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My dh hasn’t paid the rent ffs

836 replies

RentNotPaid · 10/08/2023 09:33

Soo I’ve just had a call from our letting agent went to voicemail as I was on a call and my fucking husband hasn’t paid the rent for the last 2 months….

The bastard is at work and his phone has been switched off

I don’t have the money to pay it all - I did wonder why he had some extra money

We have separate accounts he pays rent etc I pay other bills it all works out fair

I am so bloody angry I daren’t phone the letting agent back and I’m off to check his emails 😡😡😡

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FiddleLeaf · 10/08/2023 16:58

Flickersy · 10/08/2023 16:52

As quick as possible is appropriate but as quick as possible isn't necessarily immediately, and although the emails from the agent required very prompt action, they didn't need immediate action.

It's also not on anyone to stop their partner tail spinning over something that doesn't merit tail spinning. It's up to the person concerned to manage their anxiety and reactions.

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You’re right, it’s not but when you’re with someone you care about then you take steps to help them.

BlastedIce · 10/08/2023 17:00

FiddleLeaf · 10/08/2023 16:58

You’re right, it’s not but when you’re with someone you care about then you take steps to help them.

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It doesn’t mean you don’t care if you don’t immediately respond! You’re busy, you’re working. OP knew he was in a long important meeting and therefore would be tied up. So much so he turned his phone off. If you care about someone you understand that they may be otherwise busy and unable to respond.

you sound extremely needy!

HiHoHiHoltsOffToWorkWeGo · 10/08/2023 17:03

RentNotPaid · 10/08/2023 11:19

If they apply for a section 8 I don’t think there is much I can do about it apart from cry

Rent is due on the 2nd of every month so we are 8 days over even if I pay £1400 we are still in arrears

This is so fucking stressful

To use Section 8 Ground 8, the LL would need to show that you are at least 2 months in arrears.

So long as you keep the arrears under 2 months they cannot use S8 Ground 8, but they could still use other eviction routes (e.g. S21)
https://england.shelter.org.uk/housing_advice/eviction/eviction_after_a_section_8_notice

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Section 8 eviction notice - Shelter England

Your landlord can give you a section 8 notice when they want to end your assured shorthold or assured tenancy, but you may be able to challenge it in court.

https://england.shelter.org.uk/housing_advice/eviction/eviction_after_a_section_8_notice

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Window82 · 10/08/2023 17:03

I hope all is ok OP that’s a bit worrying

Mummapenguin20 · 10/08/2023 17:06

Hope you have sorted this

Badbadbunny · 10/08/2023 17:10

Lentilweaver · 10/08/2023 16:26

This is exactly why we have joint accounts.

Yep, same here, we got a joint current account even long before we bought a house together. We used it for holidays etc. We agreed how much we'd put into it and then used it for all "Joint" spending, such as flights, hotels, car hire, even meals abroad, etc., and did the same when we bought our house, right from the first payments for solicitor's deposits, etc. Everything "joint" is paid through it so we both have control/visibility of the in's and out's, balances, etc., and either of us can pay bills as they arrive.

We still have our own personal current accounts, but realistically, they're not used for much at all these days.

Badbadbunny · 10/08/2023 17:13

BlastedIce · 10/08/2023 17:00

It doesn’t mean you don’t care if you don’t immediately respond! You’re busy, you’re working. OP knew he was in a long important meeting and therefore would be tied up. So much so he turned his phone off. If you care about someone you understand that they may be otherwise busy and unable to respond.

you sound extremely needy!

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But OP knows he's turned his phone on at some stage as messages have been read, yet he hasn't even made a quick response. It would take a few seconds to actually acknowledge the message and say he'll respond shortly, or even better explain the problem which would probably only take a couple of minutes.

Assuming he isn't a slave, he'll have had loo breaks, a lunch break, etc. This is a serious matter and the OH should take it seriously. It's not as if the OP was asking what he wants for his tea!

ConstitutionHill · 10/08/2023 17:16

I hope he's OK. Those 2 hospital stays could have been relevant.

goldensquaresofjoy · 10/08/2023 17:17

I'd be concerned about his wellbeing

BeverleyMacker · 10/08/2023 17:20

I'm seeing this on here time and time again FFS. Someone comes here, looking for advice,and gets given a bloody hard time. It's no wonder so many don't come back and update 😡😡😡

BeverleyMacker · 10/08/2023 17:20

BeverleyMacker · 10/08/2023 17:20

I'm seeing this on here time and time again FFS. Someone comes here, looking for advice,and gets given a bloody hard time. It's no wonder so many don't come back and update 😡😡😡

Half of you don't deserve to know 😡😡😡

BlastedIce · 10/08/2023 17:22

BeverleyMacker · 10/08/2023 17:20

I'm seeing this on here time and time again FFS. Someone comes here, looking for advice,and gets given a bloody hard time. It's no wonder so many don't come back and update 😡😡😡

She didn’t come here for advice she came to moan about her DH. What advice is she asking for?

BlastedIce · 10/08/2023 17:23

BeverleyMacker · 10/08/2023 17:20

Half of you don't deserve to know 😡😡😡

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Yeah not going to sleep tonight not knowing the outcome…..

No one deserves to know it’s an anonymous forum 😂

BeverleyMacker · 10/08/2023 17:27

BlastedIce · 10/08/2023 17:23

Yeah not going to sleep tonight not knowing the outcome…..

No one deserves to know it’s an anonymous forum 😂

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And I'm sure most wouldn't act like twits if it wasn't anonymous 🤦‍♀️

Busubaba · 10/08/2023 17:32

BeverleyMacker · 10/08/2023 17:20

I'm seeing this on here time and time again FFS. Someone comes here, looking for advice,and gets given a bloody hard time. It's no wonder so many don't come back and update 😡😡😡

What advice did she need?

She posted to state her situation.

No advice was asked for at all.

Alargeoneplease89 · 10/08/2023 17:40

Hope you got it sorted

Libraryloiterer · 10/08/2023 17:41

Evicting you would be more trouble than its worth if you've otherwise been good tenants.

toddlermom99 · 10/08/2023 17:42

What was his excuse OP?

Bejewel · 10/08/2023 17:46

Exactly this happened to me, except it was 4 months rent totalling £4,000. He was having an affair and had one foot out of the door so let the arrears keep rising. God knows what he was spending the money on.

I'm definitely not saying your DH is having an affair, just offering solidarity as I know how stressful it is being in your position.

I hope he sorts this mess out.

Who1what1me · 10/08/2023 17:55

Bejewel · 10/08/2023 17:46

Exactly this happened to me, except it was 4 months rent totalling £4,000. He was having an affair and had one foot out of the door so let the arrears keep rising. God knows what he was spending the money on.

I'm definitely not saying your DH is having an affair, just offering solidarity as I know how stressful it is being in your position.

I hope he sorts this mess out.

What a wanker.

@RentNotPaid I hope you got this sorted and it's a error rather than a DH dirty, lying, shagging arsehole moment.

Sooze2023 · 10/08/2023 17:55

Proudgypsy · 10/08/2023 09:58

Why are people suggesting interrupting a work meeting. I'd be really annoyed if someone called my job and it wasn't an emergency.

What difference does it make if she talks to him right now Vs after the meeting? None at all.

Yep. This would be hysteria.

Rosscameasdoody · 10/08/2023 18:19

There was a thread running recently about sharing finances after marriage and the majority of posters were advocating for separate bank accounts. This thread is a lesson in why it’s not always a good idea. Joint account for bills and expenses so you both have access for transparency.

ladeluge · 10/08/2023 18:20

I think OP has gone out to buy some mushrooms.

almostoverthehill · 10/08/2023 18:21

Intrigued as to what the outcome was ?

BlastedIce · 10/08/2023 18:22

ladeluge · 10/08/2023 18:20

I think OP has gone out to buy some mushrooms.

😂😂