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How much would you pay to go to a destination wedding?

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Ohyasss · 15/08/2023 19:51

Average income, 4 people (2dcs, dh and I) We avoid summer hols and normally steal time around half term and a few days into term. Only one dc is in primary other is nursery. Invited to a wedding smack bang school hols (next yr)

how much would you pay?

im currently balking at the cost as it’s double what we spend on our naice summer (not school hols).

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Brefugee · 15/08/2023 19:52

Nothing. I would decline such an invitation.

PeopleAreWeird · 15/08/2023 19:53

Depends who was getting married

Depends if we could make a proper holiday out if it before and / or after

Depends on temperature- Could be to hot for the children

FionnulaTheCooler · 15/08/2023 19:53

It would depend if the destination was somewhere I actually wanted to go, and the relationship of the couple to me.

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Unmute · 15/08/2023 19:53

I wouldn't go to a destination wedding.

LongLiveGoblingKing · 15/08/2023 19:53

Nothing. People shouldn't have destination weddings unless they can afford to cover the travel and hotels for their guests.

momtoboys · 15/08/2023 19:53

Unless it were a close family member getting married, I would decline such an invitation.

Tukmgru · 15/08/2023 19:53

£0. They want us at their stupid destination wedding / crutch to hide their relationship problems then they can pay for us.

Berlinlover · 15/08/2023 19:54

Unless it was very close family I wouldn’t go.

ShadowPuppets · 15/08/2023 19:55

Pre kids I’d have happily spent our holiday budget (£4/5k?) on a destination wedding and tacked on our break after.

Now, with two kids in childcare? I wouldn’t go.

CuteOrangeElephant · 15/08/2023 19:55

I'm going to a wedding in the States on my own, as I just couldn't afford for DH and DD to come.

My friend is American and lives there though and came to my wedding in the UK.

2chocolateoranges · 15/08/2023 19:56

For me it would depend on who’s wedding and where the destination was. If it wasn’t a place I would want to go then i would decline.

A normal holiday abroad for us would cost £2000/2500 and £1000 spending money so wouldn’t go over this budget.

Globules · 15/08/2023 19:56

I'm with all the PPs

Floralnomad · 15/08/2023 19:56

£0 , unless it was my kids I wouldn’t go to a wedding abroad and neither of my children would go for a destination wedding .

Twosugarsandmilk · 15/08/2023 19:56

2k but only if I really wanted to go

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Ohyasss · 15/08/2023 19:57

Tukmgru · 15/08/2023 19:53

£0. They want us at their stupid destination wedding / crutch to hide their relationship problems then they can pay for us.

Oh that an interesting perspective (not snarky) but I was wondering too as they’ve barely known each other 8 months

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Ohyasss · 15/08/2023 19:59

I’m not mad for the destination, it’s got a bit of a Brits on tour vibe to it. For instance I was looking on tui (and I do like tui for a deal here and there) but a lot of the hotels were 2* and in the pics looked quite, well to put it nicely dated. They were coming in at best part of 3k too!

person is a friend, was close once upon a time but has drifted last few years

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AnnaMagnani · 15/08/2023 20:00

£0. Even for a close family member.

I haven't budgeted for it, I don't want to go to that destination, I don't have the money or time to waste my precious annual leave on this shit.

Maybe if they paid all my expenses. But otherwise it's a complete no.

PinkFootstool · 15/08/2023 20:01

Not a penny. I wouldn't be able to scrape money together for someone else's fancy wedding. Not even for my brother with whom I have a good relationship.

It's appalling to ask people to spend that kind of money IMO.

Tinkerbyebye · 15/08/2023 20:02

Nothing. I am invited to one next year, already declined it. I can’t afford it.

FionnulaTheCooler · 15/08/2023 20:03

Ohyasss · 15/08/2023 19:59

I’m not mad for the destination, it’s got a bit of a Brits on tour vibe to it. For instance I was looking on tui (and I do like tui for a deal here and there) but a lot of the hotels were 2* and in the pics looked quite, well to put it nicely dated. They were coming in at best part of 3k too!

person is a friend, was close once upon a time but has drifted last few years

I wouldn't bother then, on both counts. You don't want to go and I doubt they'll be that fussed either.

Toddlerteaplease · 15/08/2023 20:04

Unless it was my sister, I would decline.

Iwantmybed · 15/08/2023 20:05

I wouldn't go. It's really cheeky to assume people can afford to and want to go to a wedding abroad. They're expensive enough over here.

TheMousePipes · 15/08/2023 20:07

If it’s in the UK then OK. Otherwise nope.

Twoshoesnewshoes · 15/08/2023 20:07

Agree with pp’s
if it was on my holiday list then I’d spend my usual holiday budget and just make the wedding part of it.
otherwise. I’d skip it, and order a bottle of champagne to their room.

Kay286 · 15/08/2023 20:07

LongLiveGoblingKing · 15/08/2023 19:53

Nothing. People shouldn't have destination weddings unless they can afford to cover the travel and hotels for their guests.

What ?!! Slightly ridiculous comment , people should have whatever wedding they want ! And if thats a destination wedding that’s their choice … obviously with the expectation that not everyone will be able to afford to attend though.