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My dh hasn’t paid the rent ffs

836 replies

RentNotPaid · 10/08/2023 09:33

Soo I’ve just had a call from our letting agent went to voicemail as I was on a call and my fucking husband hasn’t paid the rent for the last 2 months….

The bastard is at work and his phone has been switched off

I don’t have the money to pay it all - I did wonder why he had some extra money

We have separate accounts he pays rent etc I pay other bills it all works out fair

I am so bloody angry I daren’t phone the letting agent back and I’m off to check his emails 😡😡😡

OP posts:
CoffeandTiaMaria · 10/08/2023 12:16

RentNotPaid · 10/08/2023 12:14

The bastard still hasn’t called me

Maybe he’s on the phone to the letting agent, sorting this out?

WunWun · 10/08/2023 12:18

MissJoGrant · 10/08/2023 12:14

No it isn't. Capital letters don't make you right. There could be many innocent reasons (as outlined above by PP) or nefarious ones. It's impossible to tell at this point.

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I was using capital letters to convey how extremely unlikely I feel it is that he hasn't noticed there is an extra £3000 in his account. I think that's fairly obvious and also obvious that I didn't use them as 'proof that I was right' 🙄

WunWun · 10/08/2023 12:19

I would be calling him again tbh.

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userxx · 10/08/2023 12:19

Surely its got to be an error, why would he not pay knowing you will be kicked out.

readbooksdrinktea · 10/08/2023 12:22

I get you panicking, OP. I'd absolutely feel the same re: rent. Hope your husband calls you back soon, and it's sorted.

TakeNoNoticeoftheNoise · 10/08/2023 12:23

Former ARLA qualified letting agent here.

You did the right thing paying what you could. If it's their mistake and you've overpaid you simply deduct from next rent. No stress and easy. It takes you under the 8weeks rent overdue and no legal action can be started. Even if it could be started (which it can't) it is a very long and drawn out process, you won't be evicted today,.

By far the biggest problem is your DH. It sounds like he knows he did wrong and is avoiding you. What has he spent the money on? Why would he deceive? This is a deal-breaker for me unless there is a valid reason.

He has to speak to you eventually. I know it's easy for me to say but try and remove yourself from the stress it will do you no good. Don't keep ringing his work you'll sound like a crazy. Wait for him to call. Call the letting agent if you haven't already and speak to them. They will appreciate knowing the real situation.

Good luck!

readbooksdrinktea · 10/08/2023 12:24

ssd · 10/08/2023 12:15

Well I'm a worrier and what with him being in hospital twice recently,being a lot older than you and forgetting to pay the rent twice, I'd be worrying about his memory.

Yes, I thought this as well. Really hope OP gets some answers soon.

ukgot2pot · 10/08/2023 12:25

You need to calm down. Period. Stop calling your DH and let him process this. Yes, you need to talk to him but he might be busy. Just calm down - go for a walk or have a brew.

NOBODY is going to evict you. The hassle it would take for a landlord to even issue an eviction and especially when you've been good paying tenants for so long is highly highly unlikely. You shouldn't have sent anything.

Wait until your DH contacts you. It will get sorted out soon enough.

MissJoGrant · 10/08/2023 12:26

WunWun · 10/08/2023 12:18

I was using capital letters to convey how extremely unlikely I feel it is that he hasn't noticed there is an extra £3000 in his account. I think that's fairly obvious and also obvious that I didn't use them as 'proof that I was right' 🙄

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If the 3k is in his bills account (which it should be according to OP) then it's not "EXTREMELY likely" that he knows the rent's in arrears. Let's wait and see instead of jumping to conclusions.

WunWun · 10/08/2023 12:27

Unless he doesn't have the money. I think the OP is quite within her rights to be calling him/panicking.

WunWun · 10/08/2023 12:29

I'm not saying it's not possible it's an oversight or whatever. I just think this is fucking panic worthy/phone call making stuff.

If it is an oversight I would be pretty livid.

Make sure you have access to the bills account in future OP.

Blanketpolicy · 10/08/2023 12:30

I agree with the posters who say relax until you know the story.

With no priors, and the "proof" of unread junk mail it is most likely just be an admin oversight and he is busy at work and can't read messages/reply yet. It is not his "fault" you upset because are overreacting so try to calm down when there is nothing to worry about so far.

IhearyouClemFandango · 10/08/2023 12:36

Honestly, I get this is worrying but you are going way OTT and seem to be getting egged on a little. Just take a breather. You have ignored all advice to hold fire and tell the agent that you will fact find and come back to them. Why jump to assume your husband is the one in the wrong?

Custardslices · 10/08/2023 12:37

I think it's unfair to pester him whilst he's at work.

Call in his lunch break. You don't know what's gone wrong yet.

WunWun · 10/08/2023 12:38

I think it's perfectly fair to call your husband when he's at work when he's put you at risk of homelessness.

Soverymuchfruit · 10/08/2023 12:40

Happened to me once. Paid rent by standing order. Got called by landlord to say it hadn't come through that month. Logged into online bank and the standing order had just vanished. Never knew why, probably just a computer glitch. Anyway I apologised and reinstated it and we all forgot about it. Hope it's something similar for you.

FloydPepper · 10/08/2023 12:40

RentNotPaid · 10/08/2023 12:14

The bastard still hasn’t called me

I assume he’s investigating so he can speak to you and explain what’s happened rather than call and then have to go and look

dont panic

BBno4 · 10/08/2023 12:41

Even of his on the phone he can send a WhatsApp to keep OP updated.

I would message him, answer your phone or I'm coming to your work.

BlastedIce · 10/08/2023 12:42

WunWun · 10/08/2023 12:38

I think it's perfectly fair to call your husband when he's at work when he's put you at risk of homelessness.

I don’t think the risk would be exacerbated if OP waited for lunch time. Do you?

Caterina99 · 10/08/2023 12:42

I definitely know people who would do this and not notice! Some people are just a lot less on top of their finances than others.

2 x 2 week hospital stays is presumably pretty disruptive to life and routine too. As a landlord if I phoned to query non payment with previously excellent tenants and they were apologetic and explained there’d been health issues and they had no idea they hadn’t paid then I wouldn’t be looking to evict them by any means!

FloydPepper · 10/08/2023 12:42

WunWun · 10/08/2023 12:38

I think it's perfectly fair to call your husband when he's at work when he's put you at risk of homelessness.

Posts like this winding the op up are unhelpful. Are you doing it for fun?

IHateLegDay · 10/08/2023 12:43

Agree with PP.
tell him to call you or you'll be at his work to speak to him.

I understand it slipping your mind and paying it late by accident but not paying for 2 whole months doesn't seem like an oversight on his part.

WunWun · 10/08/2023 12:44

BlastedIce · 10/08/2023 12:42

I don’t think the risk would be exacerbated if OP waited for lunch time. Do you?

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It's not even about the risk is it? I want to know what the fuck he was doing about it and why he put us in that position. I certainly wouldn't be waiting like a good girl until lunch time when someone was messing around with life in that way, because I'm not a doormat.

thedancingbear · 10/08/2023 12:45

FloydPepper · 10/08/2023 12:42

Posts like this winding the op up are unhelpful. Are you doing it for fun?

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Yes, they are. Winding people up on MN is how some people get their kicks. Takes all sorts, I suppose, but it's really not fair on the OP for her to be used like that.

Custardslices · 10/08/2023 12:45

WunWun · 10/08/2023 12:38

I think it's perfectly fair to call your husband when he's at work when he's put you at risk of homelessness.

Why are you encouraging the OP?