes something he only sees/'reads in Victorian and later novels.

🤣🤣🤣

She was obsessed with the royal family

Yes, that's why I put the disclaimer 'not Australian' on my original comment about the annoying person using it. Meaning that I see it is quite normal and natural in Oz but a bit twatty when used here! (England)

Yes, it was a bit of a shock, I didn’t think they were like that. Maybe it was a while coming and that was the final straw, but it didn’t feel that way. Guess I’ll never know!
Well quite @xPaloma i overdid it but I’d argue not the crime of the century!

Never heard an Aussie say that word. Lived there 2 decades.
For the departed it's, Legend, on ya.

Other trite phrases include, far out, aye, f off were full, C word.

Re vale...my best friend is Aussie and uses it every time someone well known passes away and texts me about it, maybe its an generation thing?

What does vale mean?

Vale = farewell afaik

One sided got sick of asking how they are or kids are etc and never anything back so defriended family and not missed tbh

Just too many cat pictures.

She was a noisy eater too. Did that lip smacking thing. And tight with money.

But mostly it was the cat pics.

Could no longer stand a friend’s incessant copying. She would turn up to almost every get together in something I was wearing the time before. she’d then ask what I thought of said item/s like the fact that I was wearing it last week didn’t say enough.

It became a running joke in our circle. I could see the funny side but after a couple of years of it I just couldn’t take her seriously anymore. She was 46 not 16 and it made me think she had a screw loose.

Because of her stance on abortions.
Posting multiple times a week about it, leading marches etc.

Couldn't be bothered to reply when I messaged her to tell her my dad was dying.

Also, an online friend in the USA stopped emailing me after she found out I drink alcohol.

I'm Australian and can confirm that 'vale' is commonly used when someone has died, probably more often used in writing than spoken. For eg, I work in a very large organisation and we use in in all-staff emails when a former staff member dies - subject line will say Vale Barry Smith.

I would notice my ex best friend would like everybody else's pictures in our friendship group on instagram but would never like mine but would be on instagram all the time so I knew she would of seen my pics I posted and she would like other peoples pics but not liking mine don't know what the crack was there never found out I just distanced myself and we've not spoke in years petty but meh

I knew you were clarifying. I was agreeing.

although in the middle of the night (as often happens) it occurred to me that my DCs UK school also use Vale to say goodbye to leaving teachers. They offer Latin as compulsory though until Year 8 so that might be why.

When I was at school (a long time ago) we had to greet the Latin teacher with "Ave, magistra!" and say "Vale, magistra!" at the end of the lesson.