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How much would you pay to go to a destination wedding?

189 replies

Ohyasss · 15/08/2023 19:51

Average income, 4 people (2dcs, dh and I) We avoid summer hols and normally steal time around half term and a few days into term. Only one dc is in primary other is nursery. Invited to a wedding smack bang school hols (next yr)

how much would you pay?

im currently balking at the cost as it’s double what we spend on our naice summer (not school hols).

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LimeCheesecake · 15/08/2023 21:17

In my experience- people holding destination weddings don’t expect everyone to go. Most I know have confirmed the key people (parents, siblings, best man/bridesmaid etc) can make it /pay for them, then anyone else is a bonus, not expected.

so as a just a friend- not part of the wedding party, this is really just “if you fancy it” and you clearly don’t.

ive been to destination weddings, I’ve also declined weddings overseas (both destination and weddings of international friends just getting married back in their home town). You can’t afford this as you’ve already booked a family holiday, you don’t budget summer overseas holidays and this isn’t a best friend you are determined to be there for. Just decline, doesnt matter what my budget or anyone else’s would be.

Normalnormal · 15/08/2023 21:18

WhisperingHi · 15/08/2023 20:48

What does WDW stand for?!

Fuck knows. I’m only following this thread now to find out.

afrikat · 15/08/2023 21:19

Walt Disney World for those asking:)

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CatsOnTheChair · 15/08/2023 21:22

Pre kids, we went twice. First one was to a place that benefited from local knowledge to get the best of the place. Second one was to a reasonably big city.

Post kids: DH went on his own to his brother's wedding - it was term time tho.

All have been the Brides home town, so a reason for the destination.

Soapyspuds · 15/08/2023 21:25

No interest in going to that sort of resort on a holiday. So I would have no qualms about declining the wedding invitation.

mathanxiety · 15/08/2023 21:25

$0.00

FoodFann · 15/08/2023 21:29

I’d decline too. And I don’t disagree with @LongLiveGoblingKing. People are so entitled these days! I would never dream of asking someone else to fly across the world just to watch me get married. Who do they think they are?!

TheChosenTwo · 15/08/2023 21:32

Too many variables but essentially if it was someone we loved and could also turn the wedding into our own holiday (because it’s somewhere we would have visited at some point) then we would go. If it wasn’t somewhere we were interested in or we’d been before and weren’t fussed about returning then either dh or I would go, whoever’s side they were friend/family of. Most likely we would both go for the weekend or 3 days and leave the dc at home. But I do love weddings and would always try to attend if invited.

autienotnaughti · 15/08/2023 21:33

We went to my friends wedding it cost £1000 for us both attend. I wouldn't spend that much for anyone other than immediate family or best friend

rainbowunicorn · 15/08/2023 21:52

Nothing, wouldn't accept an invitation to one.

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Ohyasss · 15/08/2023 21:52

I’m anticipating a bit of a negative reaction when I decline because I’ll have gone to florida but flights and deposit was booked and paid before before we received the save the date

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Paq · 15/08/2023 21:54

Assume WDW means Walt Disney World.

OhYetAnotherBrickInTheWall · 15/08/2023 21:55

I paid £2k (not including spending money / meals) for a friend about 15 years ago. Long haul, incredible location.

I’d do the same again - it was a fabulous experience.

AlecTrevelyan006 · 15/08/2023 21:58

Brefugee · 15/08/2023 19:52

Nothing. I would decline such an invitation.

This.

PermanentTemporary · 15/08/2023 22:07

The fact that you've gone on holiday has nothing to do with it!

I'd go pretty much anywhere to a wedding where the B or G lived. Went to dp's nieces wedding in the US this year and had a ball. But we made it our holiday.

Like other pp, id travel somewhere random for a child or a sibling, if I could afford it. Can't imagine doing that for a friend tbh.

Original poster
Ohyasss · 15/08/2023 22:17

Paq · 15/08/2023 21:54

Assume WDW means Walt Disney World.

Correct :)

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paddleboarder12 · 15/08/2023 22:23

If you can’t afford to go or don’t want to spend the money to go then decline now and don’t give it a second thought.
Two weeks in Disney for accommodation, fights, tickets, transfers for 5k is really good.

peachgreen · 15/08/2023 22:24

For my cousin (who is more like a sister) I’d go happily and excitedly. For my brother, I’d go reluctantly (and hope my parents would contribute!). For my two best friends, I’d go a bit grumpily but never tell them. For anyone else, no way.

Maireas · 15/08/2023 22:25

Ohyasss · 15/08/2023 21:52

I’m anticipating a bit of a negative reaction when I decline because I’ll have gone to florida but flights and deposit was booked and paid before before we received the save the date

There really ought not to be a negative reaction. It's all about the cost and inconvenience. It's not like a venue an hour away. If they're reasonable, they'll understand. Not many people could pay that much, even if they didn't have a holiday booked.

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Ohyasss · 15/08/2023 22:30

paddleboarder12 · 15/08/2023 22:23

If you can’t afford to go or don’t want to spend the money to go then decline now and don’t give it a second thought.
Two weeks in Disney for accommodation, fights, tickets, transfers for 5k is really good.

Admittedly no transfers included but google maps tells me lyft is like 50 bucks each way

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fullbloom87 · 15/08/2023 23:08

Depends who it was but definitely no more then £1500 for a close family member.

fireflyloo · 15/08/2023 23:22

Depends who it was
Depends if I could afford it
Depends if the dates worked (my dh os restricted with certain times of year)
Depends if I already had a holiday booked

UsingChangeofName · 15/08/2023 23:36

person is a friend, was close once upon a time but has drifted last few years

Since you added this information, then, like so many others, I wouldn't pay anything. I'd say "Thanks but we won't be able to make it. Hope you have a lovely time" and think no more about it.

I mean, I'd probably do that (decline) for any destination wedding, but I suppose if it were a sister or dc, then it would depend on circumstances. Not that I can imagine anyone in close family choosing to do that.

PickAChew · 15/08/2023 23:39

I wouldn't. You have to.be pretty self absorbed to expect people to give up all that time and money to attend your destination wedding.

Redshoeblueshoe · 15/08/2023 23:43

Nothing