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Why is it every time a high earning woman starts a thread...

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Lentilweaver · 15/08/2023 21:09

asking for financial or job advice on here, someone comes along to tell her that their salary is 1/40th of hers or some such figure. And some one else comes along to complain about her being tone deaf.

Seen this several times in the last week or so. Didn't comment on the thread because I didn't want to derail the good advice being given, but at the risk of starting a TAAT, I wanted to say: FFS. Let women earn high salaries without being made to feel guilty on a women's site. If you earn a low salary, that's on you. It's not tone deaf to talk about high salaries even in a CoL crisis.

OP posts:
Caprisunny · 16/08/2023 20:55

Anxioys · 16/08/2023 20:46

No. Get under the blanket, start economizing on your thoughts of money.

Breathe deeply, and think of scenting your living room appropriately.

@user78262102928

I am half way there. Under a blanket. But not reading take a break. I have half an eye on The last kingdom m, flicking between MN and trying to find some shelves for the living room.

Might economise by finding a fallen tree and whittling my own shelves.

AuntieJoyce · 16/08/2023 22:13

GarlicGrace · 16/08/2023 18:27

There are - inevitably - a lot of tone deaf, narrow-minded and discompassionate posts to this thread but, for me, you take the biscuit @C1N1C. While hoping your username simply means you make a hobby of being smug & mean-minded on internet discussions, I'll take you at face value.

Most of your comments are just too smug, sneering and stupid to address but I can perhaps help with one.

If you see graduated tax as a penalty on above-average income, I recommend moving to one of the many countries whose systems don't require their more privileged citizens to contribute towards support for the less privileged. Stepping over starving families on the street, risking infection from the beggars accosting you at every turn, having to look at the effects of untreated injuries, dealing with the effects of illiteracy & innumeracy and facing frequent attempted robberies as you traverse crowded, smelly, bumpy and unpaved roads, you will no doubt revel in the knowledge that so little of your wife's cash has been used to help the society you live in.

Or, you know, you could campaign for higher taxes to be used for more social support - as, indeed, many of the world's richest people do.

This is a very random post. But just for the record, there is a point at which graduated tax becomes unreasonable and individuals go out of their way to avoid it, actively reducing tax revenues available to the government

I see nothing wrong with somebody on an online forum who earns £100,000 asking for help to avoid a 62% tax rate when they’ve already paid £33,000 towards tax that year.

GarlicGrace · 16/08/2023 22:55

Obviously I didn't see it as all that random on this thread's topic, @AuntieJoyce! Tax isn't a penalty for earning a lot. You still get more to take home than you did before hitting the higher band. The details are another discussion, or several, as we'd all have different views. When thinking about the growing disparity between the biggest incomes and the lesser, though, the purpose of tax is relevant.

Don't want to go on about it further, we'll all be pleased to hear!

Bellyblueboy · 19/08/2023 22:17

Resurrecting this thread to comment on another three!!! I have just been told on this site that I can’t possibly be successful because I am single and don’t have kids😂😂😂.

so apparently achieving all my academia and career goals means nothing unless I have a hubby and a couple of sprogs.

the hatred for high earring women runs deep. Even other women want to tear them down.

MermaidMaggie · 20/08/2023 14:10

Bellyblueboy · 19/08/2023 22:17

Resurrecting this thread to comment on another three!!! I have just been told on this site that I can’t possibly be successful because I am single and don’t have kids😂😂😂.

so apparently achieving all my academia and career goals means nothing unless I have a hubby and a couple of sprogs.

the hatred for high earring women runs deep. Even other women want to tear them down.

I read that thread and honestly, that guy is being managed out.

Telling him to improve his brand is basically saying you don't fit in here.

Trying to pin it on the boss for being a female is just clutching at straws.

I'd be looking for another job if I were him.

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