Just setting the scene ...
My in laws live in a contemporary loft style apartment. Very good taste. Expensive high end designer clothes. They look a lot younger than they are.
Anyway, it transpires that in fact they are SO traditional.
Every morning she lays out the "designer" suit, shirt and tie that she has picked out for him to wear to work that day.
She cleans his shoes every night and leaves them by the door ready for work the next morning.
He works full time and she stays home and "runs the house". It is immaculate!
She cooks fantastic meals. He literally doesn't know how to cook ANYTHING.
He drives everywhere as it's the man's role. When I go to visit he tries to stand behind my car and see me in or out of a parking spot.
Now I've been brought up in a council house. My dad didn't work as he was unwell, but tried to do as much as he could around the house, so my mum had to work so we had enough money.
My upbringing is therefore not traditional and totally different to my husbands.
It hasn't gone down well with my in laws that my husband and I both work full time. I hate cooking. I don't iron his shirts so he does his own etc! If the loo needed a clean then either myself or my husband would do it!
I drive everywhere and am a confident driver. I learnt to drive in central London and would drive round Hyde Park Corner every day. I therefore laughed recently at the big dent in the back of his car as he'd reversed into a post!
We do not have men's and women's roles.
I play up to it and enjoy winding them up (not in jest) about it.
Seriously though, I really struggle with their mindset.