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I need somebody to edit a read only pdf!

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NavyBlue2023 · 02/08/2023 09:51

Please no bashing I feel terrible enough.
My partner and me have been very on and off for the last 4 years of our relationship if you can call it that, sometimes hes gone months at a time and I dont hear anything from him.
3 years ago I slept with somebody else during a 5 month break, I never told him because he would say this is cheating. He has now decided he wants us to get back together properly move home and start again on the condition I do a lie detector test that says I have never slept with anybody else in the 12 years we have been together.
The pdf is read only and cannot be edited without special software. Obviously I dont want him finding out it was a mistake and I fully regret it but I'm not going to pass the test.
Where could I get the pdf edited? I will of course pay for the time of the person doing it.
I know this is really terrible of me but I want nothing more than us to work, no good will come of him finding out.

OP posts:
stayathomer · 02/08/2023 09:53

Sorry op but if he needs you to do a lie detector does that not tell you something? Surely if you have no trust there’s nothing?

Missingpup · 02/08/2023 10:03

I can’t imagine living like this

engaging in adult relationships like this

unfathomable

ErrolTheDragon · 02/08/2023 10:08

He has now decided ...

Has he, now? Do you really want to continue this on-off relationship?

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Beenhereforever1978 · 02/08/2023 10:08

No good will come from any of it.

You say you've been together 12 years? How old are you both?

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NavyBlue2023 · 02/08/2023 10:10

I'm 28, I have already done 2 this year and passed because I have never slept with anybody during our relationship but these aren't good enough.
I know it's really bad but dont want to throw it all away over a silly mistake

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AtomicBlondeRose · 02/08/2023 10:11

Lie detectors are bollocks anyway - why do you think we don’t use them in the UK legal system? If they worked that would solve a LOT of problems.

But the whole situation is fucked up. This guy isn’t worth it. He sounds like a shit boyfriend anyway and how fucking dare he disappear for months at a time and ask you to take a lie detector? You know he’s fucking around during those months for sure. Ditch the guy. Forget the PDF.

beezles2099 · 02/08/2023 10:11

This is not a relationship with good prospects but you know that.

If you are determined to go ahead then say you will only do it if he does it as well. You may find he agrees to drop the demand.

CurlyTandtheTangles · 02/08/2023 10:12

Tell him to fuck off.

He treats you badly. Cut him out of your life, get yourself feeling good about you.

Was he celibate during all this time? Cos it sounds like it's all his way...

AtomicBlondeRose · 02/08/2023 10:12

Oh god just read the update. @NavyBlue2023 he’s an abusive dickhead and will never change. You have my permission to swan off into the sunset leaving him for dust and to never contact him again.

recklessgran · 02/08/2023 10:13

Run OP. FGS run for the hills. It can only get worse. Why on earth are you even agreeing to this? Lie detector tests - Jesus.

ErrolTheDragon · 02/08/2023 10:15

So you were only 16 when you started a relationship with this bloke? How old was he then?

You're still young, don't waste any more of your life on him.

BillaBongGirl · 02/08/2023 10:17

That would be a hell no from me too.
If he can’t handle the truth, then that’s on him.
If you’re afraid to tell him the truth, then you’re in an abusive relationship.
The fact he’s demanding lie detector tests would indicate the latter and have me running for the hills.

JaukiVexnoydi · 02/08/2023 10:26

A relationship with someone who wants you to do a lie detector test is not a good relationship. Editing the pdf will not change his personality of give you a good and healthy relationship with him.

There is software that can edit pdfs but the pdf software will record that the edit has been made. He will know that it was edited, but that is irrelevant.

The truth is - your relationship has been on/off for years and neither of you has been very committed to each other. During one of the "off" times you explored other options. Maybe he did too, who knows.

Lying about that, and trying to cover up the tracks of that lying, is not a healthy way for you to deal with that truth. Demanding that you "kept yourself for him" while he was gone, and that you take a lie detector test to prove yourself, is a really nasty and unhealthy attitude from him.

The whole relationship is doomed anyway. Be kind to yourself and walk away.

Missingpup · 02/08/2023 10:32

Please please please say that no children are caught up in this shitshow

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NavyBlue2023 · 02/08/2023 10:32

Thank you for all your replies. Yes he is adamant he didnt see anybody else and will take a test aswell, dont know what to do I know its unhealthy, just cant make that permanent break

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Thegrumpycup · 02/08/2023 10:34

NavyBlue2023 · 02/08/2023 10:10

I'm 28, I have already done 2 this year and passed because I have never slept with anybody during our relationship but these aren't good enough.
I know it's really bad but dont want to throw it all away over a silly mistake

Your ex is a twat. Why do you need to keep doing lie detector tests?! Does he do them as well?! How many people has he been shagging on the side?!

SoupDragon · 02/08/2023 10:36

just end the relationship!

He wants you to take a lie detector test, you want to fake the results... that should tell you everything you need to know.

Tell him about the time you had sex with someone when you were on a break and take it from there. I mean, it's fucked up to want a lie detector test (unless there is good reason) but if you can't be honest what is the point of the relationship?

Igmum · 02/08/2023 10:36

Your 'D'P vanishes for months, issues orders for when the relationship will start and end and makes you do lie detector tests? Sorry OP but you are worth way more than this paranoid control freak. Please leave him

Beenhereforever1978 · 02/08/2023 10:36

I'm really sorry, I can't think of a kinder way to put this: is your ex/partner not very bright and/or American?

Lie detector tests are the sort of nonsense you'd expect on a TV show.

hairyunicorn · 02/08/2023 10:37

Use Adobe acrobat pro to edit PDF's. You can sign up for a 7 day free trial.
Alt. find someone on peopleperhour.

it is very easy to change a PDF, don't pay too much. good luck x

JaukiVexnoydi · 02/08/2023 10:37

Missingpup · 02/08/2023 10:32

Please please please say that no children are caught up in this shitshow

The same OP will be back here on MN in 5 years time asking for advice because of being trapped in an abusive relationship and with 2 young kids feeling totally unable to leave. And once again the main impulse will be to say "but why on earth did you choose to reproduce with such an awful person in the first place" but by then it will be too late.

Olika · 02/08/2023 10:39

Please rethink this relationship. This is not healthy.

TragicMuse · 02/08/2023 10:52

NavyBlue2023 · 02/08/2023 10:32

Thank you for all your replies. Yes he is adamant he didnt see anybody else and will take a test aswell, dont know what to do I know its unhealthy, just cant make that permanent break

Do you appreciate that his insistence that you take a lie detector test is utterly absurd?

Lie detector tests are entirely unreliable nonsense. You probably can pass it. But even if you do he'll find some other bollocks to control you with. You do know that, right?

You're 28. You have a whole life to live yet. Years and years. Don't you want someone you can rely on? Someone who trusts you and who you can trust? Someone who brings joy and love to Your life? Someone that doesn't fill you with uncertainty or make ridiculous demands?

You deserve so much better than a mistrustful controlling tosspot such as this.

OhComeOnFFS · 02/08/2023 10:53

How long does he think he has to be away for before you are free to sleep with someone else?

Upsizer · 02/08/2023 10:59

Please call Womens Aid and talk to someone. You need to see this abusive relationship for what it is. You are worth more than this. Talk to someone please.

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