Most petty reason you have de-friended someone !

[ZolaBudd]

Met an old mate yesterday and we were talking about the power of badly behaved kids to ruin “mum” type friendships. Luckily both long past that now.

She said she and her h had been binned by some mates because her H and the other bloke really drunk once , and they think they’d never been forgiven

might be the truth they’ll never know 😂

😂

An old friend had got very nitpicky and seemed to criticise me over things that didn’t really matter. One day I’d made a jokey post about how much junk my parents had in their spare room (the context being they are always going on at me for having too much stuff) and she commented “It may look like junk to you. It could hold precious memories for them.”

Seriously?! I could maybe have understood it if I’d been talking about strangers and knew nothing of their lives or what kind of people they are, but it was my parents, FFS. I think I know more about what’s precious to them than someone who’s never clapped eyes on them.

I just thought “What did you get out of that post, other than a sense of self-satisfaction that you’re sooo considerate?” Then I asked myself what I got out of having her as a friend and decided it was very little.

On FB? Unfriended mil because

Posted racist shit. At the hight of black lives matter she was posting about white kids being shot by bame people in America. Lots of white people kill their own kids in the UK.

Posted how shit and horrible UK kids are. My kids are British and live in the UK. She knows fuck all other British kids ( lives in Asia where many girls grow up into sex work). Nice subservient girls who are pole dancing at 13 to support family of course, you know, nice lovely girls. Selfless. Not like entitled kids in England who have safeguarding.

Posted pro brexit shit. I'm not even strongly anti brexit but this was going to save the UK and the nhs. How funny that panned out.

Posts about how much she hates the UK and everyone in it. Every problem is down to immigration. Yet she emergrated, has bame grandkids, married a Irish immigrant.

Raves about her "family" who is her sons friend in the USA she has known for three years at the time.

Her online self is utterly toxic and I have had FOUR separate people DM me asking if she is having a mental episode as you never know this was her inner monologue.

Any time I pulled her up on BS her cronies would attack me. About the British kids thing, I said that's hurtful as your grandkids are British and lovely I got ripped apart in a very nasty way, so I apologised and said some really derogatory things about myself that reinforced her belive while making her look bad ( I had the utter rage and fed up of the gaslighting do I said I had to apologie by after leaving school at 14 for a life of prostitution and no gcses due to the drug use. I indeed I had no knowledge of anything). Then blocked her. Hopefully now her mates think I'm minging thick slapper. I was so mad. Im a senior programmer with a science degree. Best to avoid FB really. It's toxic. Brings out the batshit in me too clearly.

Full of BS, negativity and hate speach

Because she thought illegal immigrants should be housed before our homeless military personnel.

I've hidden someone because she peppers every (humble bragging) post with either 'IYKYK' which makes me unfeasibly mad, or uses 'when........', or puts every other word in asterisks. THAT.

I never did like her much, on reflection.

Interesting that you think this discussion is petty!

I fell out with friends after her H started to teach himself how to play the guitar.
He was bloody awful and when she asked me to listen to him play, I didn't recognise one note and said so.
I left to go home and she never spoke to me again.

A friend who had moved away joined an amdram society. I just couldn't cope having to drive a long way to sit through all these awful productions. What made it worse was being dragged along to the after parties where all the 'luvvies' talked endlessly about their performance. Amdram stole my friend (is how I like to think of it).

So long, farewell, auf wiedersehen goodbye....

I fell out with DH’s best friend from school for using the word ‘retard’ - I’m autistic and my son has autism, cerebral palsy and epilepsy. I find the word disgusting. We don’t see anymore.

She made a FB group chat to explain, in great detail, why her and her family wouldn't be sending Christmas cards that year but would be instead donating the money to a charity so that they could provide the gift of warmth and comfort to those in need during this season of joy. Barf. Like cool, give to charity that's awesome but you don't need to announce it. It was the latest in a line of petty shit including posting religious pictures and quotes on my timeline when I made it clear I was very much not interested in that.
Oh and when introduced to our friend group (her husband was part of our online meet up group after I'd brought him in because he was one of my best friends) went "Oh you're <husbands> little friends, that's so sweet." We all instantly went on the defensive.

Unfriended an old school friend from FB back in the day before you could hide people. He literally documented everything...walking to work...bought a coffee...waiting for the bus etc. like he thought he thought it was compulsory or something. He was later arrested for murder but wasn't prosecuted (but most likely did it). Wish I'd hung in there for those status updates.

Pps have also reminded me...dumped an ex because he called me 'Chuckles' and said the Asdas. He also had (my, I think!) long hair under his foreskin mixed with smeg but that isn't trivial.

I was ditched by a friend I had barely seen in a year because I didn't want to attend her boozy all day 30th birthday party.

I was 8.5 months pregnant at the time, had a one year old at home, it was 37 degrees outside and the venue was almost two hours away from where I live 😑

Hang on, why is whether or not this person is Australian important?

Oh! I’ve been ditched for (I think!) the same reason as your mate, except I was the idiot who got too drunk (very accidental, hot, very long wedding day, not enough food, longgggg speeches!). Completely frozen out by two women I thought I was close to. I think that’s pretty petty, I didn’t mean to, was nothing but a giggly happy drunk and I apologised afterwards but there you are!

i have deleted people on social media for slagging off farmers or whinging about slow tractors etc. Its a subject I feel quite strongly about!

RenoDakota
An ex work colleague who is one of those who changes her profile picture for every single cause / anniversary of sad event etc that comes along. Also gushes about her 'fur babies' and says Vale (insert name) when someone newsworthy dies. Not Australian.

Hang on, why is whether or not this person is Australian important?

It's used by Australians on the whole.

Vale, that is!

Australians use the Latin for ‘goodbye’ to refer to the dead? I had no idea. Just in obituaries, or references to famous deaths? Do they say ‘Vale, Fluffy’ about a pet?

I associate it with inscriptions on 18thc headstones!

I’ve learned something from this thread…

yes, Australians do use 'Vale' in that context. Although I got very confused once when my school newsletter used it about a much loved teacher who was just retiring.

Not entirely sure. I've only ever seen it used formally in obituaries, so I thought it must be similar to how Latin terms are used in birth announcements.

Some people just want to see the world burn.

That's the only explanation for that sort of behaviour.

I got unfriended by getting married to someone who got paid more than her DH. I went from being the poor rellie in the friendship to having lots more disposable income, and she couldn't cope.

I agree with you and I'm a Spurs fan

You'd have to be pretty stuck up to do that. Who cares if a friend gets drunk?! You're well rid!

When they're constantly on FB but don't wish me a happy birthday.

My bridesmaid when they didn't wish us a happy anniversary, among other things.

She tutted at me when I accidently nudged her daughter’s foot.