How much would you pay to go to a destination wedding?

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Average income, 4 people (2dcs, dh and I) We avoid summer hols and normally steal time around half term and a few days into term. Only one dc is in primary other is nursery. Invited to a wedding smack bang school hols (next yr)

how much would you pay?

im currently balking at the cost as it’s double what we spend on our naice summer (not school hols).

1. Would you be upset missing seeing this person be married?
2. Do you want to go to the destination?
3. How much can you afford?

I would happily pay more money for a holiday if the 3 questions above was answered yes.

I’d pay nothing as we’d not be going. Send a card and a gift. Go on your own holidays.

Depends on who’s getting married. Many I wouldn’t mind going for. Others I’d find another gf and go with them leaving dh and kids behind! Immediate family you have to go and drag the family.

I really wanted a designation wedding. But I didn’t want anyone else to come.

imagine being so self obsessed that you expect your guests to cough up thousands to come?!

if you would people there you should pay for them imo.

Or destination! 🤣

I wouldn't. I have only been invited to destination weddings a couple of times. Once from a fairly casual friend who was basically inviting everyone she had ever met in the hopes that one or two people would choose a holiday there (no idea if anyone did but I suspect not) and once for a cousin who I like well enough but the cost for just me to go alone would have been twice our annual holiday budget, and for us all to go would have put us in serious financial jeopardy. My parents and one sibling did go.

Zero. I wouldn’t go, unless it was my son or daughter. Not for a sibling or a friend.

From what you’ve said of your friend, OP, I wouldn’t even consider it. Why stretch your family budget to go somewhere you don’t want for a fair weather friend? Just no, decline politely and don’t give it any more headspace.

We are paying £3500 for us 2 to go to DH's brother's wedding. Depends how close the family member is, and the destination. We are leaving the kids at home as it's not really a family destination.

BIL and SIL were very understanding that people might choose not to go, they're marrying where they want to marry and welcome those who want to go but don't expect people to, not all parents and siblings are going and there is no bad blood.

You don’t have to stay in the hotel they specifically recommend find a nice hotel near the wedding venue, make a holiday out of it and attend the wedding 🤷‍♀️

I wouldn't spend a penny as I wouldn't go.

If people want their friends and family present then they either need to pay for their guests hotel and flights or they get married closer to home.

We go abroad about 3/4 times a year, depends on destination and for how long!
i’d definitely be up for going and make it one of our usual weeks away!

some of you on MN are so brutal! 🤣

Every holiday from work ,I'll book something abroad, so I would probably book hotel in same town or city and spend one of the days at the wedding.

I wouldn’t go, I’d go if I’d lots of money but atm I’d have to decline.

I'd probably not go. I'd put some effort into a gift for an old friend, but spending thousands, nope - I didn't spend that on my own wedding though lol.