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My dh hasn’t paid the rent ffs

836 replies

RentNotPaid · 10/08/2023 09:33

Soo I’ve just had a call from our letting agent went to voicemail as I was on a call and my fucking husband hasn’t paid the rent for the last 2 months….

The bastard is at work and his phone has been switched off

I don’t have the money to pay it all - I did wonder why he had some extra money

We have separate accounts he pays rent etc I pay other bills it all works out fair

I am so bloody angry I daren’t phone the letting agent back and I’m off to check his emails 😡😡😡

OP posts:
BlastedIce · 10/08/2023 15:07

Namechangedforthis25 · 10/08/2023 15:04

I really hate it when I’m totally invested and looking for minute to minute updates but the OP don’t come back to update

note to self: do your work!

Yeah I mean if OP is at work, she can nip to the loo and update us while she’s sitting for a wee!
😃

Neonyellowfish · 10/08/2023 15:10

Hopefully he can pay it all when you speak to him.

1992H · 10/08/2023 15:10

I hope it’s been resolved now and you’ve had an explanation

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goldensquaresofjoy · 10/08/2023 15:10

Best of luck op

OnlineExxxcitement · 10/08/2023 15:14

Ugh , I'm so invested.

ChristmasCrumpet · 10/08/2023 15:16

After a morning of posting every few minutes, DH has definitely come out of his meeting and OP has been silent for 3hrs.

Something's up. She'd have been on here laughing about the cock up by now.

HorseyMel · 10/08/2023 15:18

ChristmasCrumpet · 10/08/2023 15:16

After a morning of posting every few minutes, DH has definitely come out of his meeting and OP has been silent for 3hrs.

Something's up. She'd have been on here laughing about the cock up by now.

She's had her fun with you and moved on. Did you enjoy being her plaything?

Naunet · 10/08/2023 15:18

I love how people were having a go at op for bothering her husband at work, but now they’re moaning that OP hasn’t updated fast enough - maybe she’s working too?! If two months unpaid rent is not a good enough reason to interrupt her husbands work, then updating you isn’t a good enough reason for OP to interrupt her own work!!

saffronsoup · 10/08/2023 15:24

Kazzyhoward · 10/08/2023 14:50

I've worked for 40 years! In all that time, I've always been able to have a loo break within a five hour period! No one is going to stop him texting a message whilst sat on the loo!

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We only know he knew about the message for ten minutes. Dealing with this situation and all it entails would likely take a n hour or more. That is great where you had a job that at any moment you could leave for as long as you needed to deal with personal situations. Many of us do not have those jobs. And OP said he was in a major meeting - most people can't just leave major meetings to deal with personal situations - they are paid to be at the meeting.

This isn't a text on the loo situation. This is a raging angry name calling spouse who feels DH has intentionally put them at imminent risk of eviction and who is in a panic and needs papaerwork and access to bank accounts and conversations with landlords etc. This is multiple conversations with actions needed.

Even if you had a flexible job, surely you can' understand that not everyone does and that there are many reasons other than disrespect and ghosting as to why someone hasn't been on their phone or able to get in touch to deal with an emotionally charge and complex personal situation during a major meeting.

And I don't live on my phone, if my husband expected that I am always on my phone and that I am required to respond immediately when he contacts me no matter what I am doing or else I am disrespecting him - I also wouldn't be okay with that.

MadeForThis · 10/08/2023 15:25

Hopefully he has text by now.

LostThestral · 10/08/2023 15:28

beginning to think this is one of those annoying threads where we never find out the answer. Hopefully it's because the answer is it was just a boring mistake

youwouldthink · 10/08/2023 15:30

I set up a monthly standing order for DD this time last year for uni but it stopped this month....apparently it had to have an end date so had to reset it again for another 2 years. Hopefully something like this has happened.

surreygirl1987 · 10/08/2023 15:34

Surely an error?!

Oatycookies · 10/08/2023 15:36

People say having Seperate accounts is safer but Ironically this is one reason why shared accounts are actually a good thing in a marriage. It should be a partnership so if one forgets to pay a bill or doesn’t notice a standing order didn’t go through properly, the other will notice and sort it out . And both can easily see what’s going on with the others spending if it seems particularly reckless one month.

there’s another thread on here recently about a woman with a high earner fiancé who has made clear she won’t have shared access to his accounts when they get married even when she’s on maternity. Most of us are telling her it’s a bad idea.

pontipinemum · 10/08/2023 15:39

Did he call back?

Ted10 · 10/08/2023 15:39

RentNotPaid · 10/08/2023 11:44

I’ve sent £1000 to the letting agent and emailed them again (I hope this means we are less than 8 weeks in arrears and they can’t do the section 8)

My email basically said I’ve not been able to contact my husband but I will aim to have this fully resolved by tomorrow.

I don’t have a credit card that I could use my limits are too low even across them all.

I was looking for a post like this . Yes paying what you have takes you out of the 2 months arrears. .meaning they can't do section 8. Just get it paid ASAP. I hope you manage to sort it.

Ontobetterthings · 10/08/2023 15:41

What happened op? Was it an oversight? Hope everything is OK 👍

FedUpMumof10YO · 10/08/2023 15:45

Please update. I am now invested in the outcome.

whitewinefriday · 10/08/2023 15:48

This is all a bit pointless now, without an update from the OP

readbooksdrinktea · 10/08/2023 15:49

HorseyMel · 10/08/2023 15:18

She's had her fun with you and moved on. Did you enjoy being her plaything?

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I hate when I get pulled in.

Bekind90 · 10/08/2023 15:49

I am so invested in this 😂 waiting patiently for an update.

Pebbledashery · 10/08/2023 15:50

Bekind90 · 10/08/2023 15:49

I am so invested in this 😂 waiting patiently for an update.

OMG Me too -

OP has either killed her husband or it's a misunderstanding.

One or the other but I am desperate for an update!

Fiddlerdragon · 10/08/2023 15:52

Pm for update of his excuse 👀

FiddleLeaf · 10/08/2023 15:53

Custardslices · 10/08/2023 12:37

I think it's unfair to pester him whilst he's at work.

Call in his lunch break. You don't know what's gone wrong yet.

Pester 🤣

Honestly, some women on this board treat men like they’re gods. We mustn’t bother the men when they’re busy with our silly little needs… like a roof over our heads.

Flickersy · 10/08/2023 15:56

Pebbledashery · 10/08/2023 15:50

OMG Me too -

OP has either killed her husband or it's a misunderstanding.

One or the other but I am desperate for an update!

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Or OPs fallen for a scam... Might explain why all the emails were in Junk.

But it could be anything from forgetfulness to a fuck up to a scam to deliberate lack of payment, the only one who knows is OP and she's not telling!