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My dh hasn’t paid the rent ffs

836 replies

RentNotPaid · 10/08/2023 09:33

Soo I’ve just had a call from our letting agent went to voicemail as I was on a call and my fucking husband hasn’t paid the rent for the last 2 months….

The bastard is at work and his phone has been switched off

I don’t have the money to pay it all - I did wonder why he had some extra money

We have separate accounts he pays rent etc I pay other bills it all works out fair

I am so bloody angry I daren’t phone the letting agent back and I’m off to check his emails 😡😡😡

OP posts:
cracktheshutters · 11/08/2023 18:44

RentNotPaid · 10/08/2023 12:14

The bastard still hasn’t called me

Any update OP? Hope it all worked out ok

qualitychat · 11/08/2023 18:47

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Againstmachine · 11/08/2023 18:58

RentNotPaid · 10/08/2023 12:14

The bastard still hasn’t called me

You haven't come back to update us, he isn't the bastard here, the audacity of no updates 😂

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Harmonypus · 11/08/2023 19:00

I've read about half of the first page and I'm not going to read all 26 pages of replies just to see whether anyone else has suggested this, so I apologise in advance if this has already been said....

Why doesn't the OP suggest to their partner that they should open a joint account purely for paying the household bills?
Add up all the monthly bills, divide by whatever proportion each of you would normally pay, and pay your share into the joint account each month by standing order on pay day or the day after, and set up direct debits for all the bills to come out of that account. That way, you'll be able to see what's going in and out, and neither one of you would be exclusively responsible for any particular bill.

wayyour · 11/08/2023 19:04

OP hasn't returned since near the beginning of the thread. Doesn't look like she will...........

mimi1962 · 11/08/2023 19:04

I know earlier you have said there are no gambling problems but I'd be on the hunt for this. Compulsive gamblers can be very secretive and the first the family can know about it is when they can no longer keep the plates spinning.

I was married to a compulsive gambler and learned a little about it many years ago.

Waits for an update, and no I have not read the previous 26 pages.

Onestepbeyonnd · 11/08/2023 19:14

Don't leave us hanging ...what did the old man have to say?

Mittleme · 11/08/2023 19:14

which council is your that has to wait 2 years before they notify you . My council which is croydon will be giving you a 7 day deadline and court proceedings immediately after

BlastedIce · 11/08/2023 19:17

Mittleme · 11/08/2023 19:14

which council is your that has to wait 2 years before they notify you . My council which is croydon will be giving you a 7 day deadline and court proceedings immediately after

This is a private let, not local authority,

Mittleme · 11/08/2023 19:21

Indeed I try to check my junk folder every now and then due to these kind of issues It's bad and companies should know the possibility of tenant not receiving their emails such as can go to junk folder and the lettings agent should have called a few days after months rent was overdue .

andjustlikethat1 · 11/08/2023 19:23

I am going to let my imagination run wild here. He was having an affair or he has a gambling problem. He wasn't in the hospital he was away with his bit on the side and that is where the rent money has gone. I am sorry OP but you made me do it by not replying.

pollymere · 11/08/2023 19:24

This seems out of character OP. Any updates as to what happened?

Debini · 11/08/2023 19:28

No update? Hope your ok OP x

rainbowboymama · 11/08/2023 19:32

Wish I had the time to read all 26 pages…! Hope all is well OP, please let us know what happened!!

WanderlyWagonInWales · 11/08/2023 19:33

Any update op?

GreggingIt · 11/08/2023 19:34

Harmonypus · 11/08/2023 19:00

I've read about half of the first page and I'm not going to read all 26 pages of replies just to see whether anyone else has suggested this, so I apologise in advance if this has already been said....

Why doesn't the OP suggest to their partner that they should open a joint account purely for paying the household bills?
Add up all the monthly bills, divide by whatever proportion each of you would normally pay, and pay your share into the joint account each month by standing order on pay day or the day after, and set up direct debits for all the bills to come out of that account. That way, you'll be able to see what's going in and out, and neither one of you would be exclusively responsible for any particular bill.

💯

BlastedIce · 11/08/2023 19:36

andjustlikethat1 · 11/08/2023 19:23

I am going to let my imagination run wild here. He was having an affair or he has a gambling problem. He wasn't in the hospital he was away with his bit on the side and that is where the rent money has gone. I am sorry OP but you made me do it by not replying.

😂

Watfrordmummy · 11/08/2023 19:40

God I'm so invested.

It's like Mumsnet of old Confused

Confusedmeanderings · 11/08/2023 19:52

F

fullbloom87 · 11/08/2023 19:53

If you're having to rent there's no way your husband wouldn't know the rent hasn't been paid, only a wealthy person would think that. I think normal average person would definitely notice if over a thousand pounds haven't gone out.
Seems like he's burying his head Op

Mittleme · 11/08/2023 19:55

Yes mine is a private let too and I have to pay council tax separately to the Council .

AnnieSnap · 11/08/2023 19:55

Couple of deep breaths - clearly this is a tough situation, but most Landlords would just want to know you’re addressing the situation and wouldn’t look to eviction if you are. You and your DH have been together for a very long time and he has no history of this sort of thing. That, together with his two lengthy stays in hospital means you need to talk and figure things out 💐

Hibiscrubbed · 11/08/2023 19:56

Fake thread, surely?

DVL · 11/08/2023 19:57

Me and my OH have seperate accounts for personal money and both pay into a joint for bills (I pay £800 per month he pays £350 per week as he earns more). They are pretty much all set up as direct debits but we both have access if needed.

Might be worth having a talk about something like this so you both have your own money but not have to go through this worry again. Hope you got it sorted x

POWL01 · 11/08/2023 19:59

dontgobaconmyheart · 10/08/2023 09:56

Would anyone here honestly not notice that the rent or mortgage hadn't come out of their current account for one or even two successive months? How? Surely it's such a large amount it would be impossible to miss and surely it's the norm to regularly look at your finances.

Are you on the rental agreement OP? Why does it not come out by standing order? If you're on the agreement I would be rethinking your financial arrangement with him. I'd not have a careless (or even outright selfish DP) destroying my credit rating or risking my home and would want full accesses to household finances or would prefer to live alone.

I'd be interested to see what he has to say. Frankly I can't see on what planet he doesn't know, though he may well plead ignorance he has visibly had more spending money. I hope he's prepared to return anything he's bought and commit to getting it sorted but this would be a huge issue for me.

Actually I wouldn't notice, mortgage comes out of a savings account I don't use and rarely log into. I just pay mortgage money in there each month and assume it comes out 🤷‍♀️