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My dh hasn’t paid the rent ffs

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RentNotPaid · 10/08/2023 09:33

Soo I’ve just had a call from our letting agent went to voicemail as I was on a call and my fucking husband hasn’t paid the rent for the last 2 months….

The bastard is at work and his phone has been switched off

I don’t have the money to pay it all - I did wonder why he had some extra money

We have separate accounts he pays rent etc I pay other bills it all works out fair

I am so bloody angry I daren’t phone the letting agent back and I’m off to check his emails 😡😡😡

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YourNameGoesHere · 10/08/2023 11:35

WannaBeRecluse · 10/08/2023 11:34

Chances are they have called before.

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Yes I'd be very surprised if this was the first phone call. If they normally deal with him which it seems like they do given he's had multiple emails and the OPs only had one then I'd wager they have tried to phone him at least once before now if not more than that.

Any word from him yet OP??

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RentNotPaid · 10/08/2023 11:35

@TallulahBetty I am very concerned about this to be honest they have both my email and phone number.

In my email which they haven’t replied to I have stated all correspondence must be communicated to both myself and Dh

I just wish this fucking meeting would end

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Busubaba · 10/08/2023 11:36

RentNotPaid · 10/08/2023 11:32

@WunWun I doubt it - he’s a lot older than me and with his recent health I don’t think he’d be able to be on his own

For lack of better word worships me and the kids, he’s always been a fantastic husband and dad we’ve had some ups and downs over the years like any normal couple but nothing like this has ever happened before, he’s always been the switched on one when it comes to money etc I’ve normally just let him take the lead

With that in mind then I hope you speak to him calmly and factually and not accusatory.

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Tinysoxx · 10/08/2023 11:37

Take a screenshot of them unread in his junk email folder for proof of a misunderstanding and miscommunication.

Flickersy · 10/08/2023 11:37

You need to calm down a bit OP.

This needs sorting and probably needs sorting today yes, but it doesn't need sorting right this minute.

Leave him a message to call you ASAP as soon as he is out of his meeting. Leave a message with the letting agents letting them know this is an error and asking them to call you ASAP.

Given the letting agents are calling you, it is very unlikely they are at this moment putting wheels in motion to get a section 8 order.

Mistakes happen. They know this. They will have dealt with this, and worse, before. They would rather speak to you and get the rent paid than go through the hassle of a section 8 order.

From the sounds of what you've said, this is likely to be a stupid oversight rather than anything sinister. So for the moment breathe, and wait to speak to you H and the agents.

PandaGrump · 10/08/2023 11:38

They aren’t going to issue a section 8 in the time between now and when your husband gets out the meeting. Let them know you have found all their emails in junk mail and weren’t received and that you are sure there is an admin error from your husband and you’ll get back to them by the end of the day.
find out first if your husband has the money and it’s been an oversight or bank error.

FloydPepper · 10/08/2023 11:38

PickledPurplePickle · 10/08/2023 11:23

Calm down - take a deep breathe - stop panicking and wait for your OH to come out of his meeting so that you can discuss it with him

This. I know it’s worrying but react to what you know, not what you think

maybe contact landlord to let them know you’re aware and on it. Keeping in communication is a good thing

dont make any panic payments. Speak to your husband, work out what’s happened, then you can rectify it. Don’t waste energybpanickng about what hasn’t happened.

you got this, it’ll be ok

CrackersCheeseAndWinePlease · 10/08/2023 11:39

Try not to panic just yet, it could be a simple mistake.
Speak to the landlord while you're waiting for DH to finish his meeting. I'd pay something now as then you technically won't be 2 months in arrears. The LL would surely rather you make arrangements to pay instead of faffing about getting you evicted.
See what DH has to say, if it's deliberate then you can go nuclear at him.
Hope you sort it

Niftyswiftie · 10/08/2023 11:40

The money must still be in his bills account then if he hadn't paid it so he can just pay it across after the meeting

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RentNotPaid · 10/08/2023 11:41

I’ve called again he’s still red on his teams according to the receptionist

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VanCleefArpels · 10/08/2023 11:41

If you pay enough to get you below the 2 months arrears mark the landlord cannot issue s.8 Notice. I would do that after you have spoken to DH as a sign, at the very least of goodwill to your landlord. However be aware that your LL could still issue s.21 eviction at any stage and for no reason (assuming you’ve been there over 6 months)

FloydPepper · 10/08/2023 11:42

And also OP, please try and ignore all the posters speculating on what’s happened, how your H is to blame, how he’s not seen it or done it deliberately.

you don’t know, so first off find the facts then react to them, not the other way round.

Flickersy · 10/08/2023 11:42

RentNotPaid · 10/08/2023 11:41

I’ve called again he’s still red on his teams according to the receptionist

Stop calling the office. You will only wind yourself up.

Leave him a voicemail or a message asking him to call you urgently, and wait.

slowsundays · 10/08/2023 11:43

Get below the two months rent barrier and they can't apply for Section 8. Send whatever you can scrape together as soon as you know Section 8 hasn't already been applied for and apologise as profusely as possible for the error.

FloydPepper · 10/08/2023 11:43

VanCleefArpels · 10/08/2023 11:41

If you pay enough to get you below the 2 months arrears mark the landlord cannot issue s.8 Notice. I would do that after you have spoken to DH as a sign, at the very least of goodwill to your landlord. However be aware that your LL could still issue s.21 eviction at any stage and for no reason (assuming you’ve been there over 6 months)

And how is that helpful to an already worried op who needs to calm down, not get more stressed!

HideTheCroissants · 10/08/2023 11:44

This COULD be a simple oversight. When DD was at uni DH and I paid her rent. Her landlord rang her to say she’d noticed her rent hadn’t been paid one month…. DD rang me and I rang my bank.. they said that a standing order is only set up for 12 months unless I renew it which I didn’t know as I’d never used SO (only DD) before. I restarted the DO and transferred the missing payment immediately and apologised to the LL who was fine about it.
As the emails went to junk OPs DH may be unaware the payments haven’t happened.
Hopefully the LL will be understanding in this case, especially if payments have, historically, always been made.
OP and her DH also need to add that email address to their “safe senders” list so they don’t go to junk in future.

PickledPurplePickle · 10/08/2023 11:44

You need to stop calling him - he will get the messages you have left when he is out of his meeting - you are just winding yourself up more

LoonyLois · 10/08/2023 11:44

Is there any chance you could go down to the lettings office and talk to them directly?

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RentNotPaid · 10/08/2023 11:44

I’ve sent £1000 to the letting agent and emailed them again (I hope this means we are less than 8 weeks in arrears and they can’t do the section 8)

My email basically said I’ve not been able to contact my husband but I will aim to have this fully resolved by tomorrow.

I don’t have a credit card that I could use my limits are too low even across them all.

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ChrisPPancake · 10/08/2023 11:46

If he was in hospital for the July payment and it's not paid by standing order I can see how that one may have been missed. You definitely need a conversation with him, but I don't think you need to keep calling until he responds - you've left messages, just wait for him to call you back. I'm aware how easy that is for me to say though when you need this fixed/explained NOW!

I guess one thing you need to do as a priority is ensure you flag the landlord's email address as not junk so you don't miss any further correspondence.

HakunaMatiłda · 10/08/2023 11:46

@RentNotPaid you don’t know for sure that you are in arrears. Your DH may have been paying and it’s a fuck up at the letting agents end.

Take a deep breath, and stop spiralling. You don’t have the full facts yet so don’t do anything hasty.

Trevorton · 10/08/2023 11:48

CardiganBardigan · 10/08/2023 11:35

I'm a landlord and use a letting agent. I imagine the section 8 email his just a boilerplate email they send off as standard when the two months arrears is triggered.

If this were my tenants and it was a genuine mistake, I'd much rather they just pay back the arrears and then carry on as normal. No way would I want the faff of doing an eviction, going to court for costs and having to find new tenants, etc.

Unless your landlord is a vindictive twat, they won't want the agg. Just call the agents, find out what's gone on and pay them as much as you can as soon as you can. It will be easily sorted with a conversation (as long as they're reasonable and not cunts).

Your potentially bigger problem is your DH deliberately not paying rent, which would be a massive WTF.

But I think you should give him the benefit of the doubt before going scorched earth. He hasn't read the emails because they went to junk, he's had two long hospital stays in a short space of time so that will have taken up most of his bandwidth, plus he's got a pay rise so his finances will be looking different.

I really empathise with that initial feeling of adrenaline and panic when you find out you're £3,000 in the hole. But hopefully by this afternoon it'll all be resolved.

This

Shitegeist · 10/08/2023 11:50

Im sure the letting agent is making out that you will be evicted and this is the worst thing in the world but they are paid to exaggerate these things to satisfy their clients. I’m sure the land lord will be more than understanding if it’s an oversight, especially if your husband has been ill. Unless he’s a complete cock. But even then evicting someone is not worth it if they’re going to pay the full rent in a few days. I think you are overly panicking

skinnytobe · 10/08/2023 11:50

OP

for what it's worth. My DP absolutely wouldn't notice. He checks his bank once every few months, where as I check mine daily. Granted I have a lot less money than him so have to watch carefully!

OsirisservesAnubis · 10/08/2023 11:53

RentNotPaid · 10/08/2023 11:44

I’ve sent £1000 to the letting agent and emailed them again (I hope this means we are less than 8 weeks in arrears and they can’t do the section 8)

My email basically said I’ve not been able to contact my husband but I will aim to have this fully resolved by tomorrow.

I don’t have a credit card that I could use my limits are too low even across them all.

Why have you done this?

It'll be so hard to get back if it turns out to be a mistake.

Yes, the landlord can apply for a section 8, but it's not an immediate eviction and becomes invalid once you go below the 8 weeks.

Stop panicking, have a cup of tea and wait for your husband to call so you can discuss it calmly.