I don't agree. I think that @PSBorNormal is just fully aware that these days there seems to be at least one adult - still usually a man - in every village, several in a town, and an even more scary amount in every city, who do exactly that, they sexualise 11 year olds and terrifyingly even much younger children.
I also understand the OP's reaction when she found out, it was a big shock brought on by fear of what could have happened, or what seed of thoughts could have started in some very sick individual's mind - maybe someone who continues to live in their village. That shock was born out of a mother's love for her growing child, who she knows is getting into such a different phase of her childhood, not only one where it will become increasingly more difficult to look after and protect her child, but at the same ages children seem programmed to defy their parents and rebel against their lifelong held authority - I believe that with love, luck, and education, the defying and rebelling are actually positive (although exhausting and maddening at times) traits even thought it may on occassions put them into some potentially dangerous situations.
Thankfully most tweens and teenagers survive, and even thrive under these conditions, how they cope growing up through those years may have an enormous bearing on what sort of adult they become. Having loving parents (who do need to be able to control their growing fear for their children in a healthy and effective way) is one of the backbones that can help support our burgening teenagers into becoming well rounded young adults.
As our children learn to defy us we need to be one step ahead (with the added advantage that ee eere all teenagers one) and try to manage given situations without noticebly losing our rag or panicking. Neither teenergers or their parents will get it right all of the time, which reminds me of the prayer I believe has been utilised by the AA...
My children have all been adults for quite a long-time now, with their teenage years quite far behind them soI wish I could say that at last I get a break from worrying now that I have somehow survived the teenage years several times, but unfortunately the worries and concerns just change, for me they don't disappear, and now I have my wonderful Grandchildren the cycle starts again, until the long rest presents itself!
I know that a lot of Mumsnetters will strongly disagree with what I am saying here, you/they are probably the ones who were brought up by loving, but also confident, parents who just didn't live their lives worrying about things that will hopefully never happen. The best parents can probably manage a happy medium between how you feel and how I feel - although it might seem as if I was trying to, I can't actually speak for the OP, her words just rang a bell with me.
But @ZolaBudd I think that you need to have a word with yourself about accusing the OP of sexualising her child, I strongly believe that she is doing the apposite and trying to keep her DD's innocence for as long as possible. I do hope that the OP has both explained to her DD why she got angry (in an age appropriate way so as not to terrify her - I'm sure that she has or will do!) and of course apologised for having done so.
As this is eceptionally long (even for me) and has taken such a long time as we stopped for supper part way through, I might now find that this was all done and dusted a long time ago 😁