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My dh hasn’t paid the rent ffs

836 replies

RentNotPaid · 10/08/2023 09:33

Soo I’ve just had a call from our letting agent went to voicemail as I was on a call and my fucking husband hasn’t paid the rent for the last 2 months….

The bastard is at work and his phone has been switched off

I don’t have the money to pay it all - I did wonder why he had some extra money

We have separate accounts he pays rent etc I pay other bills it all works out fair

I am so bloody angry I daren’t phone the letting agent back and I’m off to check his emails 😡😡😡

OP posts:
Luciansmum6 · 11/08/2023 08:17

What’s the latest op?

Dragonsandcats · 11/08/2023 08:21

I’m also placemarking!

Sueveneers · 11/08/2023 08:24

Dragonsandcats · 11/08/2023 08:21

I’m also placemarking!

That's what Watch this thread is for. You don't need to post to 'follow' a thread. It does away with needing to post just to placemark.

Interested in this thread?

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tensmum1964 · 11/08/2023 08:33

Dragonsandcats · 11/08/2023 08:21

I’m also placemarking!

Me too

Liz1tummypain · 11/08/2023 08:34

Wow! this has been tense. I think I finally know what it means when people talk about place marking. Please can we have an update?

PuddlesPityParty · 11/08/2023 08:45

BlastedIce · 11/08/2023 07:31

Or it was a simple admin error and it’s sorted now and she’s embarrassed about the drama she made?

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I think it’s this.

LoonyLois · 11/08/2023 09:01

Has he explained things?

CloverHilla · 11/08/2023 09:04

I hope you've resolved it now @RentNotPaid and got a good night's sleep after a stressful day.

Ambertonix · 11/08/2023 09:09

I came back this morning to see if the situation had been resolved. Hopefully it is all sorted now OP and you managed to get a good nights sleep.

user1492757084 · 11/08/2023 09:29

Maybe it was a geniune mix up or could he have been scammed?

user1492757084 · 11/08/2023 09:32

I hope you are not being scammed.
Make sure you go in person to the agent. You don't want to pay an entity that could be pretending to be your landlord.

Bekind90 · 11/08/2023 09:41

I have been here since page 2… we are now at page 23. I just want to know what happened 😂

BatheInTheLight · 11/08/2023 09:52

Ain't it great when people can't be arsed to put up an update!

MinnieTruck · 11/08/2023 09:52

Came onto MN this morning and remembered about this thread. I thought oh I wonder if there’s been an update as there’s so many more comments since I was last here. Nope. Just people begging for an update and still giving advice😂

This reminds me of the time where a male posted on the Relationships board about a friendship that his wife had with another male. He was suspicious as she’d stay over at his house. He also found inappropriate messages etc. He got great advice on here and said that he was about to confront his wife.

He never came back to update the thread so we never found out what happened. People were begging for updates for about 2 weeks😂 I can see the same thing happening here!

Flippingnora100 · 11/08/2023 10:03

I recommend setting up a joint account for bills. Work out your bills for the year in a spreadsheet. Bump it up a bit, divide that number by 12 and then put in half each every month. Then have all your bills go out of that account. That way you can both be on top of things at all times and know what has been paid, plus have the money available for all your bills.

Busubaba · 11/08/2023 10:14

I have tried to contact the OP this morning to get an update.

I've phoned her workplace 26 times and the receptionist keeps telling me that she's in a meeting.

TallulahBetty · 11/08/2023 10:15

Busubaba · 11/08/2023 10:14

I have tried to contact the OP this morning to get an update.

I've phoned her workplace 26 times and the receptionist keeps telling me that she's in a meeting.

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

BlastedIce · 11/08/2023 10:15

Busubaba · 11/08/2023 10:14

I have tried to contact the OP this morning to get an update.

I've phoned her workplace 26 times and the receptionist keeps telling me that she's in a meeting.

Surely she’s had time for a loo break? She could update whilst sitting on the loo!

BlastedIce · 11/08/2023 10:16

Flippingnora100 · 11/08/2023 10:03

I recommend setting up a joint account for bills. Work out your bills for the year in a spreadsheet. Bump it up a bit, divide that number by 12 and then put in half each every month. Then have all your bills go out of that account. That way you can both be on top of things at all times and know what has been paid, plus have the money available for all your bills.

Why half each?

BarbaraofSeville · 11/08/2023 10:17

It's OK, I'm on my round there right now. It doesn't matter that she's currently half way through doing Mrs Grimes' gall bladder surgery. MN needs to know right now what her DH has been doing with the unpaid rent money.

BlastedIce · 11/08/2023 10:17

BarbaraofSeville · 11/08/2023 10:17

It's OK, I'm on my round there right now. It doesn't matter that she's currently half way through doing Mrs Grimes' gall bladder surgery. MN needs to know right now what her DH has been doing with the unpaid rent money.

Why are you going? What’s the monkey butler doing?

BarbaraofSeville · 11/08/2023 10:18
Grin
CurlyhairedAssassin · 11/08/2023 10:33

I would be a bit more understanding if I were you considering his 2 recent hospital stays and the fact that his emails went to junk mail, and you also had one sent to YOUR junk mail that you hadn't read either.

There are things that you could both learn from this. A) that joint bills need to be paid from a joint bills account that you both see statements for and can keep an eye on. I think it's really daft the two of you each having a seperate bills account for joint bills.. You BOTH need to have oversight of what you're both financially jointly responsible for. After this is sorted I would open a new joint bills account, set up standing orders from both your own separate current accounts to cover what's going to go out of it each month and change the rent, council tax, utilities etc to come out of the new joint one. If you haven't already got onee open a joint savings account too, so you can both put something each month towards unexpected things like this which happen in future. I'd have a third joint savings one personally too, for things like holidays.

B) regularly check your junk email and mark things which shouldn't be in there as "not junk". I am really good with money but I learned this the hard way by having a store card payment reminder go to my junk and then it started accruing interest at a silly rate, something which I'd never let happen before but not paying had been an oversight as we'd been away on holiday.

C) why isn't the rent paid as a standing order anyway? It's a payment that HAS to be made so it doesn't make sense to have to remember to do it as a one off payment each month.

AdoraBell · 11/08/2023 10:35

Have you spoken to him yet?

Blanketpolicy · 11/08/2023 10:49

BarbaraofSeville · 11/08/2023 10:17

It's OK, I'm on my round there right now. It doesn't matter that she's currently half way through doing Mrs Grimes' gall bladder surgery. MN needs to know right now what her DH has been doing with the unpaid rent money.

You might need to bring your own seat, reception is very busy.

It is full of women waiting for op, some have brought their kids and they are a bit restless now, so if you can pop in and pick up a few muktipacks of pombears and fruit shoots it might help.